Guys, would this bother you?

[honeywolf7]

I went to a club with a few of my college friends on Saturday night (it's Thom's weekend to have the kids so I did not leave them at home....just telling you in advance so I don't get flamed.) While I was there, I danced with a couple of guys (they put their hands on my waist, but I didn't touch them back), got sent a daisy by some guy (still don't know who), and one of the guys I danced with bought me a beer. I told Roger all about it when I got home and it doesn't bother him at all, but I wondered if it would bother any of you other guys if your S.O.'s or wives did this or if you would see it as harmless fun.

 

[Minnesota!]

I'm not a man, but I know that if I was you, and that happened to me, my husband would NOT be upset. He thinks its great that I am social Sounds like you had a fun time! Must of been looking pretty cute to have so many men, hee hee!!

 

[Kissimmee JP]

No. Jealousy is a useless emotion. You little tramp.

 

[Steve H.]

I trust my wife 100% -- otherwise, I wouldn't have married her.

 

[Princess_Aurora]

I'm sure my DH wouldn't have a problem with it at all. I know I wouldn't have a problem with it if it were him out dancing with other girls. Like Steve H. said, I trust my husband 100% and he trusts me 100%.

 

[preshi]

So I'll jump on the other bandwagon...

I'd be more than upset wiht my SO if he did that... thats just disrespectful of our relationship...

JMHO

 

[Robinrs]

Just wondering... WHY did you tell him??? Did you WANT a reaction???

 

[JC2]

I would be very hurt if my S.O. did that, and I would never do that to him. If nothing else, I think it is just a matter of respect and a show of dedication.

No flames from me, though, honeywolf

 

[Keli]

You know, I've never thought of myself as the jealous type and I know I trust my husband but I wouldn't like that situation if it were reversed.
Yesterday my dh did say something to a woman we know that was completely out of character for him but it was very sweet. She was telling us that a man that she used to date was there just to see if she was dating anyone new and that she wished she was so he would have seen it (there's a history between the two of them, they broke up because he wouldn't marry her after years of dating). Dave told her if he had know that's why he was hanging around he would have went over and sat next to her. A very un-Dave comment but so sweet because this woman gets on Dave's nerves and he groaned in my ear as she came up to us and yet he was still trying to be nice when he felt like she needed a boost.

 

[SeaSpray]

Originally posted by JC2
I would be very hurt if my S.O. did that, and I would never do that to him. If nothing else, I think it is just a matter of respect and a show of dedication.

No flames from me, though, honeywolf

I agree with this 100%.

No flames from me either, honeywolf This is just how I feel personally. I feel that when you're in a committed relationship, you don't let other people touch you in a social setting, no matter how innocent. If you had been choking and they put their arms around you to save your life, that's a whole different story

 

[pnelson]

Well, I think having someone buy you a beer is bit of a lead-on if you ask me. I would have politely turned the beer down.

 

[grinningghost]

It would bother me if my DH came home and told me he did that, but that's just me. I also think it would bother him if I did it. But the big difference here is, DH and I generally do most everything together. No flames from me either - it's a personal thing - if he wasn't bothered by it, then certainly no harm was done.

 

[disfanatiks]

thats just disrespectful of our relationship...

I agree totally with Preshi (M) on this. I can not imagine why someone would have the desire to go out dancing with other people.

I would have to say that my husband would feel the same way that I do.

 

[binny]

I have to say that for me I wouldnt be happy with dh dancing with anyone else, it IS a matter of respect its not so much a matter of trust IMHO. I trust my dh. *I* know that he wouldnt intentionally lead anyone on but I cannot control what others think.

I just think , for us, that it would be a slap in the face. DH would not be happy either.

 

[DonnaS]

It wouldn't bother me and I doubt it would bother DH. Of course, neither of us are much into dancing anyway.

 

[Towncrier]

I'm with Steve. I trust Sue completely. And I know that I've earned that trust from her. Otherwise she probably would not have "let" me attend the past two DIScon events solo.

I just hope she never sees that photo of vickyBaby sitting on my lap.

 

[Steve H.]

Originally posted by disfanatiks
I agree totally with Preshi (M) on this. I can not imagine why someone would have the desire to go out dancing with other people.

Because I can't stand dancing and my wife enjoys it from time to time? Or she's going out with a group from work and I've decided to stay home and hang out with DS. Either way, if someone's hand landed on my DW's waist, I'm not going to go nuts about it or anything like that. It's not a big deal, IMO.

 

[snoopy]

It wouldn't bother DH if I danced with someone else, nor would it bother me if he did. It would bother me if DH accepted a drink from a stranger, and I'm more than sure that it would bother him as well.

 

[Saffron]

I have mixed feelings, but no flames from me about how anyone else feels.

We are going to RiddleCon in August and there's talk of a night out dancing Saturday night. If for some reasons I konk out and don't feel like going, if Will wanted to go, I would think that would be great! If he danced with his hand on someone's or more than one someone's waist, bought flowers for her or more than one her and bought a round of drinks for her or more than one her, I would think that would be great! He would be with his friends, friends who respect our relationship and our boundries. I trust him and trust our friends.

If he was out with strangers and singled out one person to treat that way or even more than one, I would be really upset. Strangers don't know us and don't know our boundries or may not care about those boundries. IIt would be really disrespectful of our relationship. Now I'm gonna point him in the direction of this thread and see what he has to say.

 

[helenabear]

I like to dance and Luis doesn't so the dancing wouldn't bother me. The touching from a stranger would bother me more than it would Luis so I wouldn't let that (or the gifts given to me by a stranger) happen either. If it were people I knew and were comfortable with, it would be a different story. Now obviously if I were doing Latin dancing, I'd let him touch my hand and waist Luis trusts me and I trust him, so I know it wouldn't bother him, but since I wouldn't like it myself, it wouldn't happen anyway