Have You Ever Been Treated Rudely As A Guest??

[Blueberry]

I was trying not to cause a big fight over this, figured everyone had eyes and could see what was going on. I just talked to a friend of mine who was there too, they did not eat and had no idea food was not put out.she had to go to work and just left early. People were playing volleyball when I left and friend said that another friend told her that they did put more food out later, and they were mad as the cheap stuff got put out first. They did not go inside and figured they just put some out at a time and had no idea of what I had told her had happened...My bet is leftovers from their feast got put out once they had a chance to hog down all they wanted.

No, these folks are not my friends, just people I used to know..My true friends would never do this, I have better quality friends than that...

Word is being spread as was suggested...whether the host and hostess like it or not, it will catch up with them.

 

[sorcerormickey]

I would certainly let them know how stuck up and rude they were either by letter or phone and never speak to them again.

I totally agree! How rude of them to have 2 parties going on - one private and one for everyone else. And you had to cater it!!!! I'm sorry you had to deal with that.

 

[Liz]

You handled yourself in a very classy manner. You should be proud of yourself in spite of the rude behavior of your "hosts".

 

[mrsdon]

Im usually a lurker, but I just had to post on this one.
What in the heck were these people thinking??????
I might even understand about th steaks and the others eating inside, but to take your salad and claim it all for them....
No way Jose, would I ever set foot in their yard again unless they gave me a huge apology.

 

[Tina]

Forget Class! I would have walked outside and announced loudly to everyone, "The steaks are ready! They're in the dining room!" and watched the stampede. Then I would have dumped my pasta salad on the table and left with my disposable bowl. Buy hey, that's just me.

 

[bumcat]

I am 46 yrs old and for the first time in my entire life I don't know what to say? Wow, unbelievable that people like this even exist!!

 

[disykat]

I think a thank you note is always appropriate. I suggest printing this thread off and using the back of it as stationary.

 

[cgcw]

Originally posted by disykat
I think a thank you note is always appropriate. I suggest printing this thread off and using the back of it as stationary.

Excellent idea....that would show them, wouldn't it!! LOL!!

 

[allshookup]

Just to play devil's advocate....is it possible something else is going on here? Perhaps the hosts were very upset about something at the party and this was their way of reacting? Not saying it was right to treat their guests they way they did, but it just seems really odd, especially if they have never acted this way before. I have never in my life been treated so rudely and I'm not sure how I would've handled it, but I don't think I could just let it go. I would really like to know what their excuse could possibly be! Sorry you were met with such unkindness!

 

[Jeafl]

...AND ANOTHER THING...(can you tell I'm really ticked off??). As far as I'm concerned, if people are kind enough to bring dishes to my home, I certainly don't separate them them into "Good" and "Bad". Hmmph.

 

[Blueberry]

You are making me feel much better here..thank you all very much.

I think I am going to take up that offer to print some of this out as thank you stationary for such a WONDERFUL PARTY...MAJOR SARCASTIC REMARK OF COURSE.

I found out something else since I posted my last response..this is not the first something like this has happened. Now that I have spread the word more or less, I heard that they did this at one Christmas party had people bring stuff and just put out somethings to eat..I was not there obviously.

These are only people we see now maybe once or twice a year and are people who never know a stranger, if they have known you once they feel they know you for life. Most of the time we only see them now in a store, we are not close friends.

The wife can be a very selfish woman, if you go out to dinner with them you have to sit in smoking with her, she refuses to not smoke at dinner ever, even if she is the only person who smokes among a group of six or eight. It is because of that factor we quit seeing them as often, we do not like cigarette smoke in our faces with our dinner. Obviously she feels the best food that arrives is for them first and edits as someone said what she considers good and just ordinary...which is also very rude.

We will have no future dealings with these people and if they ever ask why..they will get an earful, I have gained courage from this thread. Now i wish I had dumped that salad on her table...

 

[tar heel]

Incredible story. You asked if anyone had been treated rudely as a guest, and we have. My dh works with someone whose family is bilingual. We were invited to their house for dinner, and she and her husband had a conversation in front of their six guests in a language none of us speak. Both speak perfect English BTW. A few months later, we were back there for a work-related social gathering. My youngest child and her child were playing in his room, and her son didn't like having another child playing with his stuff. She came in and talked to her child in another language in front of my perplexed (and not misbehaving at all) child. I said I believed it was time for us to leave and did.

 

[Briar Rose 7457]

you mean, I've been doing it wrong all this time? I was taught that guests get the best, and family shouldn't serve themselves until the guests go first, that the way to be a successful hostess was to make sure all the guests had a wonderful time and didn't leave my house hungry.

gee, am I a wee bit sarcastic here or what?

 

[helenabear]

I just read this off to my DH and we are both in total shock. You handled yourselves very nicely... much better than I would have I think.

 

[Keli]

You were much kinder to these rude hosts than most people would have been. They were absolutely and completely out of line and plain weird, who would want to invite people over and do that to them? You invite people because they are your friends and you want to have fun together. I think you are probably better off without friends like those anyway. Strange, strange, strange.

 

[mouseclick1]

Well, you could look at it this way, your pasta salad must have been pretty darn good to have made "the cut", and not get served with the "cheap food"!

Actually I would have been shocked and probably not said anything, but would have thought of 100 great lines after I left!

 

[faith]

I don't mean to be rude, but this story can't be true??

 

[Pam]

Unfortunately, I can believe that this story is true.

 

[Margie J]

That was one of the rudest things to happen I've ever heard of.

It's one thing to keep a special box of candy or such for yourself if it's a "hostess gift". To keep "the best" food items to yourself and then tell people that "guests eat outside" is outragious. What are you, dogs which eat outside?

If she dares to invite you again by all means let her know why you'd never go back.

 

[nkjzmom]

Well, my grandmother is still alive....but if she weren't, she be turning over in her grave!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!