Have you ever had a stalker?

[DisneyPhD]

Something strange just happened. I went out on my front porch and there was a gift bag hanging on the door. In it was 2 fake roses and a note. The note was not addressed to me, but someone I can’t figure out the name (it seems like initial or and acronym or something.) It was a love note and said something about the persons birthday tomorrow (not mine or anyone I know) and thank your Pa for having you…….. All in all rather odd.

It transported me back to H.S. when I had a stalker. Just a guy that I used to work with at a grocery store who always asked me out but knew I wasn’t interested in him. I made that clear, but was nice to him. Too nice. (looking back). Once I started dating someone else he stopped being so obvious, but still called my house, followed me and was around a lot. Wanted to be friends.

After I got married and moved out of the house my mom and dad got caller I.D because the calls keep coming. He still drove by my parents house.

I was telling a friend the strange tail and she mentioned her “stalker” in college. I started thinking about it and the fact that this type of thing happened to a number of women I knew.

I started thinking of how common it was, and thought I would ask how many other people had stories that were similar.

More then likely the bag and flowers are a mistake, but the whole thing rather weirds me out and I am bit unnerved by it. The note said something like I can’t wait to see you tomorrow at 11;00. DH will be at work, and I do not plan on being around to find out. Still a little freaked they were on my pourch. I asked some neighboors, I don't think it was ment for anyone on this street (it is rather small street.) Something about the note and hand writting is familiar, but I can't place it.

 

[Cosmic Girl]

scary!!!!!

 

[mtblujeans]

 

[Maleficent13]

Yes; my ex-h and I had a stalker...she actually followed us across the country when we married and moved. Not fun.

 

[GoofieRuthie]

I had a cyber stalker. Several years ago I used to frequent a chat room on AOL. A young guy IMed me and I was friendly with him at first. Then he started wanting to talk dirty. I told him that I wasn't interested. After that he started coming in the room calling me names and would IM other people and tell them not to talk to me and so on. At first I just laughed it off. Eventually he got nastier and even started IMing and emailing my husband making things up. I had told my husband about it all from the beginning so he knew what was going on. I put him on block but he kept changing his screen names. It wouldn't take long to figure out who it was and I'd block him again. I started logging the chatroom and IMs. Then one day he emailed me and told me to watch my back that night. That was the final straw. I called AOL and told my story. The guy was very impressed at how I had handled situation. I had to forward it all to them. His parents ended up losing their account because of it.

 

[DisneyPhD]

I had a cyber stalker. Several years ago I used to frequent a chat room on AOL. A young guy IMed me and I was friendly with him at first. Then he started wanting to talk dirty. I told him that I wasn't interested. After that he started coming in the room calling me names and would IM other people and tell them not to talk to me and so on. At first I just laughed it off. Eventually he got nastier and even started IMing and emailing my husband making things up. I had told my husband about it all from the beginning so he knew what was going on. I put him on block but he kept changing his screen names. It wouldn't take long to figure out who it was and I'd block him again. I started logging the chatroom and IMs. Then one day he emailed me and told me to watch my back that night. That was the final straw. I called AOL and told my story. The guy was very impressed at how I had handled situation. I had to forward it all to them. His parents ended up losing their account because of it.

Wow! What a story. How stressful for you. (even in cyber space.)

I have to admit if the note was adressed to Disney PhD or something like that I think I might of flipped! It sounds like you delt with that the right way.

 

[suzannen]

I had a stalker in my early 20s when I was a new SAHM. I began to receive obscene phone calls day and night. He would describe on the answering machine what I had been wearing that day and where I had gone with my newborn baby. I became afraid to answer the phone or terrifed to leave the apartment by myself. It went on for several months before the police finally got him. He had been calling several other women in our area and with the help of one woman, they set up a sting to meet him. It turned out he was a cop who was moonlighting and helping with the security of our apartment complex! It's a truly frightening thing to have happen to you.

 

[Tantor]

Yes, when I was in my late 20's and living in an apartment. It was an ex of mine. Very frightening. That's why when my DD was getting those notes on her backpack I was reliving it all over again.

 

[DisneyPhD]

Susan YIKES!

Ok, Mstery seems to be sloved.

I left my front door open, with the all weather door locked. (so I could see the front poruch.) with the bag on the door. Some guy in a old car and looking a bit scruffy knocked on the door. I never opened the door, but talked to him through it.

He said he was sorry and left it at the wrong house. When his lady friend yelled at him for forgetting her birthday and it looks like they went driving to find it. He was very appolgetic, said he hoped he hadn't bothered me.

I admited I found it strange, but figured it was a mistake and left it out so who ever left it would see it was the wrong house. Still I don't know how he messed it up, it wasn't anyone on our street.

Oh well, I feel better.

If it wasn't for the stalker flash backs, it wouldn't have bothered me.

 

[luckywife]

I had, what I consider now to be a stalker, but at the time I didn't really think that's what was going on.

This was a girl that grew up in my neighborhood so she actually started messing with me when we were in our early teens. She would come to my house, even when she knew I wasn't home, and would sit on the front porch for HOURS waiting for me to come home. I felt bad for her at first so I tried to be nice but the nicer I was, the worse she acted. She would call my house all hours of the day and night, would record me yelling at her in the phone and then would call my friends and play the recordings to them.

