Have you ever blabbed a secret 'accidentally'

[HighClass]

Very tense at work today.
I work with 2 sisters
Sister A shared something that has her heartbroken,with sister B and asked her to keep it a secret.

We were discussing something relevant and Sister B shared the secret, then immediately was forlorn that she did so.

Sister A walked in room & Sister B admitted telling us.

. Both sisters got upset. Sister A didn't want any of us to know and Sister B said "she didn't see why it had to be a secret"

Neither would look or talk to the other rest of day (both have grown kids-mature women)

 

[Eeyores Butterfly]

It sounds like an honest mistake based on what little info you gave. She spoke before she had time to process that she should keep it a secret but seemed remorseful. Obviously the sister who's secret it was was upset. Don't see why that makes them immature.

 

[Stacerita]

Sometimes people accidently say something that they didn't mean to share. It happens.

 

[HighClass]

The secret-

Backstory-Sister A has had a very, very hard last 3 years. Son was killed, DH left her immediately after for another woman he'd been having an affair with. She never worked and money became a problem for her. She is now our receptionist.

The one bright thing in her life is her DD and new Granddaughter.Now has another grandchild on the way-and her DD's husband has accepted a new job (promotion ) 3 states away and she is heartbroken. With limited finances her chances of visiting them will be limited. I really feel for her.
But she wanted to keep it private.

 

[Eeyores Butterfly]

I don't quite understand this situation. You post about how immature this situation was when one sister accidentally blabbed her sister's secret, and yet you just told an entire message board that secret?

Woops. New rule:

Very tense at work today.
I work with 2 sisters
Sister A shared something that has her heartbroken,with sister B and asked her to keep it a secret.

We were discussing something relevant and Sister B shared the secret, then immediately was forlorn that she did so.

Sister A walked in room & Sister B admitted telling us.

. Both sisters got upset. Sister A didn't want any of us to know and Sister B said "she didn't see why it had to be a secret"

Neither would look or talk to the other rest of day (both have grown kids-mature women)

 

[wdwiala]

Sometimes I accidently tell secrets b/c it has been so very long since the person told me that I can't remember what I was supposed to tell and what I wasn't! Ooops!

 

[Stacerita]

Glad you remembered the new rule. I forget it time to time.

The secret-

Backstory-Sister A has had a very, very hard last 3 years. Son was killed, DH left her immediately after for another woman he'd been having an affair with. She never worked and money became a problem for her. She is now our receptionist.

The one bright thing in her life is her DD and new Granddaughter.Now has another grandchild on the way-and her DD's husband has accepted a new job (promotion ) 3 states away and she is heartbroken. With limited finances her chances of visiting them will be limited. I really feel for her.
But she wanted to keep it private.

I still don't see what the issue is? She told a secret accidently, then fessed right up to the person. Am I missing something?

 

[Shadow Dancer]

The secret-

Backstory-Sister A has had a very, very hard last 3 years. Son was killed, DH left her immediately after for another woman he'd been having an affair with. She never worked and money became a problem for her. She is now our receptionist.

The one bright thing in her life is her DD and new Granddaughter.Now has another grandchild on the way-and her DD's husband has accepted a new job (promotion ) 3 states away and she is heartbroken. With limited finances her chances of visiting them will be limited. I really feel for her.
But she wanted to keep it private.

Well, you sure let the cat out of the bag, didn't you?
How many people did you tell this to IRL?

 

[MickeyCrazedMom]

Neither would look or talk to the other rest of day (both have grown kids-mature women)

Correct me if I'm wrong OP - but I don't think she was calling them immature I think she was referring to their age when she called them "mature" women.

And to answer the original questions...Nope - I am the ultimate secret keeper. I know things about everyone in my life People keep telling me because they know I won't share. I know a tid bits about my MIL that would make my husbands toes curl!

 

[Sheree Bobbins]

This is exactly why I discourage people from telling me their secrets. I can't guarantee their secret won't slip out. I am very talkative and secrets come out naturally.

 

[HighClass]

Correct me if I'm wrong OP - but I don't think she was calling them immature I think she was referring to their age when she called them "mature" women.

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Thabks for the clarification. Yes, its not a couple teenage sisters working at a Fast food place. They are grown adult women and both got in a pissy mood after the incident. High Drama.

As far as sharing-you have no idea whom I am talking about. However, Sister 1"s son's death was on the news for a while. He was purposely run down by a drunk driver-so I always feel deep compassion for this lady-for what she endures.

 

[1stluvispooh]

The secret-

Backstory-Sister A has had a very, very hard last 3 years. Son was killed, DH left her immediately after for another woman he'd been having an affair with. She never worked and money became a problem for her. She is now our receptionist.

The one bright thing in her life is her DD and new Granddaughter.Now has another grandchild on the way-and her DD's husband has accepted a new job (promotion ) 3 states away and she is heartbroken. With limited finances her chances of visiting them will be limited. I really feel for her.
But she wanted to keep it private.

Sister A needs to look on the bright side. DD and her husband and DGD and baby on the way are happy and healthy. They are moving to give themselves a better life. I'm assuming a promotion will do that for the family. If it's 3 states away it really isn't that big of a deal. It doesn't cost that much to drive 3 states. I'm sure sister A is still getting spousal support if her ex was her sons father, just meaning that they would have been married for a significant amount of time. I don't think family should be upset or put guilt on children for finding a better life for themselves just because the job that does that isn't around the corner from moma

 

[onelilspark]

Sister A is probably just more than a little stressed and anxious about everything. I would think that after a few days it would blow over.

 

[Deb in IA]

I think this is between the two sisters and you should MYOB.

 

[HighClass]

I think this is between the two sisters and you should MYOB.

After it happened, I had a "heart to heart" talk with Sister A. She was teary eyed and feels she has no one to talk about her anguish, and that is why she was upset.

To another poster=the drive to new locale is 8 hours -sure she could do it on a 3 day weekend, I suppose, or holidays. She knows her time with her new grandbabies will change dramatically-and she is sad.

 

[SC Minnie]

I'm sorry but I would be ticked off if I was Sister A-- In your first post you said Sister A asked Sister B to keep it a secret but she told anyway then pretended she didn't know she wasn't supposed to tell.