I agree with Pumbaa you'll never make everyone happy. We do just a day reunion with our family and I am the planner, because same as you, no one stepped up to get the wheels rolling. We have done it for about three years and what I have learned is that you can't leave it up to people, they will hesitate. Since you and your cousin are anxious to do this, I would work with her and come up with several dates and ask which will work for everyone. If you don't give them dates and instead ask for dates, you never get responses from everyone. I found if I gave a list, give them a chance to respond and then picked a date that worked for everyone, that worked much better. Give them a deadline as to when they must respond or you'll be waiting forever. When you send the letter/e-mail, you and your cousin should have it worked out how long you're going for, where you plan to stay, etc. If you ask them where they want to stay, etc., you'll never get them to agree. The next thing I would do is let them know that you all don't have to do everything together, every day. Maybe have some planned things, but then days that maybe individual families will want to go their own way. It can be a lot of work, but a lot of fun. Since you have your cousin to help you, you too will have a great time. Just remember, don't let any of the negative people discourage you. Plan the trip and stick to your plans and those who want to will go and the others can miss out. We have brought friends and family to WDW in the past, not a family reunion, and have had a wonderful time. My family has actually asked about getting them together for a family trip to WDW. Our family is all from the same area and is large, but I am hesitate because it does involve a lot of planning and I'm not sure I want to do it. I'd love to know how you make out. Like I said, planning a one day outing really took being firm and not worrying about pleasing everyone. Good luck.
