Gr. Separate bedrooms would be great

[Andtototoo]

Dh started to snore. I am a VERY light sleeper. In passing, I complained to my doctor and she gave me all sorts of information on the very serious health costs of having sleep interrupted over a period of time (including high blood pressure, mood changes, greater risk of heart attack, decreased productivity and of course, the danger of falling asleep at the wrong moment.) She said that in her practice, she has been able to help many women solve serious health problems by helping their husbands solve their snoring issues or by the woman sleeping elsewhere.


Long story short, I told him to do something about it or we'd be sleeping separately, non-negotiable. He went to the doctor and she helped him find a solution. If he hadn't, we wouldn't be sleeping in the same bed together. I don't understand why a partner's denial of a problem trumps my need to sleep. Sleep is not a luxury, it's a biological need.

 

[JamesMom]

This thread is fantastic! I am so happy to see so many couples who manage marriage without a shared bed! Hubby and I have slept separate almost our entire 10 years together. He snores - loudly - kids know when he is asleep and can hear him in their rooms! He flops and startles awake easily. He sleeps maybe 6 hours a night and it is very common for him to wake up at 2am and play on the computer a couple of hours before going back to bed. Now, on the other hand, I NEED a good 8 hours of sleep or I turn into a monster after a few nights. It takes me a while to fall asleep so once I wake up at night, it is hard for me to go back to sleep quickly - usually takes an hour or two with a book. So putting the two of us in the same bed usually means waking each up constantly if we get to sleep in the first place. He sleeps in his study at the front of the house with me in the master in back. Two kids and lots of 'fun' later - I wouldn't change a thing!
At first DH thought the kids would be scarred by not having their parents share a bed, but now that my oldest is 9 - we are past that. I don't think his parents know yet, though they probably suspect with a sheeted foton in the study - lol. He is embarassed to have his parents and others know - so don't tell him I told y'all okay? LOL.

 

[HOGFAN]

got yall all beat...DH not only snores loudly but has RESTLESS LEG SYNDROME as well.....every 20 seconds his right foot contracts and shakes..
Unless I gork myself out with 2 Ambien it is a no go...
I do try to sneak out of bed but he wakes up(probably because he is not getting REM sleep due to the shaking) and acts like he is getting his feelings hurt..every time.

The kids have told him he shakes and snores...I even went to the trouble to VIDEOTAPE him to show him later....he still denies it and refuses to take any meds for it..

 

[*JoGo*]

OP again...
I'd say I'm glad I'm not alone but that's kind of mean.

I'm a heavy sleeper and also fall asleep easily. Almost every night I wake up between 4-5am, go to the bathroom, feed my cats, take my synthroid, and am back in bed asleep within 5-10 minutes. During the summer, when I'm off work, I never hear dh's alarm clock go off, I know I'm not getting up and I sleep right through it.

My dh definitely snores. Sometimes I shake the bed to get him to move. Finally one day he said something about waking up a lot during the night and I confessed it was me! He was really upset. What am I supposed to do?

The irony is that I think I may be the one with apnea.

My mom thought it was weird that we didn't sleep together, but I didn't care. There was an article or segment on a show she saw that talked about spearate rooms being rather common. I told her we are ahead of the curve. And as I said in a PP, as soon as there's a room for dh, it's all his! Unfortunately, my oldest son is only 11. Maybe dh can share a room with one of the boys.

 

[Planogirl]

DH had a sleep study done and had surgery on his nose and throat but none of that helped. He was also given a mouth device to wear that he bit down on so hard that it bent and was useless.

We finally gave up and since then we've slept very happily apart. The problem is when we stay in a hotel now. We shoot for suites.

 

[Chelley00]

The problem is when we stay in a hotel now. We shoot for suites.

We went on a cruise in June. I slept on the balcony

 

[mariolatry]

My DH also snores. I wear my iPod, using a white noise generator at max volume. It's just loud enough to drown him out. My ears hurt after a while with the earbuds but without them, no sleep.

 

[phred52]

We went to separate beds about a year ago. (Married 24 years) DH was documented as moving his legs 52 times per HOUR during his latest sleep study. He uses a CPAP machine, full face mask which stopped his snoring cold turkey. But those leg movements finally got to me. AND now I can sleep with the blankets TUCKED IN!