I've got mixed feelings.
On one hand, it's a way for friends and family to help in a time of need. I know a mom who's son just had surgery for a brain tumor. He's been very sick for several weeks, but was just diagnosed last week. A fund was set up to help with expenses related to their health needs and due to time lost at work. I know her through a message board similar to this and we've been online friends for about 9 years. Lots of people who donated aren't IRL friends, but friends that met online at around the same time as I met her. I don't view this as a money grab, but a way for people who care about her family to help in a time of need.
I find some of the viral gofundme funds as strange, the man who walked 21 miles and the New Zealand dad with the baby born with Down Syndrome and abandoned by the father, for example. The later had set an original goal of $60,000- an amount meant to help him and his baby get back to his native country and set up a new home, medical expenses, etc. It's now gone over $300,000 (last I looked a few days ago). That seems like a money grab. To not shut it down after reaching a certain amount seems- I don't know- greedy. I understand the good feeling people get for donating to such funds, but some of the amounts seem very excessive (and do those people donate also to their own family and friends in need, or just viral funds?)
Another thing that I've noticed is that tragedy is a money maker. I hate that feeling. I've seen funds set up for funeral costs for a child- it's tragic, but why the heck is the account set up for $50,000, $100,000 or more? The vibe I get is that the parents are making money off the death of the child. Gofundme for funeral expenses shouldn't be like hitting the jackpot.
An additional thought: funds set up for loss of a parent. Do people with children and spouses not have life insurance? I know it can be an expense, but I can't fathom a person having things like cell phones (or
Disney vacations) and not having a proper life insurance plan in place for their family first. There was recently a father of 11 (IIRC) who died in a car accident. The fund set up raised $250,000 in a matter of days as he was very well known in his real life community as well as online community. It's commendable that people help this family, but it begs the question- Was there life insurance?
My family has gone through some very difficult years recently due to multiple job losses. The idea of a fund had never crossed my mind, but I can't say that if other tragedies strike (Gd forbid!) that I would deter a friend or family member from setting one up for us.