Girls Only Disneyland Trip - Old Thread

[wendylady36]

In my defense I was half asleep and didn't know what I was doing.

I'll have to remember to use that line when I get back from Vegas.

 

[LittleBlackRaincloud]

I'll have to remember to use that line when I get back from Vegas.

You won't need that line if your actions 'stay in vegas'.

 

[wendylady36]

You won't need that line if your actions 'stay in vegas'.

Well some of the gals live in Vegas, so if they don't go anywhere, technically can't they say something?

 

[mommaU4]

I think I'm both tired/stressed and getting sick. I have the sniffles, cough, and red throat.

If you're a witch in the morning, I'm the ying to your yang. I'm happy go lucky in the morning, but when I get tired...forget about it. I don't even like chocolate when I'm tired. Oh, and if I'm hot, don't even look at me. I hate to be all sweaty and hot. DH always insists on touching the small of my back when we're out. He has learned NOT to do that when I'm hot.

sweat and back fat are not my friends....

No one should be happy go lucky in the morning. It's just wrong.

I am with you on being hot. I am not fun to be around when I'm hot. So what do I do?? Move to Vegas where it's 110 in the summer.

Hmmm, I'm grouchy in the morning, grouchy when I'm hot, grouchy when I'm tired or hungry......... I guess I'm just a real you know what most of the time!!

I hope you feel better. If you are getting sick, being stressed will only make it worse. Try and get lots of sleep tonight. And take some Airborne.

 

[mommaU4]

I'll have to remember to use that line when I get back from Vegas.

Well some of the gals live in Vegas, so if they don't go anywhere, technically can't they say something?

Don't worry. I know how to keep quiet..........for a price that is.

 

[jordansmomma]

Wow you guys have been very chatty today.
Kelly I hope things are ok with Lynn. That is so scary.

I love you had me from hello from Jerry M.
I love the song Kenny wrote from that movie.

My faves are
Sixteen Candles, Breakfast Club, Ladder 49, I love the Brat Pack movies!!

 

[kelmac284]

Dawn I am so sorry for your daughter's friend that is awful. One of my ex sister in law's friends was pg and died of toxemia just before she had the baby in her sleep it was SO sad!! They found her in her bed as well. My prayers are with your daughter and the girls family!

Guys I am just so beside myself. I have a massive headache. Shane's cousins came over and we tossed lynn's room and found phone numbers of her friends in her yearbooks and in her dressers and stuff. The girls told me that she had a boyfriend that has been meeting her at work and get this his MOM has been meeting her there and picking her up on her breaks and taking her places. I am LIVID. WHAT gives this woman the right to take MY child ANYWHERE without my permission. We also talked to one of her friends and she said that she was upset about some "stuff" at home. WHATEVER. That kid doesn't know how good she has it. Her bio mom is a TOTAL piece of crap who was getting her drunk and giving her drugs at 13 and 14 and leaving her alone at night so she could go sleep with COLLEGE age men! (Lynn mind you NOT the mom) Her mother was such a piece of junk that she completely lost custody of not only Lynn but her other two kids who she had NO contact with and who the dad told the kids the mother was dead! This woman is a travelling RN no less who is such a drunk she cannot go 1 day without alcohol or she gets the dt's. I mean I could go on and on.

We have given Lynn a good decent christian home. We expect her to have bed times, homework comes first, we want her to go to college and be a good decent respectable human being but I guess that is too much to ask. She wanted to lead her mom's life and last year got arrested for theft at school and then got caught with drugs and after drug and alcohol counseling we had her in TWO youth groups and she got this job through the church and we thought she was on the right path and now this. I am at the end of my rope.

She told her father she didn't care if he was dead. She is flunking out of school. She told us she hates us. I mean I just can't take it. We have done EVERYTHING for her and it just doesn't matter to her. I am now afraid of what her influence is going to do to the little ones.

The police said they will do nothing. They said she can keep running away and there is nothing they can do. They won't take her to juvenille hall. I am just done!

 

[cheshiregirl]

Kelly and Dawn, I am so sorry to hear about what both of your families are going through. Hang in there, you will make it through this difficult time.

 

[21yankees]

Dawn I am so sorry for your daughter's friend that is awful. One of my ex sister in law's friends was pg and died of toxemia just before she had the baby in her sleep it was SO sad!! They found her in her bed as well. My prayers are with your daughter and the girls family!

Guys I am just so beside myself. I have a massive headache. Shane's cousins came over and we tossed lynn's room and found phone numbers of her friends in her yearbooks and in her dressers and stuff. The girls told me that she had a boyfriend that has been meeting her at work and get this his MOM has been meeting her there and picking her up on her breaks and taking her places. I am LIVID. WHAT gives this woman the right to take MY child ANYWHERE without my permission. We also talked to one of her friends and she said that she was upset about some "stuff" at home. WHATEVER. That kid doesn't know how good she has it. Her bio mom is a TOTAL piece of crap who was getting her drunk and giving her drugs at 13 and 14 and leaving her alone at night so she could go sleep with COLLEGE age men! (Lynn mind you NOT the mom) Her mother was such a piece of junk that she completely lost custody of not only Lynn but her other two kids who she had NO contact with and who the dad told the kids the mother was dead! This woman is a travelling RN no less who is such a drunk she cannot go 1 day without alcohol or she gets the dt's. I mean I could go on and on.

