Girls Only~ OLD THREAD, new one linked in first post

[lulubelle]

Hi ladies--it's been a very hard day.

This morning I tried to call my Mom and no answer--I thought she was in the shower. Then around noon-time I tried again and no answer. So I drove out there. She was in bed and was in agony because apparently she fell last night, was able to get up and thought nothing of it and then woke up early this morning in pain. She couldn't move. Needless to say the paramedics were called again. Not good when you call the paramedics twice in less than a week. . . .. .

So off to the hospital again and before they took her I said to her "you know they're probably not going to let you come back here." Sure enough, I had barely walked through the door into her ER room and the nurses were on me. They gave her pain meds so she was out of it most of the time, so the decision-making was left up to me. This is a decision I was hoping never to make--it sounds terrible to say but I have really hoped that she would just go peacefully in her sleep before we reached this point. Sigh. Does that sound terrible?

Anyway, both the care coordinator at the hospital and a third-party coordinator were in to talk to me. There are basically two options--assisted living and a board and care facility. Both are expensive (though once I am able to off-load her mobile home and the monthly payment it won't be horrible--until then )

Of course, I just didn't want to stick her someplace--I want to look around--so we were able to find an assisted living facility that will do what is called "respite care"--day to day until we decide what to do. We had to go by her house and pick up some clothes, medicine, toiletries etc. and her walker. Of course, my leg is still killing me but I muddled though. They were very nice at the facility--she is settled in for the night and probably asleep. I gave her more pain meds before I left.

Life sucks sometimes Divas--I know some of you have had hard times recently and I'm sorry to add to the collective burden--anyway, if I'm not around much in the next couple of days you will know why.

And thanks to AmySue and Linda who both were extremely supportive today!

Well, I have been waiting to hear from you my friend. I was realllllly hoping that no news was good news. But it is not. This is so hard for you I am sure. If you need anything at all, please let me know. In the meantime, prayers and pixie dust to Doris.

 

[grumpyvet]

Cheryl!!!! I am so sorry that you and your mom are going through this!! Is your mom doing better with her pain meds? Is she okay with assisted living? I know it is the only thing to do...but is she fighting you on it? That would make it all that much harder.

You call me if I can do ANYTHING for you!!!!

My underwear are orange...funny but I am wearing....Orange stripey ones today!!!


News about me--went to a new doctor for my migraines and came home with some samples and an RX for a drug that I am not sure I will start--scary side effects...20% of people have some cognitive disfunction...oh sign me up for that!!

But, the amazing thing is I awakened this AM with a start of a migraine--tried one of my samples and POOF all better. I mean...ALL better. I can't believe it at all!! I have tried other stuff and it always made my throw up--so never helped. I couldn't believe it. I swear I felt better today than I have in a long time. So pleased as punch!!!!

I finally made my pillowcase!! Super good stuff to go in it for any of you who are giving the exchange a miss.....you are really missing out. I got a b******** and a f**** *** *** and a fun D**n** ***, and well it is just fab!!

The trip is getting closer, the trip is getting closer, the trip is getting closer.

AmySue

 

[BillyFan]

Aw, Cheryl. I'm so sorry you and your mom are going through this. I wish I lived closer, so I could help you in some way, even if it would be just bringing you some dinner. Big hugs and much love to you girlfriend!

 

[disney-inspired]

Cheryl - I'm so sorry it has come to this , it must be an incredibly hard decision but I know you will make the right one. I'm sending prayers to you and your mom. I understand you when you say "I have really hoped that she would just go peacefully in her sleep before we reached this point." and no it does not sound horrible. I don't think about my parents in regards to that but I also hope for that, that they live long lives and pass peacefully.

I'm praying for you

News about me--went to a new doctor for my migraines and came home with some samples and an RX for a drug that I am not sure I will start--scary side effects...20% of people have some cognitive disfunction...oh sign me up for that!!

But, the amazing thing is I awakened this AM with a start of a migraine--tried one of my samples and POOF all better. I mean...ALL better. I can't believe it at all!! I have tried other stuff and it always made my throw up--so never helped. I couldn't believe it. I swear I felt better today than I have in a long time. So pleased as punch!!!!

I finally made my pillowcase!! Super good stuff to go in it for any of you who are giving the exchange a miss.....you are really missing out. I got a b******** and a f**** *** *** and a fun D**n** ***, and well it is just fab!!

