Hate to do this, but have a topic about abortion...

[s&k'smom]

Jenny thank you for sharing. I think your the bravest person I know. Take care.

 

[Teejay32]

That is too much for one person.

 

[phillybeth]

Jenny I am so sorry for what you are going through- not just the termination but your other health problems. You will be in my thoughts.

 

[poohandwendy]

JennymominRI,

I read your homepage and I am amazed with your strength! I am so sorry to hear you are dealing with, yet another, obstacle in your path. I wish there were words that I could say to lift you up and make you feel better. There aren't. I am humbled by your courage and determination. Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

I really hesitate to post this as it is so painful for me right now.. I am 9 weeks pregnant and I'm having an abortion..It was supposed to be tomorrow. I have AIDS,Cardiomyopathy.History of Mini-strokes and CHF.. I take BCPS and use condomns..This was not planned..This in fact was a horribly dreaded scenario for me..One that I have had nightmares about for years..The kicker.. My SO is set up to have a Vasectomy in late March..We had been planning this vasectomy for a few months now
I simply can't carry a pregnancy.period.. I risk sudden caridac arrest ,stroke etc..Not to mention the fact that I take various teterogenic drugs that would make it likely no child would survive a pregnancy anyway.
I've known for over a month now..I've tried everything,but as sick as I am i have to have this done in a very controlled setting. I have medicare and Tricare insurances..Neither one will pay for it,even thought they have had 3 doctors telling them that my life is at risk.. Because of my high risk position and all of the precautions they have to take with me this will cost thousands of dollars out of my own pocket.. It's looking like 3000-4000$ minimum that must be paid within 6 months.. My Disney trip is not looking likely at all now.
This has been Hell..In 14 years of living with AIDS nothing compares to what I'm going through right now..I;ve been put through the ringer with doctors,insurance etc.. I've been told I can't have on unless I pay up front and then they say I can make payments and then they change their minds again.
I can't stop crying...I think I've cried more in the last month than I have in the last 14 years. It sure the heck isn't easy and it's not something that's done lightly.I know it's something that will haunt me for the rest of my life

I can offer this:


In your similar circumstance--after the consultations and counseling...I would probably be in the same boat as you. Sorry for what you are going through . We'll keep you in our prayers Jenny for a long life ahead.

 

[poohandwendy]

I don't think of you any less for your kind hand. I would personally have a problem offering the same hand. I walked into a clinic once (to do an interview for class) and I never intend to walk into one again. I didn't like it one bit. Thankfully there were no women their at the time with an appointment--not sure if that was by design...but I am sure it would have sparked some emotion in me knowing why they were there and how it was the only way for them. Our beliefs don't make us heartless or self righteous--it is how we conduct ourselves when sharing them. This is why I would NEVER protest at a clinic. Typically they give pro-lifers a bad name. Getting in your face and scaring someone and making them fear for their life just doesn't sound like the appropriate or safe way to get the message across.

I understand your feelings. And I thank you for being respectful, I think you have made your point without condemnation. I appreciate that, especially because my decision to be there for my loved one was looked down upon so severely by others with the same views regarding abortion as I have (in RL).

 

[Planogirl]

Jenny, I'm so sad to read your post. I'll keep you in my thoughts and hard as it is, please let us know that you're OK.

 

[poohandwendy]

In regards to an earlier post about why prolifers have not adopted all of the unwanted babies:

FWIW, the situation I described earlier (and my own history) prompted me to volunteer my time with girls who are dealing with an unplanned pregnancy and birth control options education. I did so for a few years, until scheduling became impossible, and I hope to again some day, in some capacity. Instead of protesting against abortion, I feel a responsibility to share my experiences one on one with those who may need someone who understands where they are coming from.

So, no I have not adopted, but tried to make some difference.

 

[CEDmom]

I admire and respect what you did for your friend. I too believe in a God that loves everyone regardless of faults and shortcomings. I really want to scream at people who call women getting abortions are sinners and claiming they'll burn in hell etc. They truely sicken me. I believe that it is rare for a woman to decide to have an abortion without searching the depth of her soul. She needs love and support not condemnation.

 

[totalia]

Never say never. If any of you were to have a life threatening pregnancy, you'd change your tone real quick.

There are cases when abortion is the ONLY choice to save the mother's life.

 

[babar]

jenny


Thanks to all of you for what you said. This thread makes me smile because of the warmth of everyone on here.

 

[perdidobay]

You are a TRUE freind babar..........

for you Jenny

 

[Tantor]

major to you Jenny. i will be thinking of you.

 

[JennyMominRI]

Thanks everyone..
You know I didn't want a whole lot out of life..I wanted a husband .I wanted kids..Luckily I have beautiful kids,but I would have loved to have more.
Now here I am in this position..Nothing is ever simple for me. Nothing is ever allowed to happen in my life without a dark cloud over it.. I'm just tired

 

[perdidobay]

We are here for you, Jenny.

 

[CEDmom]

Jenny,

I didn't read your post until after I posted the 1st time. I'm so for what you're going through. I'll be thinking about you. Try to stay strong like you have and somehow you'll get through this.

 

[poohandwendy]

I would like to encourage others to read JennymominRI's homepage, if you haven't already done so. She is indeed a courageous woman with an incredible story. (I hope you don't mind Jenny, you are so well spoken, open and honest and your story can make such a difference, IMO)

Jenny, keep the strength. You have been through so much, I am certain this too shall pass.

 

[Charade]

Trying to respond in an equally respectful way.....

The difference you outline is the difference between compassion and self-righteous, between thinking of oneself and have compassion for another soul, despite different moral positions. I think a lot of people call it hating the sin and loving the sinner.

Babar- bless you for your kind action. You remind me of my mother.

Whoa!! I can't speak for the person you replied to but since I agreed, I'll speak for myself.

I'm really tired of people calling others "self-righteous". I think abortion (in almost every circumstance) is wrong and immoral. Period. Call me what you want. If you think it is morally OK, fine but don't start name calling just because someone else disagrees.

I have compassion and feel sorry for someone who ends up at that point in their lives. However, abortion isn't the only choice. I would show more compassion and support if the decided to keep the baby or put it up for adoption.

 

[Tantor]

I would like to encourage others to read JennymominRI's homepage, if you haven't already done so. She is indeed a courageous woman with an incredible story. (I hope you don't mind Jenny, you are so well spoken, open and honest and your story can make such a difference, IMO)

Jenny, keep the strength. You have been through so much, I am certain this too shall pass.

Wow Jenny. Just read you homepage. Lots and lots of

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Thanks everyone..
You know I didn't want a whole lot out of life..I wanted a husband .I wanted kids..Luckily I have beautiful kids,but I would have loved to have more.
Now here I am in this position..Nothing is ever simple for me. Nothing is ever allowed to happen in my life without a dark cloud over it.. I'm just tired

Just read your website and posted on your message board. I did right "beautiful testimony"--and hate it when I say things without thinking....I did mean that the way that you wrote your story was wonderful and that you are such a beautiful person who handled the situation wonderfully--so sorry for the awkward post.