Have you ever blocked something from your memory?

[DocRafiki]

This is weird. I had a conversation recently where I was talking about how no one that I've "known" has ever died, other than elderly relatives.

Well, just reading the post about the friend's wife who died suddenly, I remembered my neighbor knocking at my apartment door about 18 months ago, shaking, and saying that her husband had died that morning. I had only briefly talked with her, but her husband was one of the few people that I "knew" in town... not a good friend, didn't really do anything social, but someone who'd sit around and BS about nonsense, we'd borrow each other's CDs, etc. He was well one day, then "didn't look good" that morning, and died in bed a few hours later.

I didn't know him well, so I wasn't crushed or anything. But now I'm feeling guilty for completely forgetting about him! Makes me feel a little insane (shocker!) to have blocked something out of my memory.

Am I losing it?

 

[JenBlaze]

You're not insane, you just momentarily forgot about him. You said yourself that you weren't close, so that's okay - don't feel guilty.

 

[Pin Wizard]

No, you're not losing it. And you're not a horrible person for not remembering!! I have something I haven't been able to recall in years related to the number 16. There were three things going on with that number, and I'm missing one of them! My husband died on November 16, I was 16 weeks pregnant when that happened, and there was a third thing about that number at the same time. For the life of me I haven't been able to remember it in years! Hate that number!!

 

[EdiePA]

How horrible is that?? Our last family trip to Disney was in December 2000. I know that we did an Illuminations Cruise, saw the Candlelight Processional, and had a character breakfast. Other than that I don't remember a thing.

My EX was planning on leaving, had already told me about the other woman (that he really wished he was going on the trip with her and her two boys) and it was all over but the shouting.

I just think I was so numb and our sons (ages 17 and 15) picked up on it all the tension, too. DS#2 remembers all of us getting mad at each other in Downtown Disney and going our separate ways.

Very sad,
Edie

PS - DS#1, his fiancee, DS#2 and I are planning a trip for Christmas 2005 -- hopefully, we'll have some good memories.

 

[frannn]

I don't remember much of my childhood at all-not many school memories, family trips, etc. All gone. I'm thinking its because my dad wasn't the nicest guy in the world back then (has gotten calmer since) and I have repressed the bad memories with the good. I wonder if that's normal? I also have trouble remembering most of my first marriage, and the details of births of my first two children. I don't drink or take drugs (although I did experiment in high school a few times-could this have affected me this much?)

 

[chell]

To me there are two different things - completely forgetting something and blocking something. I've done both.