The trip is getting closer, the trip is getting closer, the trip is getting closer.

AmySue

I remember you telling me about your new meds and I'm glad they were effective.

And WHAT are you saying lady that you are getting ** * out?

 

[disney-super-mom]

Hi ladies--it's been a very hard day.

This morning I tried to call my Mom and no answer--I thought she was in the shower. Then around noon-time I tried again and no answer. So I drove out there. She was in bed and was in agony because apparently she fell last night, was able to get up and thought nothing of it and then woke up early this morning in pain. She couldn't move. Needless to say the paramedics were called again. Not good when you call the paramedics twice in less than a week. . . .. .

So off to the hospital again and before they took her I said to her "you know they're probably not going to let you come back here." Sure enough, I had barely walked through the door into her ER room and the nurses were on me. They gave her pain meds so she was out of it most of the time, so the decision-making was left up to me. This is a decision I was hoping never to make--it sounds terrible to say but I have really hoped that she would just go peacefully in her sleep before we reached this point. Sigh. Does that sound terrible?

Anyway, both the care coordinator at the hospital and a third-party coordinator were in to talk to me. There are basically two options--assisted living and a board and care facility. Both are expensive (though once I am able to off-load her mobile home and the monthly payment it won't be horrible--until then )

Of course, I just didn't want to stick her someplace--I want to look around--so we were able to find an assisted living facility that will do what is called "respite care"--day to day until we decide what to do. We had to go by her house and pick up some clothes, medicine, toiletries etc. and her walker. Of course, my leg is still killing me but I muddled though. They were very nice at the facility--she is settled in for the night and probably asleep. I gave her more pain meds before I left.

Life sucks sometimes Divas--I know some of you have had hard times recently and I'm sorry to add to the collective burden--anyway, if I'm not around much in the next couple of days you will know why.

And thanks to AmySue and Linda who both were extremely supportive today!

Cheryl, I am so sorry you're going through this. In a way, I really feel that I know what you're going through. It's just an awful decision to make, but overall she will be safer, and as she gets settled in an assisted living facility, she will feel more comfortable as well. My love and prayers for you and your mom. If you ever want to talk, I'm always here.

 

[grizbuzz]

Hi ladies--it's been a very hard day.

This morning I tried to call my Mom and no answer--I thought she was in the shower. Then around noon-time I tried again and no answer. So I drove out there. She was in bed and was in agony because apparently she fell last night, was able to get up and thought nothing of it and then woke up early this morning in pain. She couldn't move. Needless to say the paramedics were called again. Not good when you call the paramedics twice in less than a week. . . .. .

So off to the hospital again and before they took her I said to her "you know they're probably not going to let you come back here." Sure enough, I had barely walked through the door into her ER room and the nurses were on me. They gave her pain meds so she was out of it most of the time, so the decision-making was left up to me. This is a decision I was hoping never to make--it sounds terrible to say but I have really hoped that she would just go peacefully in her sleep before we reached this point. Sigh. Does that sound terrible?

Anyway, both the care coordinator at the hospital and a third-party coordinator were in to talk to me. There are basically two options--assisted living and a board and care facility. Both are expensive (though once I am able to off-load her mobile home and the monthly payment it won't be horrible--until then )

Of course, I just didn't want to stick her someplace--I want to look around--so we were able to find an assisted living facility that will do what is called "respite care"--day to day until we decide what to do. We had to go by her house and pick up some clothes, medicine, toiletries etc. and her walker. Of course, my leg is still killing me but I muddled though. They were very nice at the facility--she is settled in for the night and probably asleep. I gave her more pain meds before I left.

Life sucks sometimes Divas--I know some of you have had hard times recently and I'm sorry to add to the collective burden--anyway, if I'm not around much in the next couple of days you will know why.

And thanks to AmySue and Linda who both were extremely supportive today!

Prayers and pixie dust to your mom and you.
And I hope your leg feels better soon.

Jen

 

[anut4disney]

Someone sent this to me and I just had to share, this is how I feel.


Summer's almost here ...we can now see the deer moving around. Yep, won't be long.

 

[mommaU4]

My dad just left after coming over to share some Costco cherry pie and ice cream. YUM. He is undergoing a heavy duty chemical peel on his face for skin cancer. He looked and felt miserable. My poor daddy!

My sad family is just cancer plagued right now.

