Girls-only Trip~Old thread, see first post for new one.

[mommaU4]

His blanket is still hanging over the back of his chair. His hair brush and personal care items are still sitting on the bathroom counter where he left them. She came right out and said she wasn't ready to go through his personal things yet.

Oh wow, this is so heartbreaking. Makes me want to cry. Your poor mom. Obviously you are both suffering and missing him, but it must be so hard for her to see those every day little reminders.

 

[disney-super-mom]

Wish this hug was in person...

Awwwww, me too.

Oh wow, this is so heartbreaking. Makes me want to cry. Your poor mom. Obviously you are both suffering and missing him, but it must be so hard for her to see those every day little reminders.

In a way it is heartbreaking and seeing his things can make me cry (and my mom cry), but in another way...maybe in a sick way...I also find comfort in seeing his things still there. That's probably strange, huh?

 

[mommaU4]

Well that was wacky. My post posted twice with a post from Beth in between the double posts. (Say that three times fast!)

Spooky - lol!

Twilight Zone...

 

[mommaU4]

In a way it is heartbreaking and seeing his things can make me cry (and my mom cry), but in another way...maybe in a sick way...I also find comfort in seeing his things still there. That's probably strange, huh?

I don't think so. I think when it comes to dealing with the loss of a loved one, there are no rules. You do what you have to do to make it through each day. Some days will be better than others. Some days your special memories will make you laugh, other days they will make you cry. There's no right or wrong.

 

[kelmac284]

((hugs)) Capri. You are NOT a wuss. Losing someone esp a beloved parent is super hard. And as Beth said there is no right or wrong way to grieve. I can totally see leaving things out because it can bring some comfort as some part of them is still there. I don't think there are any rules on how long someone takes to part with those items. I think it is just whenever you both feel it is time. And of course I am sure she will want to keep a few momentos just because.

Mel all your parties sound fun and exciting. Gosh I bet it is bittersweet having your last baby graduating. I know from what I have heard and seen with the diva trips that you are a master at party planning and just planning in general so I am sure the parties are going to be fab and lots of fun!! I agree with Beth pics please.

I am going to the parent meeting for the 6th grade camping trip tonight that I am chaperoning. Oh boy what did I get myself into LOL. I am looking forward to it but nervous at the same time. Hope I get a good group of kiddos.

Hope everyone has a great day!

 

[VintageDisneyRules]

Awwwww, me too.



In a way it is heartbreaking and seeing his things can make me cry (and my mom cry), but in another way...maybe in a sick way...I also find comfort in seeing his things still there. That's probably strange, huh?

Not strange at all. My Mom didn't even beging to get rid of my Dad's things until 3 years after he was gone. Us kids helped her go through his clothes and we talked about certain items, his favorites, where he got them, if they were gifts etc. We did this over a few weeks, little by little and it wasn't sad at all. It was actually nice. I thought it was a good way of doing it, much better than getting rid of his things all at once. Anyway however your family goes about it, it will be right for all of you.

 

[mommaU4]

Hello, ladies!! Happy Tuesday! It's so quiet here at home today. The kids went back to school yesterday, and Ruben's back at work today. Guess I need to get back to work, too. Laundry, vacuuming, and dishes all await me.


TTYL!!

 

[Grumpy Grandma]

Good morning all! I'm heading back down to So Cal. My DD is moving from LA (mid Wilshire area) to Marina del Rey so DH and I are going down to help her pack and move. She found a wonderful apartment right on the channel and only a 200 yard walk to the beach! So excited for her .... she has always wanted to live on the beach.

 

[charmama4]

Happy Easter ladies!

I am back from skiing. It wasn't the best snow but we knew that going up. Unfortunately, the first day I hurt my back. I was skiing down a run that was a very narrow chute - maybe 12 feet wide. Not my favorite but I can do that - or so I thought until I hit the moguls!! They were big and carved out. And with a narrow trail, I had very little room to turn. Now, I don't do moguls - hate them! So I started down, my thighs burning with the effort until about 3/4 of the way, I fell and twisted my back - ugh! So, I just popped off the skis and slid on my butt the rest of the way. I was still able to ski the rest of the week thanks to Advil and ice!! But am paying the price now!

But, the good news is I booked our flights for our DL trip in July when we get to stay in a Grand Villa - the 3 bedroom!! Can't wait!

Hope everyone has a great Easter!

oooooh! sorry about your back. Hope you are feeling better though. The last two times I went skiing I severly sprained the SAME knee!! That was back in the '80's , needless to say...skiing and Charlene do NOT mix!!

BTW, how exciting to be able to stay at the Grand Villas!!!

