Greiving, please don't think me crazy

[poohandwendy]

I am so, so sorry to hear you are going through this. You and your family are in my prayers.

I have dealt with sudden loss, just a few words of advice from one who has been there:

You have been thrust into a club you didn't want to join, the only good thing about it is that you are not alone. Lean on people around you, they really do want to help you. Accept their help and do not think you have to act a certain way. Do not feel that you are being a burden. You are in uncharted territory and need to allow yourself to handle this in your own way. Your thoughts will often be scattered for some time, that is OK!

There are no rules to dealing with great loss. It is so intimate and cuts to the core. Like others have mentioned, when you feel up to it, find a support group, counselling for yourself and the kids. It will really help tremendously...even if it doesn't feel like it.

You are going to have many emotions and they can change on a dime. It's normal. Support groups will show that. Have someone you trust attend all legal/financial meetings. It will be impossible for you to grasp (or remember)what you are being told. Try to take care of your physical self...eat, rest, etc. It will only add to the process if your body is exhausted and depleted of nutrients. If you cannot sleep, there is nothing wrong with asking your physician for help.

There are probably a thousand other things I could think of...PM me if I can help in any way at all or if you just want to sound off.

Again, I am so sorry to hear of you loss,
HUGS,
wendy

 

[scarlett873]

i am so sorry for your loss...and it's not crazy to seek comfort from your friends here. i will be praying for your husband, your children, and i have enough left over to pray for you too...

 

[Saffron]

Oh Vicki. I am so sorry. {{{{{Hugs}}}}} I can only imagine how you feel. I wish there was some way I could ease your pain for you and your family. I hope you can close your eyes and rest soon. I'm so sorry. I will keep all of you in my prayers.

 

[shep]

I am sorry..(((hugs)))
I will keep you & your family in my prayers...
This is one of the best places to find comfort and get things off your chest...

 

[Kirby]

Words can not be expressed for the sorrow I feel for your loss. The DIS is a wonderful place for come for support. Do not hesitate to post how you are doing. There are some mighty big shoulders to lean on here.

Winging a prayer your way.

 

[Rajah]

Vicki, I'm so sorry. And I don't think you're crazy at all. You and your family will be in my prayers.

 

[Beauty]

Vicki,

I am so so sorry! I can not imagine what you are going through. Just know that you can come here anytime!! Prayers for you and your family.

 

[newmousecateer]

Vicki, I am so very sorry. I will keep you and the children in my prayers.

 

[jwsqrdplus2]

Vicki-

Deepest condolences for your loss. I have no other words of wisdom. You and your daughters are in my prayers.

 

[December99]

I'm so very sorry to hear this. I will keep YOU and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[kdibattista]

I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[Miss Jasmine]

You have my deepest sympathies for your loss.

Please come here and lean on our shoulders whenever you feel the need.

{{{HUGS}}}

 

[Blondie]

I'll keep you and your daughters in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[Meriweather]

{{{{hugs}}}} Vicki.
That is such a terrible thing
Prayers are with you and your family.

 

[Kitty 34]

Vicki, I am so sorry to hear about your husband. Please accept my hugs and prayers for you and your daughters.

 

[antkim]

Vicki,
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I can only imagine what you and yours are feeling now. Please know that we are all here for you whenever need be. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time. Please take care.
Kim

 

[Pin Wizard]

((((((((((((((((((((((((Hugs)))))))))))))))))))))))))

I'm sooooooooooo sorry, Vicki! I'm also widowed. I have a ten year old son who keeps me going. My husband was 38 and had a massive heart attack. I was pregnant with our only child at the time. I still feel so sad that my son didn't get to have his dad here with him. E-mail me any time if you want to talk!

 

[lizzie64]

Vicki,
I am so deeply sorry for your loss. I will pray for you and your girls. May god give you the strength you need to carry on and provide the support your girls will need at this time. Please take the time to take care of yourself as well.

And don't think it crazy to come here to the DIS. This is a wonderful bunch of people, very supportive, so please come here and lean on us as often as you need to.

Liz

 

[Debbie]

Vicki, I know that words can't convey to you our sense of helplessness. Please know that we are thinking of you and your babes and our prayers have been sent. May God give you the strength to weather the storm. Blessings.

 

[binny]

Im so very sorry.

My prayers and best wishes to you and your family.