Some good news in my family is that my sister (whom I never mention here) is IN LOVE. I'm sooooo happy for her.

Oh Callie, your poor dad. That sounds painful. How's your mom doing? Have they started any treatments for her?

I'm happy for your sister. Especially after all she went through.

Hi ladies--it's been a very hard day.

There are basically two options--assisted living and a board and care facility.

Oh dear. Cheryl, I'm so sorry. I hope you can find someplace good for her.
My mom worked at an assissted living home in Michigan for 2 years. It was really nice, but very expensive. About $2,000 a month.
BUT the residents who lived there were treated like royalty. They had a beauty salon, library and doctor on grounds. A shuttle to take them grocery shopping. Two meals a day in the "restaurant", lunch and dinner, while breakfast was on their own in their rooms.
There were tons of organized activities like bingo, crafts, movie nights, classes on health and such. It was pretty neat, I thought. I mean, not the same as living on your own in your own home, of course, but they really worked with the residents to make them as safe, happy and comfortable as they could.

Hopefully you can find someplace good like that.

 

[mommaU4]

About the DL trip, yes, I hung out with Bernice, Alison, Megan and Christine (Stitch). I was only there one day (Friday) and it rained too much. I wasn't used to being at the parks in the rain. I learned that being at the parks is not as fun in the rain. It was good to see everyone and spend some time with them and also meet Christine for the first time.

I hope I can make it to the ladies trip and see you guys.

Bummer about the rain!! That's neat you all got to meet up though. And I also hope we get to see you for a bit on the ladies trip.

But I do have a babysitter coming over on Sat evening and I'm going to go see a movie and have dinner with my sister.

Sounds fun. Which movie? I'd like to see Valentine's Day. If anyone sees that, let me know what you think.

 

[mommaU4]

But, the amazing thing is I awakened this AM with a start of a migraine--tried one of my samples and POOF all better. I mean...ALL better.

I finally made my pillowcase!! Super good stuff to go in it for any of you who are giving the exchange a miss.....you are really missing out. I got a b******** and a f**** *** *** and a fun D**n** ***, and well it is just fab!!

Great news about the pain meds. I've never had a migraine so I can't imagine the pain, but I'm glad to hear you'll have some relief now.

And stop tempting me with the pillowcase talk AmyOkraSue!!! Your bleeped out words are making me want to join. lol

Summer's almost here ...we can now see the deer moving around. Yep, won't be long.

That is hilarious!!!!

 

[mommaU4]

Good morning everyone!! TGIF!!!

I'm off to get ready to go to Muffins with Mom over at the twin's school this morning.

Have a good day all.
TTYL!

 

[QueenDoOver]

Hi ladies--it's been a very hard day.

This morning I tried to call my Mom and no answer--I thought she was in the shower. Then around noon-time I tried again and no answer. So I drove out there. She was in bed and was in agony because apparently she fell last night, was able to get up and thought nothing of it and then woke up early this morning in pain. She couldn't move. Needless to say the paramedics were called again. Not good when you call the paramedics twice in less than a week. . . .. .

So off to the hospital again and before they took her I said to her "you know they're probably not going to let you come back here." Sure enough, I had barely walked through the door into her ER room and the nurses were on me. They gave her pain meds so she was out of it most of the time, so the decision-making was left up to me. This is a decision I was hoping never to make--it sounds terrible to say but I have really hoped that she would just go peacefully in her sleep before we reached this point. Sigh. Does that sound terrible?

Anyway, both the care coordinator at the hospital and a third-party coordinator were in to talk to me. There are basically two options--assisted living and a board and care facility. Both are expensive (though once I am able to off-load her mobile home and the monthly payment it won't be horrible--until then )

Of course, I just didn't want to stick her someplace--I want to look around--so we were able to find an assisted living facility that will do what is called "respite care"--day to day until we decide what to do. We had to go by her house and pick up some clothes, medicine, toiletries etc. and her walker. Of course, my leg is still killing me but I muddled though. They were very nice at the facility--she is settled in for the night and probably asleep. I gave her more pain meds before I left.

Life sucks sometimes Divas--I know some of you have had hard times recently and I'm sorry to add to the collective burden--anyway, if I'm not around much in the next couple of days you will know why.

And thanks to AmySue and Linda who both were extremely supportive today!