Good morning all! I'm heading back down to So Cal. My DD is moving from LA (mid Wilshire area) to Marina del Rey so DH and I are going down to help her pack and move. She found a wonderful apartment right on the channel and only a 200 yard walk to the beach! So excited for her .... she has always wanted to live on the beach.

ahhhh to live by the beach....it's not just a location it's a lifestyle!!!!

 

[disney-super-mom]

Good morning all! I'm heading back down to So Cal. My DD is moving from LA (mid Wilshire area) to Marina del Rey so DH and I are going down to help her pack and move. She found a wonderful apartment right on the channel and only a 200 yard walk to the beach! So excited for her .... she has always wanted to live on the beach.

That sounds so nice! I would love to live on the coast.

Hope the move goes smoothly.

 

[tinkermell]

In a way it is heartbreaking and seeing his things can make me cry (and my mom cry), but in another way...maybe in a sick way...I also find comfort in seeing his things still there. That's probably strange, huh?

NOPE! It took my mom over two years for some stuff.

 

[mommaU4]

Good morning all! I'm heading back down to So Cal. My DD is moving from LA (mid Wilshire area) to Marina del Rey so DH and I are going down to help her pack and move. She found a wonderful apartment right on the channel and only a 200 yard walk to the beach! So excited for her .... she has always wanted to live on the beach.

Good luck with the move. How exciting for her! Sounds like a nice location.

 

[Grumpy Grandma]

oooooh! sorry about your back. Hope you are feeling better though. The last two times I went skiing I severly sprained the SAME knee!! That was back in the '80's , needless to say...skiing and Charlene do NOT mix!!

BTW, how exciting to be able to stay at the Grand Villas!!!



ahhhh to live by the beach....it's not just a location it's a lifestyle!!!!

That sounds so nice! I would love to live on the coast.

Hope the move goes smoothly.

I've always wanted to live on the coast too but at least now I can spend lots of time visiting my DD ..... and pretend I live there.

 

[pixiewings71]

Capri, just wanted to give you some more (((HUGS)))

Is it Friday yet? I'm so ready for this week to be OVER!!! Last night's dance class was fun, the more I teach the more I enjoy it. I do try to take 1 day off per month, looks like this month will be 3 because of the Sharks playoffs and our trip to Vegas next weekend. I really need to go home tonight and clean my house and put away some of my craft stuff. I have no where to keep it so it tends to pile up. I have a few jewelry projects I'm working on so my beading stuff is all over the table, a few sewing projects as well so my sewing stuff is all over the kitchen table......it's a bit fat mess and I need to clean it up! LOL Yesterday the weather so nice out, it was 72 or something, today it's raining.......

 

[lulubelle]

You are not a wuss missy! You're just a momma, grandmomma, daughter, and friend with a big, beautiful, loving heart. And big hugs back at ya!

One step at a time my sweet friend. Glad you were able to visit your mom's grave site. I'm sure that had to have been so so hard. I can only imagine

I have yet to take a step. I went into my parent's walk in closet the other day, saw my dad's clothes, and burst into tears. Then for the rest of the day, everything little thing made me burst into tears. And that's when I felt like a wuss...or a mental case - haha!

My mom put away or got rid of all his hospice and medical items right away (the meds he took the last few weeks/days, the hospital bed, the hospital bedside table/tray, the oxygen generator and hoses, all the oxygen canisters, ect), but nothing else at this point. His blanket is still hanging over the back of his chair. His hair brush and personal care items are still sitting on the bathroom counter where he left them. She came right out and said she wasn't ready to go through his personal things yet. I know I wouldn't be able to do it either. But there's no rush. His things aren't going anywhere and will be there when we're ready.

I just wanted to say that my dear Chris has been gone for 19 months and our bedroom closet is exactly the same - all his clothes and shoes are stil there. On days when I am feeling strong I smell his robe (it's the only "unwashed" item of clothing I have of his). It usually makes me burst into tears. His dresser still has all his clothes and his side of the bathroom still has all his toiletries. It's pretty much like that in the rest of my house. I think because I live alone it's harder for me to change anything. And I am in no hurry

Love and hugs to Mel and Capri, you are such wonderful women and I know how hard it is.

Hi to everyone else.
I hope you all had a good Easter. Bree and I went to LaJolla and what a beautiful weekend it was. Now they say rain is coming tomorrow.

 

[LisaCat]

My trip to WDW in Jan/Feb I spent a week in a one bedroom at Bonnet Creek. I really enjoyed it! I didn't have a rental car so I used their shuttle ... not always the most convenient but I made it work. Have you stayed there before???

