Girls

[Mur13]

Why do you have to be so weird?

So I dated this girl Kristin for a couple of months. We broke up because she said she liked some other guy...but now we're talking again. Except, she still likes me, but she doesn't want to date. She wants to try this "friends with benefits" thing.

So basically her and I are going to the Winter Formal together. Which is nice. Apparantly, she wants to be able to hookup any time too. Which is even better.

She wants to keep up our old routine too. After school, I walk her out to the parking lot, and we hug and kiss goodbye.

So, I pose the question, "Well whats the difference?". She says, "We can hook up with other people too."

So here is my conundrum: I like her and all, and I like the option of being able to hook up with her. Theres other girls I've had my eye on too, but this whole friends with benefits actually isn't helping me. She can hook up with me and another guy, no questions asked (what she thinks, I'll probably get mad, but thats another story). But, obviously, I cannot go out and hook up with another girl and Kristin without it being considered cheating on the other girl.

So girls, I pose you this question: Why must you have everything your way? It sucks for us guys.

 

[Sparx]

Do you want to keep the 'friends with benifits' thing going with kristin?

 

[Mur13]

Yea, I like her and all, but if I did exercise my end of the benefits with another girl, at my school, if I hooked up with her and then Kristin, it'd be cheating.

 

[Sparx]

Yea, I like her and all, but if I did exercise my end of the benefits with another girl, at my school, if I hooked up with her and then Kristin, it'd be cheating.

well thats where you have to decide.

Are you going to go with kristin? who you know will be with other guys, or have a legit relationship with the other girl?

 

[BabyPiglet]

Do you like her. Or do you just want to hook up with her. If I wanted to hook up with some one and date another. Iwouldn't care if the guy done it to. But of course I have a bf for 3 years so I wouldn't do that. Do whatever you wnat.

 

[Babyjustrun]

FWB isn't the greatest idea ever. I think you should stick to honest and nice relationships. I don't really like the entire 'let's hook up and forget about it by tomorrow' thing.

 

[BabyPiglet]

You know Kristin will be hooking up with other guys.But this other girl you like could be a good, stable relationship. I prefer stable but whatever floats your boat I guess..

OMG (FLOATS YOUR BOAT?) I sound like my mom. Ahhhhhhh!

 

[Mur13]

well thats where you have to decide.

Are you going to go with kristin? who you know will be with other guys, or have a legit relationship with the other girl?

I don't know if she'll be with other guys...she won't straight tell me. I know I'd be seriously pissed if I found out about the other guy. And I really really like Kristin.

Plus, I don't know of another girl who likes me. If I talk to them enough, they start liking me. But, I don't know if I would be able to get in a serious relationship with another girl...I like to have serious conversations, and the number of girls at my school who aren't downright DUMB is low.

 

[BabyPiglet]

You're in a pickle, not a banana ???

 

[Mickey1122]

FWB isn't the greatest idea ever. I think you should stick to honest and nice relationships. I don't really like the entire 'let's hook up and forget about it by tomorrow' thing.

 

[PrincessKally]

well your in a pickle. But so if shes keeping her old routine...its basically like ur dating but not officially and she can go out and hook-up with anyone else? so to me that kinda jsut makes her look slutty and low.I'm sure theres another girl you could have a better realtionship with. especially if your not gona like to hear if she is hooking up with someone + you.
some girls... lol

 

[Sparx]

I don't know if she'll be with other guys...she won't straight tell me. I know I'd be seriously pissed if I found out about the other guy. And I really really like Kristin.

Plus, I don't know of another girl who likes me. If I talk to them enough, they start liking me. But, I don't know if I would be able to get in a serious relationship with another girl...I like to have serious conversations, and the number of girls at my school who aren't downright DUMB is low.

If she won't tell you that shes NOT going to hook up with another guy, she probably is. Thats the problem with flings. I'm sure there is a great girl at your school who isn't downright dumb. Maybe you should take a little time off from flings and relationships to find her?

 

[BabyPiglet]

Have you ever thought of just being single. Forgetting Kristin and focusing on something else. ?

 

[U Just Got PUNKD]

If I were you I'd just stick with being just 'friends' with here.
But, that's just me.

 

[AngienLuLu]

FWB isn't the greatest idea ever. I think you should stick to honest and nice relationships. I don't really like the entire 'let's hook up and forget about it by tomorrow' thing.

 

[Loves Disney]

Sounds to me like she is using you as "back-up". Seems to me like she wants you at her fingertips so in case the guy she "hooks" up with in this deal you have going on breaks up with her, she isn't alone...she has you she can consider a "boyfriend".

If I were you, I would tell her that this "friends with benefits" thing just can't work...I mean, you are mixing with emotions here. Even if you guys say it is okay to be with other people, you will still be attached and it will pain the other to see the other kissing someone else.

I don't think much good can come from this and I would suggest that you get a girl who can hold a stable relationship with you.

I know it must be awful to think about losing her, cause I know that is must be a great thing to be this close with her...and that it is never easy to let her go because you enjoy her presence. However, it might not be all the rainbows and butterflies you may think.

 

[StephaBabe50]

Talk to Kristen about it.
Tell her that you really
like her but you dont like
the idea that she can be
with another guy and you
at the same time. Say
that you either want to
have a serious realationship
with her or nothing. See how
she reacts.

 

[Mur13]

So here's an update..

We talked about what she wanted to do and why...and we figured it out. Apparantley, she didn't think I loved her (huh?) and I just wanted her for sex (what?). So I told her...I said, look, I looked past you lieing to me, and I know I care about you more than anyone else she would hook up with, and that if she wanted to do this I'd just stop associating with her. SO, we decided to give it a a second try, completley exclusive relationship. No friends with benefits.

I don't trust her 100%..I really just can't. I'm willing to give her a second chance...but we'll have to see how it goes.

 

[BabyPiglet]

If that's what you wanted, I'm glad for you. But don't get to trusting, girls can be sneaky, Iknow cuz I am one!!!

 

[Miss.Sk8~alot]

i dont know but you should not keep on blaming it on girls gosh boys do it to