I'm sorry to read about this Cheryl. It is hard to be the one having to make decisions about stuff like this and be the primary support. I'm glad that you have so many great friends to support you through it. I hope everything goes well with the transition and hope that you will have a quick sale of your Mom's home, so that will not create addtional burden for you. Darn leg needs to get better now, no time for that, right?? Take care dear lady!

 

[kelmac284]

Good morning and TGIF!!

First off Cheryl I am SO sorry for everything that is going on with you right now! I hope your leg starts feeling better REAL soon so that you are able to enjoy the trip and just in general!! And I am SO sorry about everything with your mom. My grandma lived on her own till well after 90 but her last year she got pretty sick and finally moved in with my parents. She wasn't quite bad enough to have to go to a home since she was still able to get around fairly well but she just couldn't cook and clean for herself anymore. These are some of the hardest decisions we adults have to make. ((Hugs)) and prayers to you both!!

Shirley I LOVE that pic! Too cute!! Hope you guys get a break from the weather! We have been lucky and actually had a little sun for a bit but it is supposed to rain again soon so who knows. I am just trying to think really good thoughts for the trip! For all of us!!

Callie I am sorry for your dad and hope he feels a little better today. That sounded really painful! Hope your mom is ok as well!

Amy Sue you will have to tell me what meds he put you on. Right now I take daily "preventative" meds but also I have Maxalt for when I can't stave off the migraine. But to be honest it doesn't always work and sometimes I think there might be better drugs out there. Would love to know what you are trying and maybe I will get my doc to give me a few samples to try because I have been on just about everything and as you prob know we tend to build up a tolderance after awhile and more and more stuff seems to not work over time. Imitrex no longer works on me and now this Maxalt doesn't seem to be as effective either. And hey you are making me very intruiged about that pillowcase, care to give any hints on your wrapping???

To all the survivor fans that was an INTERESTING show last night to say the least. I won't give anything away for those that may not have watched but I think this is going to be a good one!

Yesterday I had all those stupid phone calls and errands and chores to do and I had a TON of bills that had to be paid and then Shane never got his paycheck. He get direct deposit and it is usually in the bank by 10 or 11 but by 2 at the VERY latest. WELLL this morning it was STILL not there. I was panicking because I had ALREADY sent all the bills out cuz I assumed it would be there. Not to mention we have to go grocery shopping still and we were supposed to go out for our anniversary on Sunday. Then when he got to work today he got his stub at least and with his stupid pay cut he got 400 less than he usually gets. This is just killing us. I am SOOO disgusted. Now I not only don't feel like going out at ALL on Sunday I really had planned on doing a few things with the girls next week but I am not sure if I can or should now. I have some money saved up from MY paychecks but I was saving that for the trip so mom doesn't have to pay for EVERYTHING! UGH! This sucks! It NEVER fails. Plus I found out Shane has Monday off (he wasn't sure cuz usually he only gets the really big holidays off) which means he will be short a day on his paycheck next week and so it will be EVEN punier. GREAT!

Oh well what else is new. At least he is working but something is going to have to change because we are not going to be able to pay our bills on this huge of a pay cut. I told him he BETTER pass his test in 2 weeks cuz we can't keep going on like this!

Anyway today I am off to work and HOPEFULLY mom and I will get over to Michael's to get the name tag stuff!!

Hope everyone has a good day and talk later!

 

[toocherie]

Thanks everyone! I love you all.

I just called the assisted living facility and they are getting her up and taking her to breakfast. The hospital home health care nurse and physical therapist are re-directing to the assisted living facility rather than her house.

I am just exhausted but have some work I HAVE to do or my client is going to kill me.

thanks everyone for your prayers.

 

[DangerMouse]

Good Morning and TGIF!!

 

[prettyprincessbelle]

Good morning and TGIF!!!

Cheryl, prayers and hugs going to you and your Mom.

Callie, I'm sorry about your Dad, that sounds really painful. I hope your Mom is doing well.

 

[LittleBlackRaincloud]

I'm so sorry Cheryl! If there is anything I can do for you, let me know. I hope this hard time leads ends up being a blessing in disguise. I agree with what Beth was saying. I get patients from assisted living, and they often go on and on about how much they miss it. They have better social lives than I do! One facility in town even has a cocktail hour before dinner! I hope that once you and your Mom adjust, that you all will see positives. I think it would be very easy to get used to having all your friends right there, never having to cook, and clean up, always having an activity that you could join, and people around that truly care about you. I pray that it turns out this way for your Mom.


