Gr. Separate bedrooms would be great

[*JoGo*]

I went to bed at 10pm.
Dh came in at 1:30am.

I've been wide awake since and he is just snoring away. I have to be up in 3 hours. It's going to be a very long day.

 

[Tweevil]

I hear ya... mine isn't a DH but a cat that thinks he owns the pillows.

I am going to remove him and shut my door. Can you do that with hubby? LOL


Hope you get sleep.

 

[maslex]

I totally LOVE sleeping separately from my DH. Seriously. LOL And for that particular reason too. His snoring is completely unbearable. Not only that, he's a blanket hog, a bed hog and he breathes VERY loudly. Plus, he likes the bedroom in complete silence whereas I like to have some kind of background noise (whether it be a fan running on high or the AC or the humidfier)

Well, a little over three years ago, I hurt my back pretty badly and ended up having to sleep on our recliner in the living room. Let me tell you, it was THE BEST sleep I had in a LOOOOOOOONNNNGGGGGGG time!!! I actually slept through the night, I had all my blankets on me by morning time. It was pure bliss. Unfortunately, it took about 2 1/2 years for my back to be fixed (this past May actually) but I'm still sleeping in my recliner. I have tried a couple times to go back into bed but there is no way I could do that. Sometimes, sleeping in different rooms keeps your sanity. LOL

 

[bas71873]

Another separate sleeping couple here...most of the time anyway. DH travels A LOT for his work so I sleep alone most of the time anyway, but when DH was home for almost 2 weeks over Christmas, I woke up in the guest room almost every morning. The snoring drives me nuts and if momma doesn't get her sleep, everyone in the house better watch out! I've hit him, kicked him, rolled him over, NOTHING seems to stop the snoring and I refuse to spend the rest of my life sleep deprived

You're not alone OP

 

[SookieStackhouse]

My DH and I have had separate rooms for years. It is the best thing that has ever happened to me! I can actually sleep and get some rest, and it is wonderful. I do not think I could ever share a room again. My cat does usually sleep on the bed with me, but she doesn't bother me.

 

[kacaju]

LOL!! same here!! I can't sleep when he snores...sometimes I wake up and he is NOT snoring..then I think that he is dead...so I have to lay awake waiting for him to move so I know he is still alive. Then the dog is snoring...I get hot flashes, dh is cold and wants the electric blanket on high...it never ends... I love sleeping alone

 

[MIGrandma]

DH and I have been happily married for 36+ years, but we have had separate bedrooms for several years now.

He was a huge snorer and I'm a light sleeper so spent many sleepless nights in the same bed with him, or I would get frustrated and sleep on the couch.

Finally decided to sleep in an upstairs bedroom, and we BOTH slept much better.

He did have a sleep study done a year ago, and has a CPAP machine so he no longer snores. So we tried sleeping together again, but we were both so conscious of the other one that we didn't sleep well. We were afraid to move, and possibly wake the other. Plus we are both used to having a bed to ourselves, and he flops his arms and hits me in the head.

So, I'm back to sleeping upstairs. It works for us. On vacations we almost always get a room with 2 beds, or if it's a king we can manage to sleep together since it's a big, big bed.

 

[Boston Tea Party]

Ugh. I was up last night too with a sick dog. I let her out at 2 AM to eat grass and she stayed out for 30 minutes. I am too old to sleep like I have an infant to take care of.

 

[Becky2005]

And this is why we DO have seperate bedrooms. No, we don't have a rocky relationship as some would assume. We just like our sleep. LOL!

I'm sorry you weren't able to sleep. Makes for a long day,

 

[SandrA9810]

I don't like sleeping alone, but I'm a pretty sound sleeper once I get to sleep. So I have to go to bed first. If not, some one's getting beat up in the night. A nudge, a push, a kick, or even a tickle. I do like having seperate blankets, I am a hog when it comes to that.

 

[penn19]

I went to bed at 10pm.
Dh came in at 1:30am.

I've been wide awake since and he is just snoring away. I have to be up in 3 hours. It's going to be a very long day.

You're living my life! Every night I go through this. Time sometimes varies, but I wind up on the sofa. I NEED my sleep!