Finally she moved away to another state so I didn't hear from her for a few years. But, eventually she started sending me letters in the mail, calling me on the phone constantly and either just hanging up when I would answer or would just sit on the phone waiting for me to get mad and yell at her. I was about 16 or 17 when all of this was going on so finally my mom contacted our local police (again) and they basically told us all they could do was call her at home and warn her to leave me alone but not much else could be done since she was in another state.

She left me alone for a while after that but even after I got married she somehow tracked me down and started sending weird junk mail to my house. One of the most off-the-wall things she ever did to me was send me pictures of her husband-NUDE! Thankfully, I haven't heard from the loon in a LONG time!

 

[Serena]

Wow, those are scary.
I had one but it was more worth Jerry Springer than actually scary. Until it was late at night and I started wondering what would happen if he totally lost it.

My daughter had someone that would watch her cut grass. The last time I saw him I was sitting on my porch watching my daughter cut grass. I had my h's gun in my hand on my lap when he pulled up. He left quickly.

 

[Chicago526]

No, thank heaven, never had a stalker (or if I did, they were so good at it that I never noticed!). Well, my dog follows me everywhere, including into the bathroom if I'm not fast enough, does that count?

Seriously, these are some scary stories!

 

[budbeerlady]

Been there and done that! I was still in high school, very little can scare me after that, its like living a Stephen King book. You never knew when he would pop out. I am a fanatic about locking the house doors and outside lights on at night. DD doesnt play in the yard with out me outside watching her, I keep thinking scarey stalker boy will still walk into my life at any minute. You can never be too careful or safe. I dont take it to paranoid levels but common sense things you should do anyway.

 

[llij]

Wow, those are some scary stalker stories! I've never been stalked, but my husband's cousin was stalked by her ex-fiance. He ended up killing her and himself. It was such a terrible time for my dh's family and I will never forget it. What made it worse was after her death, the fiance's family blamed her for him killing her and himself. They started to stalk my husband's aunt and uncle and giving them a hard time. It was unbelievable and thankfully it ended after awhile.

DisneyPhD, glad to hear that it was an honest mistake and it all worked out. What you went through would have brought back uncomfortable memories for me as well.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Nope, I've never had a stalker. Guess I'm unloved. I am unable to go to the bathroom in peace and usually have a kitten following me, if not two and sometimes a cat or 2. The dogs usually leave me alone.

Glad your mystery was solved. How strange!

 

[BelleMcNally]

Yes. I waitressed in high school, and this man starting coming into the restaurant where I worked and sitting at a table for hours. He would leave me poems and gifts on the table when he left. I tried to be nice to him at first, even though he really scared me--but I just figured he was lonely and I should be nice. Big mistake. He ended up finding out where I went to school and would sit outside of the school property waiting for me to come out.

It all came to a head when one day, I was sitting in class, and the principal came and asked me to come with him. I had to go sit in his office because the guy had called the school saying he was coming in to get me--the police were called and they took him away. I was terrified--both that he might hurt me or that he might get mad when he couldn't find me and hurt someone else.

The police showed my dad the huge package he was planning on giving me--I never saw it, but whatever was in it made my dad go stone white.

Now I'm getting creeped out just thinking about it!

 

[agnes!]

llij -

Oh how awful for your extended family.

Unfortunately, I guess with the ex-fiance the apple didn't fall too far from the tree...thank goodness there were no further tragedies for everyone concerned.

agnes!

 

[krcit]

Yikes, there are some real wackos out there, huh?

I had 2 situations happen to me in my younger days. One was an inmate from Rikers Island I don't know how he knew about me, I was a receptionist at a union and I think maybe one of his friends told him about me b/c he called my office and knew ALL about me, my name, age, whre I lived, what I looked like. It was so scary. We finally traced the calls and found out who he was and the warden was called. I never heard from him again. The other trime was I was recieving phone calls at all hours and he would say where I was that night. Very scary. I called the police and then let it be known to everyone I knew that the cops were involved and that ended it Wow, I hadn't thought about that stuff in years.

Oh, btw, Jill, your baby is adorable!!

 

[Laurajean1014]

Do you count being married for 16 years? Then, yes!

 

[Marseeya]

I did for a short while.

I had dated this guy for a brief amount of time -- maybe three months or less. Anyway, he kept saying he was head over heels in love with me and wanted to get married. He was just a whacko, so I ended up breaking up with him. Shortly after that, I'd gone out bar hopping with some of my friends and we ended up at a male friend's house. When we were leaving, like at 3 a.m., my ex showed up on the sidewalk. I told him off and told him to get lost, and he started questioning me about the evening and started talking about what I was doing. Here, he'd been watching us at this house the entire time. The guy chased him away, but then when I got home, my ex came flying up beside me and blocked in my car. He pulled out this notebook and had all these dates and times of where I'd been the past several weeks.

It was really scary, but he did finally back off when I got nasty with him.

A couple of years later, I met DH and got married. On our wedding day, we went out in front of the church and I looked over and there was my ex, mowing the lawn next door. Yikes.