Growing Old can be Sad...

[Abbie]

I agree. I sometimes want to yell that at 54, my mummy was far to young to have died. Other people get to have their mum's until they're in their 50's or 60's. I'm not even 30 yet. I still needed her for so many things...

But I also know that even those people who get to have their parents for decades longer than I got to are still broken hearted when they pass, and rightfully so. I really don't think you can compare pain like that. No matter what, it sucks and it hurts.

I think I've always worried about losing my parents, always. I remember when I was in my 20's, I would think it would be so much easier if I could have them with me until I hit 30. Then when I passed 30, I still thought it would be so much more bearable if I were an all-grown-up 40. I'd be so much more mature, so much more ready to handle it.....

I was so stupid.

I'm nearly 50 now.....maybe when I'm 60 I'll be able to handle it better....

You are right, your mom was way too young and it's just not fair no matter how you look at it. I'm sorry. No matter what your age, you will never be "ready".

 

[EllenFrasier]

There is never enough time when you love someone.

That is so true! When my Mom had surgery on her back in her 60's, we worried about her but figured she was young enough to come through that. When she was near 80 she had her knee replaced and we were worried she might not make it out of surgery. Then she got a melanoma on her eye and needed surgery for that. We all agreed we will never be ready to lose her no matter what age she lives up to!

 

[Disney Doll]

It's hard to lose them young. It's hard to watch them fail.
And nothing ever prepares you for the loss of a parent.

 

[minniecarousel]

How timely this thread is!

We just brought my 93 year-old mother home after more than a month in hospitals (acute & rehab). We are using hospice and she is happy to be home. She currently has pneumonia, but also has a whole bunch of other things wrong with her.

This is new, uncharted territory for us. My father died over 25 years ago, after 4 days in the hospital.

We're happy to have had her for all these years.