It's frustrating because I think part of the problem is he is overweight and drinks alcohol. And he knows it's a problem but does nothing about it.

 

[mamajo]

Marriage saver. We've been separate for about 15 years. He breeches like a whale and snores. What with taking care of the child too, I was losing my mind with lack of sleep. It's very nice to have my own space. We've been married 24 years so it's not hurting us -- it helped us!!

 

[deegack]

I wear ear plugs

 

[maslex]

LOL!! same here!! I can't sleep when he snores...sometimes I wake up and he is NOT snoring..then I think that he is dead...so I have to lay awake waiting for him to move so I know he is still alive. Then the dog is snoring...I get hot flashes, dh is cold and wants the electric blanket on high...it never ends... I love sleeping alone

OMG---I actually laughed out loud on this one. I've done that one too many times. I wake up....he's not rumbling the walls down with his snoring and then I'm waiting for him to either breathe or move so I know he's still alive.

 

[kt_mom]

We go through the same thing a lot. I go to bed early around 10 or so and he stays up watching TV until at least midnight usually. When he comes to bed it wakes me up but he falls asleep right away and goes straight to snoring. Then it takes me forever to fall back asleep. Then I have to get up usually at least an hour before him.

 

[tyniknate]

OMG....I'm so glad I've found this thread. I am showing it to my DH when I get home tonight. Every time I suggest we have separate bedrooms he gets totally offended and takes it personally. I hate to be touched while I'm sleeping. Even the slightest move wakes me up and then I have to listen to the snoring until I can manage to fall back asleep. I also like the fan on (even on the coldest nights) and I like my room cold while I sleep. Sleeping next to him is like sleeping with an electric blanket.

Why does he get so offended with the mere mention of separate bedrooms? Any suggestions on how I can gently break him into this?

 

[*JoGo*]

OP here. I was up until after 5am. I went into my sons room to sleep but just could not go back to sleep. Dh insists he didn't wake me up. I am a very heavy sleeper, he woke me up. And the snoring riled me up.

We did sleep separately for about 2 years. He slept on the couch. I loved having the bed to myself. Then we got a new couch that was uncomfortable. We are currently waiting for a new couch to come in. Maybe he will be going back to the living room! We don't have a spare room. . My InLaws sleep separate also. My FIL snores the house down. They each have their own bedroom with attached bathroom. If we ever move, he will be getting his own room. And he can decorate it all ugly and keep his clutter there.

I just have to get thru the day!

 

[bjscheel]

Usually turning so that my head is at the foot of the bed is enough distance from the snoring that I can fall asleep. Rather than having it right in my ear. Otherwise I nudge him every time till he changes positions and quits for a while.

I suspect DH doesn't snore as loud as some others.

 

[lovin'fl]

Ugh. I was up last night too with a sick dog. I let her out at 2 AM to eat grass and she stayed out for 30 minutes. I am too old to sleep like I have an infant to take care of.

My dog does that very frequently too. She has a sensitive tummy. I'll hear her pulling up the carpet (to eat if she can't eat grass) by the back door...she gets ahold of the loops in the carpet and pulls out a lengthy thread. I'll awake to hear a pop...pop...popping sound (either that or her throwing up) and know her tummy is bugging her and she needs to get outside to eat grass. Then, I have to sit and wait while she's outside.

My DH also comes in late and wakes me...or gets up early and wakes me...or snores and wakes me. I also have a DS-15 who keeps some late hours and doesn't think anything of shutting doors or cabinets loudly at 1 am. I hardly get some decent sleep in my house. Whenever I'm asked what I'd like to do for a special day (like Mother's Day or my birthday), I think- have the house to myself for the night where I can lay in bed, watch tv and then get a good night's sleep.

 

[Minnesota!]

DH and I slept separate for over 2 years - great sleep!

We have been sharing a bed for 2 years again and since he got his CPAP machine, it's been good. I need the TV on to sleep, he needs his CD of rain and we both need the fan. So the room is LOUD and cold.

When he does snore (he snores even above his CPAP machine) I do what a PP said - turn so my head is at the bottom of the bed. Enough distance, closer to the TV, etc.

But, if we had the room for separate bedrooms in our house, I would so do it again!