Good idea or gruesome?

[1stluvispooh]

Now that is funny! I wonder if they would be wigged out if they knew?

OP, I don't think it's creepy at all to be talking about what you want done when you die. In fact, I wish more people did that. I have two words for you--Terri Schiavo. If people would have this difficult conversation families would not be faced with the terrible decisions of "what would he want". Everyone should have an Advanced Directive and they should share it with their family members. It makes things abundantly clear at the end. And let's face--sometimes adults *do* die young. No getting around that. To me, its a travesty when they *don't* have an AD.

Now as far as the diamonds, that's your choice. If my DH were to die I would not waste the money on that. My kids would much rather have the money go into a trust than wear a fake diamond.

The only people who have spent the night since I got Dad's ashes have been my sister who is a physical anthropologist so it didn't wig her out at all and a friend of the family who just said "I've always liked Jim" Now my SIL is coming next week. I think I will keep the little fact that my dad's ashes are in the closet to myself.

 

[cteddiesgirl]

For some reason, I think its far less gruesome than keeping someone's ashes in a jar on the mantel. Didn't know it could be done though. Interesting...

Agreed. I don't know if this is something I would want to have, but to each their own. No one outside of those in the know, would ever know what the diamond was really made of.


But then again, what is coal and real diamonds made of if not the remains of plants and animals from millions of years ago?

 

[MaryAnnDVC]

When reading this, my first thought was "What happens if you lose it?" I think it would be far more devastating than losing an engagement ring. It absolutely cannot be replaced.

That would be a huge fear for me...losing the diamond(s).

If my DH were to die I would not waste the money on that. My kids would much rather have the money go into a trust than wear a fake diamond.

Also, how could you ever really be certain that what they send you were actually made from the specific ashes you sent?

As far as better than being in an urn on the mantel, I know my parents are planning on having their urns placed in a marked niche in beautiful memorial garden in their church. I do sort of like that idea.

I'd wonder about that too...if it was really my loved one. I actually have always wondered if our dog is really in the box we got back. But as someone pointed out, that could happen with any remains.

You know what I think it creepy? Traditional burial. Filling someone full of chemicals, painting them, putting them in an expensive box, putting that box into another lead lined box, and then putting them into the ground. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with it (from an emotional/moral point of view, ecologically is a different story) but the whole concept gives me the heeby jeebies. I'd much rather be cremated.

I agree. I do understand that people need to do what makes them comfortable. My mom would never agree to be cremated, and if she were in charge of my remains (she's not...I'm married, and she's 87 and in bad health), she would never follow through on MY wishes. But that's another dysfunctional family story. LOL

My main concerns would be "Is that diamond really my DH?" I know it can happen with remains anyway but I'm not *wearing* them.
2) losing it.
3) so, if a man loses his wife and has a diamond made and then gets engaged to another woman, how can be sure he isn't giving you his first wife? Yikes! lol

Well that's creepy! LOL And I'd definitely worry about losing it if I were you; we know how you lose things. Just sayin'.

I first heard about having human ashes made into diamonds on the reality show "Family Plots" a few years back...the mortuary owner had his son's ashes made into earrings, I think for his daughter (the owner's daughter, his son's sister).

 

[jazzielady]

My main concerns would be "Is that diamond really my DH?" I know it can happen with remains anyway but I'm not *wearing* them.
2) losing it.
3) so, if a man loses his wife and has a diamond made and then gets engaged to another woman, how can be sure he isn't giving you his first wife? Yikes! lol

The diamonds that I've seen are of different colors, so unless you accept an engagement diamond ring of other than a white (clear) color, I don't see this as an issue.

 

[Mrs. Charming]

I heard of this a few years back, I think it's a neat idea. Especially with a pendant, he's always close to your heart.

 

[disney1990]

I find it interesting.

My DH has donated his body (when he dies) to a medical school. They keep it for one year, cremate the body, and the either bury the ashes or return them to the family.

What your DH is suggesting is pretty expensive. I just found this on Google.

http://www.funeral-urn.com/ashes-to-diamonds-cremation-jewelry.aspx

 

[disykat]

I don't think it's creepy if YOU, as his wife, wanted to wear a diamond ring of this nature. I do think it's creepy making them for the kids. As someone else mentioned, a diamond ring is usually used as a symbol when getting married. It seems inappropriate to me.

Necklaces, or something else, for the girls wouldn't bother me so much. However, I would think, unless you are quite wealthy, that money for their college or money to help with the family expenses when a wage earner is gone would be more helpful.

 

[Lassie Lynne]

I find this very interesting. What if many many years it passes from your family....just think, 50 years from now, at an antique store, someone could be buying Uncle Charlie without even knowing it. I actually would probably enjoy that idea that I was turned into jewelry.....I enjoy it so much....jewelry that is.


(sorry...spent the day at antique stores and I always wonder what is the story behind all of the things....)