Has someone ever ruined your birthday or Christmas?

[Kathryn Merteuil]

I don't get excited about birthdays anyway, but I cannot recall anybody ever ruining either for me thankfully. My ex and his family of course made many of the holidays annoying but I tried to just not let it get to me.

 

[Moliphino]

My dad passed out in the middle of "midnight" mass (it's at 10pm) on Christmas Eve a few years ago and had to spend a few days in the hospital for tests. That put a damper on Christmas festivities that year.

 

[E&Cmom]

Not anyone but circumstances. Having a December birthday I had many birthday parties cancelled due to the flu or snow storms as a child. About 7 years ago I got hand, food, mouth disease on Christmas Day. Not fun. So much for a childhood illness I was 45.

 

[Moliphino]

Oh, I also had my first Cyclic Vomiting Syndrome episode a couple days before Christmas when I was 10. I stopped vomiting on Christmas Eve day, but still couldn't really eat on Christmas. I remember sitting on the floor next to my chair (my stomach and abdominal muscles hurt more when I tried sitting in the chair) at the dining room table on Christmas morning crying while my mom tried to coax me to eat something.

 

[neverlandsky]

Parents forgot my 18th birthday. After that, I've always kept my birthday low key & intimate.

We're going to be the bad guys this Christmas Eve by choosing to stay at home.

 

[MamaMermaid]

My mom dropped my birthday cake TWICE. It wasn't the most terrible thing but I was super disappointed and upset.

 

[amcnj]

I don’t remember any disasters. At one of my sister’s earlier birthday parties there was a plastic ballerina figure on the cake. The ballerina’s dress got a little too close to the candle and she caught on fire. I don’t know if my sister felt it ruined her party, but for me it was an exciting highlight!

 

[EACarlson]

My mother in one of her drunken states decided that I needed an ice cream cake for my 20th birthday. One month prior, I had been diagnosed as a diabetic. She spent a half hour berating me for not eating the cake.

 

[BlueStarryHat]

My friend Danny committed suicide on my 30th. We lived next door to each other. I went to dinner with my Mom and sister, and we came around the corner laughing at something one of us had said, and there were police cars up and down the street and cops going in and out of the house. We ran up to see what had happened, to see if we could help. There wasn't any tape or anything at that time, so I tried to get into his house to see him because I thought maybe he'd been robbed. A cop stopped me and took us aside and told us he'd killed himself with a shotgun up in his bathroom. I had talked to him just that morning and he seemed fine. He wished me a happy birthday and told me he was going to take me to a Flyers game soon if he could get tickets from his job. It was so normal.

 

[Frozen Canuck]

Shaun Cassidy "Born Late" album

I owned this album as well!

 

[Silver saucer]

I was getting ready to fly home to my remaining family the first Christmas after my mom had passed away.
The day before Christmas my brother told me not to come. My Sister- in- law is just unpleasant and decided she didn't want me there.

 

[MrsPete]

My own mother ruined Christmas for me several years ago by embarrassing me about my extra pounds in front of the whole family. She was always bringing it up in front of people. One year she brought it up in front of a bunch of her friends on my birthday. Yes, I know I’m overweight and could stand to lose 50 pounds but you don’t have to embarrass me about it in front of people.

Yeah, my mom used to do that to me about gray hair. I'm not self-conscious about my gray hair, but I didn't like her making it a joke.

My birthday falls on Mother's Day a lot

Mine too!

Parents forgot my 18th birthday.

My mom did that to me too; admittedly, she did have something very big going on that same day -- but it hurt. Then my husband forgot my 50th; seriously, even after our daughter gave me a gift, he didn't say "Happy Birthday".
Thing is, I don't really care about most birthdays, but I did care about those milestone birthdays.

 

[disykat]

My brother forgot my birthday the year before last and I still get mad about it. I was born on his birthday. We've always called each other (or sometimes even just texted) and tried to be the first one to say happy birthday. Just a simple happy birthday, then happy birthday back. That's it. Last year I texted first and he just said "thank you" because he literally forgot it was my birthday too. I know it's stupid, but that really hurt.

 

[Karin1984]

That national disaster that caused over a thousand people wounded, over 20 deaths and a whole neighbourhood destroyed 3 days before my 16th birthday put a damper on the conversations on my special day.

 

[mom2rb]

My birthday is 9/11. Every time I tell someone my birthday they just go “ohhh.’

 

[DisneyHardin]

My birthday is 9/11. Every time I tell someone my birthday they just go “ohhh.’

I have a cousin and 2 really good friends with 9/11 birthdays. One friend especially was really hit hard by 9/11 and really doesn't want to do much to celebrate her birthday even still because it's just a reminder to her of that terrible day.

 

[Princessclab]

I was getting ready to fly home to my remaining family the first Christmas after my mom had passed away.
The day before Christmas my brother told me not to come. My Sister- in- law is just unpleasant and decided she didn't want me there.

I have a SIL like that too! Tries to control her husband's family and every holiday.
Sheesh....we now just laugh at or ignore her tantrums.

 

[Tattylou]

When I was 21 my elderly dog had cancer - his health declined rapidly and he had to be put to sleep on Christmas Eve. I had him since I was 7. My father and I spent most of Christmas Eve and Christmas in tears.

 

[shaggyrogersmademedoit]

Someone stole my cards on my birthday one year

That's crazy! You must have been mystified

 

[shaggyrogersmademedoit]

My 'best friend' ruined my birthday when I was 13 or 14, we had an argument the day before and then on my birthday she gave me my present but made it into a big guilt trip and manipulated my emotions. I don't like thinking back to it because I now realise how toxic she was and how vulnerable I was.

Then I ruined my own birthday when I was 18 because I was in a psychiatric hospital and got transferred from a child facility to an adult facility on my birthday and I was on 24 hour watch because of high risk to myself. Not the usual way people spend their 18th! Worst birthday of my life, for sure.

Finally, last Christmas was ruined not by somebody, but by circumstance, because it was Christmas Eve and the rain was pummelling down, and then during the night (so the early hours of Christmas morning) our village flooded and we spent ALL NIGHT bailing freezing cold water with buckets and pumps. By some miracle the presents and the tree were up in the higher room on the bottom floor, so Christmas was rescued to an extent.