AmySue! That is fabulous that your medicine worked so well.

I'm better today, but the boys woke up hacking worse than ever, I have a feeling we'll end up back at the doctor today. Their antibiotics are over, and I'm worried they are rebounding from that.

I have an u/s at 11am. I can't wait to see her again!

 

[Califgirl]

Good morning ,everyone!

Oh Cheryl big hugs to you and your Mom. I just lost my Mom in January, and my 93 yr. old dad is living by himself in Las Vegas. Thankfully, he's in very good health and still drives , Although he doesn't drive far, just to the store and to the buffets once or twice a week and to the doctor. My brother and I are taking turns going out to see him, and he is planning on coming here for a few weeks at a time. We've suggested he come out here to live with us, but he likes where he is and still gets around ok. The catch is he wants to stay close to home ,where the doctors are. I know he realizes we have doctors out here, but change is much more difficult as we get older, and he's had enough change lately.

So big hugs to you and I hope your Mom adjusts well to her new living situation. (and you too!)

AmySue, I'm so glad to hear you've found something to help your migranes. It's so difficult to enjoy life when you're in pain, and you always strike me as having such a sunny personality. It's hard to be your best when you don't feel your best, and you deserve to have lots of fun in life!

Kelly, I hope everything irons itself out for you. It's so stressful to have money worries, especially when it's things you have no control over. I hope everything settles into place for you soon.

I want to go crash Beth's Muffins with Mom morning. Doesnt' that just sound wonderful?? You don't mind if a few of us drop in, do you Beth?


To all the wonderful Diva's ~ Have a great day.
Chris

 

[mommaU4]

Hi Tracey! How you doin? Getting excited for Vegas?


Kelly, sorry about the hassles with Shane's check. It's still so rough out there for a lot of people.


Cheryl, more hugs for you. You need a vacation, and I don't mean Disneyland. (although that's fun) I mean more like a ocean front hotel with a lovely spa and someone to pamper you all day long.


Hi Callie and Courtney! TGIF indeed!!


Heather, say hello to Natalie for us.


Chris, the muffins were good. But it was packed in there. Lotsa moms and little kids all over the place. And all the kids were excited over the classroom Valentines Day parties taking place today.

 

[disney-super-mom]

Someone sent this to me and I just had to share, this is how I feel.


Summer's almost here ...we can now see the deer moving around. Yep, won't be long.

Too funny!

Oh dear. Cheryl, I'm so sorry. I hope you can find someplace good for her.
My mom worked at an assissted living home in Michigan for 2 years. It was really nice, but very expensive. About $2,000 a month.
BUT the residents who lived there were treated like royalty. They had a beauty salon, library and doctor on grounds. A shuttle to take them grocery shopping. Two meals a day in the "restaurant", lunch and dinner, while breakfast was on their own in their rooms.
There were tons of organized activities like bingo, crafts, movie nights, classes on health and such. It was pretty neat, I thought. I mean, not the same as living on your own in your own home, of course, but they really worked with the residents to make them as safe, happy and comfortable as they could.

Hopefully you can find someplace good like that.

A place like that sounds wonderful! That would be perfect.

One facility in town even has a cocktail hour before dinner!

I'm better today, but the boys woke up hacking worse than ever, I have a feeling we'll end up back at the doctor today. Their antibiotics are over, and I'm worried they are rebounding from that.

I have an u/s at 11am. I can't wait to see her again!

A cocktail hour before dinner?!!!! Where do I sign up?

Oh dear, I'm sorry to hear about the hacking still going on. I hope the boys can shake it soon.

Can't wait to hear your report on the u/s! She's a little angel.

Good morning ,everyone!

Oh Cheryl big hugs to you and your Mom. I just lost my Mom in January, and my 93 yr. old dad is living by himself in Las Vegas. Thankfully, he's in very good health and still drives , Although he doesn't drive far, just to the store and to the buffets once or twice a week and to the doctor. My brother and I are taking turns going out to see him, and he is planning on coming here for a few weeks at a time. We've suggested he come out here to live with us, but he likes where he is and still gets around ok. The catch is he wants to stay close to home ,where the doctors are. I know he realizes we have doctors out here, but change is much more difficult as we get older, and he's had enough change lately.

At least he is working but something is going to have to change because we are not going to be able to pay our bills on this huge of a pay cut.

I pray that things improve for you guys soon.