Graduation checks

[Mad4Mickey]

What is standard for a Graduation check given as a gift these days ?

A old neighbor of ours ( we have not lived by one another for about 10 yrs) but have had contact here and there as our boys have stayed best friends for over 22 years. They have a daughter that is graduating and I planned to send a card with 50 bucks in it . My son just told me I am being cheap . I really never had much contact with the daughter as she was born after the boys were almost in high school . Is that to cheap ?
When her brother graduated ( he spent more time with us then his own parents so we felt like he was ours ) we gave him 250.00

TIA
MAD4Mickey

 

[teedisney]

I do $50.

 

[Eureka]

I only send grad checks to nieces and nephews for high school or college. We send $100.

 

[MSSANDRA]

While I think 50 would be a fine amount, since you gave one of the children so much more, I would feel awkward giving so much less to the other sibling.

 

[clh2]

I realize that a lot of this is regional.

My DD graduated from HS last year. A standard "friend" (as opposed to close friends, family, grandparents etc) was from $20-$50.

My "favorite" check that she received LAST year was $20.12. Obviously - this year, one would need to up the ante to $20.13!

And - maybe I could quote a dear, dear friend of mine who came to my DD's graduation. Someone had inquired what was an appropriate amount to give for a gift. My friend had indicated that she gave my DD $25, and she had given a different HS grad $50, and why she did what she did for each of the grads. (My friend has known the other grad since she was practically a newborn, and my DD not so well.)

To the OP - I think $50 is more than generous, and would probably be more than I would give in a similar situation.

 

[clh2]

While I think 50 would be a fine amount, since you gave one of the children so much more, I would feel awkward giving so much less to the other sibling.

The amount difference wouldn't bother me in the least. The relationships are entirely different between the brother and your son, as well as between the sister and you.

 

[disneyfreakk]

Invite your son to make up the difference with his own money. See if that does not change his thinking.

$50 seems fine to me.

 

[tvguy]

$50 is very generous.

$20-$30 would be an reasonable range to me.

 

[clh2]

Invite your son to make up the difference with his own money. See if that does not change his thinking.

$50 seems fine to me.

Great solution!!!

 

[dreamin_disney]

My dad will sometimes send my dd14 $$ sometimes its $100, $50 and the other day $20. She was happy with the $20 too! I think $50 is more then enough. I think Kids need to just be happy with whatever amount they get small or big. Its very nice of you to think about their daughter

 

[Darcy03231]

When DS graduated last year all of his cash/check gifts from neighbors were $25. I think $50 is very generous.

 

[dpswift]

I agree that $50 is being generous. Our 4th child is graduating this year we did not have parties for the other 3. I would be shocked if Dd gets more than 1 or 2 checks in that amount. There is a big difference between a child that you see daily and one that you are just friends with the family. If the parents do not understand that maybe they are being friends for the wrong reason.

 

[Claire&TheBoys]

When we get grad announcements from church friends' kids or cousins' kids, we generally send $25 check or giftcard if we know they're saving up to buy something particular, like a laptop. We are in the midst of a string of nieces/nephews graduating (one last year, one this year, two next year) and we decided last year that we'd do $50 each to be fair.

 

[MrsPete]

Giving ANYTHING is an option, especially since you don't know the girl well. In this circumstance, I think $50 is generous.

However, since you did give the brother more, I'd lean towards something that isn't so readily "compare-able". I'd give her a nice pair of earrings or a bracelet instead of money.

 

[MichelleinMaine]

My "favorite" check that she received LAST year was $20.12. Obviously - this year, one would need to up the ante to $20.13!

This is what I do and I always get a smile or comment out of it. It's my standard gift for friends/church kids graduating.

 

[HM]

I send $50. My kids have received $25-50 from relatives.

 

[daughtersrus]

For college graduations, I usually give $100 with a Payday candybar tied to the card.

 

[Mad4Mickey]

Invite your son to make up the difference with his own money. See if that does not change his thinking.

$50 seems fine to me.

I love this ! he is 24 and is more then able to make up the difference LOL

 

[North of Mouse]

I give $20 for distant relatives that send card from out of state (wouldn't know these kiddos on the street). We give $50 to close friend's children - not necessarily close to their children - just for friendship's sake.

 

[horseshowmom]

Invite your son to make up the difference with his own money. See if that does not change his thinking.

$50 seems fine to me.

Too funny!

When DS graduated last year all of his cash/check gifts from neighbors were $25. I think $50 is very generous.

I agree. I generally send $25 unless they are very close to me. $50 is fine.