Yes, this will be my second stay there. I stayed there for a week in 2010 (October 31- Nov 6) with a friend of mine (1 bedroom, no car). It was her first EVER trip to ANY Disney park, so it was a lot of fun. It was my 3rd trip to WDW, but my first trip to AK and my first real visit to MK. When I was there in 2004 (3 days, the week before Christmas), we spent a half day in Epcot, a half day in DHS and a couple hours at MK. It was super cold, the days started out in the low 30's, so we skipped AK since people kept saying the animals wouldn't come outside. LOL. We spent the rest of the time traveling to the resorts to look at the Christmas decorations. It was fun, but I didn't see much of the parks or do many attractions. My 1st visit was in 1989, before MGM Studios (now DHS) opened and we were there for only 1 day, mostly at Epcot World Showcase.

 

[LisaCat]

I have yet to take a step. I went into my parent's walk in closet the other day, saw my dad's clothes, and burst into tears. Then for the rest of the day, everything little thing made me burst into tears. And that's when I felt like a wuss...or a mental case - haha!

I have one of my dad's jackets in my closet. 9 years later, it's finally starting to no longer smell like his house. I also have the hat he wore when it rained or was cold. That is in my room, on top of my stuffed Stitch's head. It's pretty cute on him. My dad had that hat most of my life. There is a picture of me at about 3 years of age wearing it and his raincoat. Funny stuff. LOL

 

[Grumpy Grandma]

Yes, this will be my second stay there. I stayed there for a week in 2010 (October 31- Nov 6) with a friend of mine (1 bedroom, no car). It was her first EVER trip to ANY Disney park, so it was a lot of fun. It was my 3rd trip to WDW, but my first trip to AK and my first real visit to MK. When I was there in 2004 (3 days, the week before Christmas), we spent a half day in Epcot, a half day in DHS and a couple hours at MK. It was super cold, the days started out in the low 30's, so we skipped AK since people kept saying the animals wouldn't come outside. LOL. We spent the rest of the time traveling to the resorts to look at the Christmas decorations. It was fun, but I didn't see much of the parks or do many attractions. My 1st visit was in 1989, before MGM Studios (now DHS) opened and we were there for only 1 day, mostly at Epcot World Showcase.

You really will have a lot of fun! I have a trip planned for this October and I'm hoping to meet some friends there for a long weekend in January.

 

[LisaCat]

I just wanted to say that my dear Chris has been gone for 19 months and our bedroom closet is exactly the same - all his clothes and shoes are stil there. On days when I am feeling strong I smell his robe (it's the only "unwashed" item of clothing I have of his). It usually makes me burst into tears. His dresser still has all his clothes and his side of the bathroom still has all his toiletries. It's pretty much like that in the rest of my house. I think because I live alone it's harder for me to change anything. And I am in no hurry

Awwwww.... hugs to you and to Capri.

My mother came down from Oregon about 2 or 3 weeks after Dad passed away and decided we needed to get rid of EVERYTHING. Clothes were bagged up and donated or tossed. All the bathroom stuff was tossed. She tried to toss all of his yearbooks and school stuff that my grandmother had saved and also a box of her things that Dad still had, but I put my foot down and brought those home. I had already taken the hat. She actually offered me the jacket because she thought I might wear it, which I could if I wanted to, but it's not quite my style. Or anyone's since I think it's from about 1975. LOL My sister and I really didn't have a lot of time to process anything before she came in and cleaned the place out. I had spent some time in the house every day for about 10 days, taking care of his satanic little bird before I found it a home (thank God), so I'd had a little time to kinda process it all and mentally lay claim to things I wanted. My sister is much like my mom and holds little or no sentimental value to "things", sometimes including photos. There were several heated discussions about stuff Mom tried to toss when I wasn't there. She was staying at the house and "cleaning" after my sister and I would go home for the night. She keeps telling me that she's going to get rid of all her stuff before she dies so that I don't try and keep a bunch of it. She says I've got too much stuff. WhatEVER. LOL

When Russ' dad passed away, his mom got rid of much of his clothing and stuff about 6 months later. She asked Russ and his sisters if they were upset that she was doing it so soon. My FIL had been ill for some time and had not been himself for about a year before he died. My MIL says she had a year and a half of "saying goodbye slowly", so that's why she was ready to let go of his things so soon, because she felt like he had already been gone for a while. The kids all got things that were sentimental to them and I have temporary custody of the photo album that Russ' grandmother had of FIL growing up. I've been scanning some of the photos here and there. Some fun stuff.

 

[LisaCat]

I made it thru the whole winter and all of last year too, without getting a cold. Now I've got one. Advil and Benadryl are my friends. And sleep. My appetite seems to have taken a leave of absence, which is OK. I have plenty of reserves to go on. LOL This grey, chilly weather isn't helping either. SIGH.