Has someone ever ruined your birthday or Christmas?

[reecejackox]

Someone stole my cards on my birthday one year

 

[luvnwdwgal]

My own mother ruined Christmas for me several years ago by embarrassing me about my extra pounds in front of the whole family. She was always bringing it up in front of people. One year she brought it up in front of a bunch of her friends on my birthday. Yes, I know I’m overweight and could stand to lose 50 pounds but you don’t have to embarrass me about it in front of people.

 

[Tess]

Yep--my 60th birthday with my children and their spouses. Still not over it!

 

[NYCgrrl]

No.

 

[Disney.Dreamin.Dee]

I guess it wasn't "ruined" because we could have chosen to not attend but... once a family friend who was engaged randomly decides the week before Christmas they would be married on Christmas Day.
We still had a great Christmas Eve and then did the big dinner and gifts on the day after Christmas but it was just like REALLY?

My birthday falls on Mother's Day a lot so when that happens I feel a bit like I have to do what the mothers in the family want to do instead of what I'd like to do.
Again wouldn't say its "ruined" but just not quite as special feeling for me.

 

[OhDannyBoy]

My sister before she got clean OD'd at the dinner table one Christmas.

She's 8 years sober now and calls that her rock bottom. But it made gift exchanges that year a little awkward.

I need to stop participating in these threads....

 

[fly girl]

When I turned 12 years old I was having a rough time because we were moving across the country and I didn't want to leave my friends. My Dad had already started his job out west, and my Mom was working over my birthday as she was finishing her requirements at work before we left a week later. So, that brings me to my ruined birthday.

I was with my maternal Grandma (fwiw, I was never close to her) and she made me run errands for her and a friend and I didn't want to. I would've rather stayed home alone (as I could at that age). She made me go and when I was was less than happy with this decision and pouting in the backseat she took it upon herself to call me a word I cannot say on here. (rhymes with witch). Yep, she failed to acknowledge my birthday and called me a bad name. 12th birthday was ruined.

I am still annoyed when I think about it. Sure, I probably was acting out. But when you are 12 who wants to run old lady errands on your birthday and not even get a gift from your Grandma?

 

[RUDisney]

2 of my in-laws have ruined many a holiday.

Once, my SIL threw a tantrum because she is left handed and she didn't get to sit at the head of the table... stormed out.

Another time, my BIL didn't see the turkey before it was cut. He threw a fit, yelled a lot and stormed out.

Two years ago, the same SIL took a box of heirlooms from her mother's house. When another BIL asked to see what was in the box, she pretended to look for it and said she must have thrown it out. From her history, no one believed her story and she and that brother are still not speaking.

On Thanksgiving, she told her siblings that she wanted to take my MIL to her house for dinner so no one else would see her that day. When she didn't get a rise out of anyone, and her mother told her that she wanted to stay at home, I got to take lunch to MIL's house with my family. SIL was supposed to relieve us because we were having dinner with my family at 3:00. Right before we left our house, she texted and said that she didn't feel well and wasn't going to go there. She had canceled the aide's that are around the clock because she would stay overnight to take care of her mother. Suddenly, my DH was going to have to stay there while I entertained my parents. When I texted my other SIL (the sane one) about what happened, just as an FYI, she got our nephews to take over for my DH and she called the agency and got an aid scheduled for the overnight shift. Oh, and 3 aides have told the agency that they won't go to my MIL's house anymore because of her DD. She's an equal opportunity, evil person.

This year, SIL is assigning times for us to see her mother since she doesn't want to see any of her siblings because she will purposely ruin our Christmas if she sees us. She told her one brother that she was going to try to ruin his and my marriage by telling his wife and me that our DHs are cheating on us. As if. I know what my DH does and where he goes... so does my BIL's wife.

I feel worse for their kids. They have to live with them every day. We get to just enjoy them on holidays. Yippee!

 

[fly girl]

Oh, and early morning of turning 40 years old, my DD comes into our bedroom (over to my side, not dh's of course) and informs us she doesn't feel good. As I am hugging her to console her feeling yucky, she throws up all over my hair and the front of my pajamas.

My birthday definitely wasn't ruined, but I laughed and said it was fitting start to my 40's.

 

[Disney.Dreamin.Dee]

Once, my SIL threw a tantrum because she is left handed and she didn't get to sit at the head of the table... stormed out.

I'm super confused as to why her be left handed had anything to do with sitting at the head of the table.
I'm left handed and really as long as I just have enough elbow room its no big deal.

 

[RUDisney]

I'm super confused as to why her be left handed had anything to do with sitting at the head of the table.
I'm left handed and really as long as I just have enough elbow room its no big deal.

It was the excuse of the day for her to cause trouble. All she had to do was say she didn’t want to come to dinner. Instead, she showed up, caused a scene to ruin the peace of the holiday and left.

 

[PrincessShmoo]

I'm super confused as to why her be left handed had anything to do with sitting at the head of the table.
I'm left handed and really as long as I just have enough elbow room its no big deal.

I suppose sitting a the head of the table means she'd be on a corner, so no one sitting right next to her left arm.

 

[Disney.Dreamin.Dee]

I suppose sitting a the head of the table means she'd be on a corner, so no one sitting right next to her left arm.

Or she could sit on a corner of the length of the table....
Again I'm left handed. Just give me enough elbow room and I'll sit in the middle of the table if you want me to.
Just seems like an odd thing to insist on sitting at the head vs just giving enough room.

 

[tcufrog]

My sister is left-handed so she just sits at the end of the table where she doesn't bump elbows.

 

[MomOfDisneyPrincess]

When I was 12, the only thing I wanted for Christmas was a Shaun Cassidy "Born Late" album. I told my parents how much I really, really wanted it, more than anything else in the world! We opened presents and no album. I was so disappointed and trying really hard not to cry, pretending I was fine. I felt so unloved at that moment because I had shared how important this was to me and I knew it was not a lot of money in the grand scheme of things and still didn't get it. Well, I guess they thought it was cute to hold it back and at the last moment say, "Oh, there's one more present!" and pulled out the album for me to open. I played along and I really was happy that I got the album, but my heart was crushed and I died a little inside that day.

 

[Aladora]

My MIL almost died on my 40th birthday. We (me, DH, and DS) were at Disneyland and she is in Ottawa so we had to change my husband's flights home to BC so he could fly to Ottawa the next day. While my birthday was not totally ruined, it sure put a damper on the day!

 

[BroadwayHermione5]

Three words:
Toxic. Family. Members.


Every holiday and birthday. To say I’ve been done with them for a while is an understatement

 

[BroadwayHermione5]

My sister before she got clean OD'd at the dinner table one Christmas.

She's 8 years sober now and calls that her rock bottom. But it made gift exchanges that year a little awkward.

I need to stop participating in these threads....

I’m so glad to hear she is 8 years sober. Please send along all my well wishes and support her way.

 

[OhDannyBoy]

I’m so glad to hear she is 8 years sober. Please send along all my well wishes and support her way.

Thank you.
She actually works in recovery helping people get clean now.

 

[bcwife76]

My MIL ruined Christmas one year (it was the first Christmas for our youngest) with one of her epic tantrum/meltdowns over pretty much nothing. Horrible woman. I stopped speaking to her about 4 months later. It's been glorious. Took my DH a few more years to cut ties with her (he needed to come to that conclusion on his own) and it's been great at holidays without her ever since.