I'm gluten intolerant, I hate to say I have Celiacs because I haven't done the biopsy and because I can tolerate small amounts - bread sends me into gastrointestial distress, but if a cruton touches my salad or the soup was thickened with a little flour, I can handle it.
For me, its realitively easy because I simply don't order anything that is obviously gluten loaded - nothing breaded (no fish and chips, fried chicken or onion rings), but I can easily eat most options. If I slip and have a little too much, it just means cramps, bloating, gas and a few more trips to the bathroom for eight-ten hours. I don't feel the need to burden the chef with ingrediants (and I HATE gluten free bread anyway - I'd rather just not have bread).
Counter service IS harder - because its so often "something on a bun" - know your menus and don't be afraid to resort to a salad. Table service is easy, have them hold the rolls, don't order anything breaded, don't order soup if you are touchy, and you get lots of creme brulee as dessert.