Have You Ever Been Divorced?

[Hercules10]

Nope. 1st marriage for both of us going on 11 years (shackin' for 13 years).

For those on your one and only marriage. Do you get more relationship advice from divorced people then people with a marriage that's working? Sometimes it seems like the more divorces a person has the more they feel like telling us how a relationship should work. Uum hello?

 

[T1130]

Nope.

 

[Planogirl]

Nope. 1st marriage for both of us going on 11 years (shackin' for 13 years).

For those on your one and only marriage. Do you get more relationship advice from divorced people then people with a marriage that's working? Sometimes it seems like the more divorces a person has the more they feel like telling us how a relationship should work. Uum hello?

Well, they do often learn what does NOT work so it's not necessarily wasted advice. I did learn some things when my first marriage failed but I never offer advice because no situation is the same.

 

[Aidensmom]

Yes for me, no for DH.

 

[Melissa M]

Divorced twice.

First marriage we were way too young (19). It lasted for four very rocky years. I left him three times before I finally went through with the divorce. The only good thing to come out of it was my beautiful DD.

Second time I married a man 21 years my senior. At first, I was just so relieved that he was the complete opposite of my first husband. As the years progressed, I learned that he was controlling and manipulative and the age difference really became apparent. The marriage lasted 9 1/2 years and the divorce was final last week.

I think I'm done. I need to figure out why I choose men that are bad for me. I also don't want to be an Elizabeth Taylor. I'm enjoying being single and for now would be happy with a "friends with benefits" relationship.

 

[rhanditresmom]

Neither one of us has been divorced. DH's parents were divorced when he was 6, my parents probably SHOULD have been divorced (but that's a whole other Maury Povich show!!!).

We have been married now for 16 years. We have had some rocky times, went thru counseling (best thing we ever did!), but we love each other more than when we first got married.

He is an amazing man!

 

[goofygirl]

No but I've never been married!

If I had married the BF I had 3 or 4 years ago I would have been divorced by now for sure.

 

[mickeyfan2]

DH and I were each other's first. That was 23 years ago and we are still going strong.

 

[apirateslifeforme]

Divorced twice.

First marriage we were way too young (19). It lasted for four very rocky years. I left him three times before I finally went through with the divorce. The only good thing to come out of it was my beautiful DD.

Second time I married a man 21 years my senior. At first, I was just so relieved that he was the complete opposite of my first husband. As the years progressed, I learned that he was controlling and manipulative and the age difference really became apparent. The marriage lasted 9 1/2 years and the divorce was final last week.

I think I'm done. I need to figure out why I choose men that are bad for me. I also don't want to be an Elizabeth Taylor. I'm enjoying being single and for now would be happy with a "friends with benefits" relationship.

I am SO glad someone else said this! I was feeling a little odd for thinking that this is exactly what I want as well...

 

[Melissa M]

I am SO glad someone else said this! I was feeling a little odd for thinking that this is exactly what I want as well...

Uh oh...Hercules10 is gonna come around wanting a sammich.

 

[Hercules10]

Uh oh...Hercules10 is gonna come around wanting a sammich.

Nuh-huh...I've sworn off red-heads. Bad fer ma health.

 

[apirateslifeforme]

Nuh-huh...I've sworn off red-heads. Bad fer ma health.

There IS a God!

 

[shortbun]

I feel like I got a divorce but there was no legal marriage. It was from a man I spent my life with from age 21 to age 28. Leaving him was one of the hardest things I have ever done but it was necessary for me to survive. I met my husband so quickly after that. I know that freedom was needed to move my life forward to what was meant to be.

 

[jimmiej]

Nope! DW & I celebrated our 25th anniversary on Castaway Cay July '06. As of Dec. '06, both our kids are married, so we're now enjoying our empty nest!

 

[Tinkerbelle's Mom]

I am SO glad someone else said this! I was feeling a little odd for thinking that this is exactly what I want as well...

Nah - you are not odd. There is a bunch of us out there who feel the same way.

 

[ZPT1022]

Nope for DH or me. Even though he drives me nuts sometimes,I don't think I could find someone who understands me more than he does.

 

[Jennasis]

Nope. We married at 21 and 22, and have been married almost 15 years. That's not to say I haven't thought about it. Marriage is tough, with lots of ups and downs.

Jenasis - I can't believe it has been a year and a half since you married. I remember you talking about it - wedding at a farm, hot day, sick relatives - was that you? I remember you saying everything went beautifully for the most part.

Denae

Yup that was me! Hot as heck I tellya. Unfortunately the whole relatives thing is STILL unresolved, despite many efforts on my/my family's part. The wedding was great though...

 

[MainStMandy]

Just once. We were married for 2 years before I figured out he was the wrong man for me. Everytime I talk to him I am reminded...especially the last time when his ignorance (lol or mine...) cost me $350 to the dr....

 

[disneymama73]

I've been divorced once. And I am in the process again.

 

[disneymama73]

Nuh-huh...I've sworn off red-heads. Bad fer ma health.

There IS a God!

I hope Blow-Up Betty isn't a redhead. But she is female...