SplashMountainMama
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A lot of the posts from people preferring to use mid-wives seem to be coming with the message that it made for a more pleasant experience for the mother. While that's all good and well, IMO, the enjoyment of the mother should come second to the safety of the baby. No one can predict exactly how a labour and delivery will progress and if a problem were to develop I wouldn't want to be in the position of not realizing it because you weren't being monitered as regularly or of having to be transferred to a hospital mid-way through delivery. Honestly, your child is not going to care where he/she was delivered or whether or not it was an OB or a mid-wife so I have a hard time with mothers-to-be making it all about them. I have had 6 kids all delivered in hospital (2 of them delivered by nurses) and not one of my kids has ever said "Gee, I wish I'd been delivered at home by a mid-wife." Sorry, if this comes across as a bit snotty, but I know 3 women who delivered with mid-wives and 2 of the 3 have children that now have special needs because of complications during delivery. I know this isn't the norm, but it has to make you wonder. Good luck to the OP in making your decision and congratulations!
, but again, everyone's experience is unique. 
My DD was the hardest, but the nurse who helped me was awesome! I love my OB practice, but I will say the nurses are the ones who help during labor - and of course, my dear husband!
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I completely agree with you. I delivered at one of the top hospitals in the country and it's 100% dedicated to women and babies. They have a NICU, not just a Special Care Nursery and deliver close to 10,000 babies every year. They do have an alternative birthing center within the confines of the hospital if that is the route you take. I said countless times when I was pregnant how lucky I was to have this state of the art facility as an option. Though I had an uncomplicated (text book actually) pregnancy, experience tells me that an uncomplicated pregnancy does not equate to an uncomplicated delivery. I wanted to be in a place where specialized care was foot steps away.