Going to the funeral of someone you don't know?

[luvmarypoppins]

Ds told us that someone from his work died and he is going to the viewing tomm. He said he didnt even know the lady, never met her etc. but they are all going to show solidarity to the dh which I thought was really nice. It just got me to thinking, have you ever gone to the funeral of someone you havent known, not with someone else, but something like this, maybe from work or an organization etc?

 

[LaraK]

Yup, quite a few times. Usually it's a relative of someone affiliated with my company (co-worker's mother or spouce)

 

[DisneyMomOK]

I am going to a co-worker's father's funeral on Monday. I never met him, but his daughter is a special person and deserves our support. It is about an hour and half drive from where I live, but it seems that I should do this.

Sharon

 

[CourtasanSatine]

Once when a classmate's father died, his daughter is a good friend.

 

[freckles and boo]

I have been to a number of visitations when the deceased is a relative of someone I know simply to show my support. The only funeral I have been to when I didn't directly know the person was when one of my colleagues lost her three-year-old son. It was the saddest and most moving funeral I have ever been to and I hope NEVER to have to go to another funeral for a child again.

 

[BuckyFan04]

I went to the funeral of the grandmother of one of my close friends back in high school.

 

[GJM]

Yes - a few times with people from work. If a parent died we would all try and go together.

 

[ducklite]

I went to the funeral of the mother of the fiance of one of DH's friends. It was simply the right thing to do.

Anne

 

[bigbabyblues]

Yes. One of my co-workers grandson passed away when he was 6. Our entire office went together, as well as participating in a yard sale she (our office, really) had to raise money for him and his family.

 

[sweet angel]

I went to 2.

One was the husband of a close co-worker. The other was a boy in my son's grade who was killed in an ultralight plane crash. That one was awful -- teenage boys were sobbing, the parents were just numb. Horrible. My son didn't actually know him, but felt he needed to go, so we did.

 

[Mrs.Toad]

Yes, I've gone to the funeral of a coworker's husband whom I'd never met, and also the funeral of a friends husband whom I'd only met briefly a couple of times. Both were to show support for the widow and the kids.

 

[goofygirl]

No. I don't feel right about going to a funeral for someone I didn't know, a total stranger. Once in awhile a coworker's family member will die and other coworkers will go, but I won't. Besides, someone has to stay behind and work while the rest go to the funeral. But I will contribute if a collection is being taken up.

 

[DisneyfeverTN]

I have been to three funerals where I didn't know the person who died.

The first one was the funeral of a lady who worked for our company. She was murdered. Many people in our company went to show support for the family.

The second was for the funeral of a parent of my DD's classmates when my DD was in 1st grade. The mother was murdered. The funeral service was huge.

The third was the funeral for my ex's step-sister's baby. The baby was a twin and died of SIDS. It was the saddest funeral.

 

[Buckalew11]

Yes, quite a few. In fact, my first funeral was for a classmate's dad in 6th grade. I wanted to support my friend and also wanted the first time I saw death face to face, I did not want to be emotionally attached.

It really means a lot to the family. When my dad died, there were people he worked with that I did not know who came to the funeral. Also, there were friends of mine and my sister's who came who who did not know my dad. It really, really meant a lot.

 

[WebmasterMaryJo]

I do go in support of the person I know.

I know that when my parents died it was comforting to know that people cared enough about me to come to their memorials or funerals and give me support.

 

[Disney Doll]

Yes. If I didn't know the deceased, it's usually because I knew their relative....friend's grandmother, co-worker's spouse...that sort of thing.

 

[disneynutt1225]

Yes, I've been to a funeral where I didn't know the deceased. My boss's husband died a month or so ago. While I didn't know him at all, I went in support of her.

My coworker's grandmother died last week, but because I don't know her very well I opted not to go to the wake. I will probably get her a sympathy card, though, and show my support that way.

It depends on how close I am to the person I guess (or the person left behind, in the above instances).

 

[Hermosa11]

Yup, quite a few times. Usually it's a relative of someone affiliated with my company (co-worker's mother or spouce)

same here. It is a sign to show support for your co-worker.

 

[Liberty Belle]

I've gone to the funerals of people I never met, but it was to support one of their loved ones whom I did know.

 

[MM27]

My mom once told me that funerals are not for those that have passed but for those that are still living. Just because you don't know the person that died, the people that are mourning the loss need to know there are people that support them and are there for them. I've gone to several funerals where I had never met the person that died, but I did know a family member.