We have given Lynn a good decent christian home. We expect her to have bed times, homework comes first, we want her to go to college and be a good decent respectable human being but I guess that is too much to ask. She wanted to lead her mom's life and last year got arrested for theft at school and then got caught with drugs and after drug and alcohol counseling we had her in TWO youth groups and she got this job through the church and we thought she was on the right path and now this. I am at the end of my rope.

She told her father she didn't care if he was dead. She is flunking out of school. She told us she hates us. I mean I just can't take it. We have done EVERYTHING for her and it just doesn't matter to her. I am now afraid of what her influence is going to do to the little ones.

The police said they will do nothing. They said she can keep running away and there is nothing they can do. They won't take her to juvenille hall. I am just done!

I still don't know what to say. I can't even begin to imagine the emotional roller coaster you and your famliy are going through.

steph

 

[mommaU4]

She told her father she didn't care if he was dead. She is flunking out of school. She told us she hates us. I mean I just can't take it. We have done EVERYTHING for her and it just doesn't matter to her. I am now afraid of what her influence is going to do to the little ones.

The police said they will do nothing. They said she can keep running away and there is nothing they can do. They won't take her to juvenille hall. I am just done!

It sounds like you have done all you can. Sometimes you just can't help someone if they don't want help. And you're right, her actions will eventually influence or effect the little ones.

My aunt went through something like this with one of her adopted daughters. Once she reached 17 or so, she wanted nothing to do with her parents, dropped out of school, started drinking, doing drugs, was eventually arrested for writing bogus checks, got pregnant, lost custody of the baby, etc. OMG, it was a never ending nightmare.
Through it all they were willing to be there for her, but she refused all help. It's so sad but sometimes there is nothing you can do. To this day they are estranged from her and I'm not even sure they know where she is.

I've often wondered what I would do if one of my kids ended up with problems like the ones my aunt's daughter went through. I mean they are your child but after so much do you finally reach a point where you have to say I've done all I can and they have to make their own way now. I don't know. It's so hard to be a parent.

I sincerely hope you can find her safe and sound, and somehow get through to her before her life takes an even worse turn. And again, I am so sorry to hear you are going through this.

 

[stacielee]

But what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas, right???

I hope so!

Of course!!!

Dawn & Kelly, you know we're all thinking about and praying for you and your families. Yes, Beth, it is hard to be a parent, so much more than when we were kids!!!

 

[kelmac284]

Ok they found her. She was at an apartment and she had told this girls mom that we had kicked her out. What I want to know is what kind of idiot parent would just take some kid in without even TRYING to check!

Shane went over and grabbed her and the cops came and handcuffed her and talked to her but then wouldn't take her to juvey OF COURSE cuz they are so lame but it turns out the girl she was with is now missing as well so they just went BACK to the party to try and find THAT girl. But apparently she is claiming that she left because she is mad at ME. What a load of crap. She is mad because I make her do her chores and her homework and yadda yadda. Typical wicked stepmother crap. I was like oh so you prefer your bio mom who has totally abandoned you and got you drunk and let you screw half the ASU football team. Good choice!

I am so sick and tired of this crap. She thinks she has it SOOO flippin bad cuz I make her actually do a few flippin chores around the house and because we get mad because she is FLUNKING out of school. GEEE let me think!

Anyway she is going to go stay with Shane's cousin for tonight although I doubt I will get any sleep anyway.

We are going to look into putting her in a bootcamp or some type of group home tomorrow cuz I truly think she is going to try and run again!

Anyway talk to you tomorrow.

 

[kelmac284]

Morning everyone. Gee last one to post last night and first one this morning. NOT surprising. I was up last night till 2:30 and we slept downstairs on the couch and I didn't really sleep much but rather tossed and turned thinking about everything that happened. I had the cops here TWICE last night. Once when we made the report and then again when they picked her up. Then thinking about everything she said before she went to Brian's house.

Then thinking about everything I am going to "tell" her about what she supposedly thinks she has it SO bad when she gets home today. I am so angry I can hardly see. We are going to have a chat NOT mad but just talk to her about what she perceives about how "rough" she supposedly thinks she has it and then I am going to tell her the facts of life. I know though that if she stays here tonight unless we don't sleep again she is going to leave again. And this time we WON'T find her. That is NO life and if Shane thinks otherwise he is a fool. I think if we don't put her in some type of home then she will run again. But I don't know. I am just completely and utterly disgusted!

Anyway I am now just waiting for his cousin to drop her off.

We have to take our dog to the vet unfortuntely cuz he has to get shots and I have an apt at 11 I can't get out of and we HAVE to go to sam's cuz we are COMPLETELY out of food. So that is going to put a crimp on things but can't be helped.

I will try to get on later and give an update.

Thanks for being here to listen. It helps to be able to purge!

 

[grizbuzz]

Morning everyone. Gee last one to post last night and first one this morning. NOT surprising. I was up last night till 2:30 and we slept downstairs on the couch and I didn't really sleep much but rather tossed and turned thinking about everything that happened. I had the cops here TWICE last night. Once when we made the report and then again when they picked her up. Then thinking about everything she said before she went to Brian's house.

Then thinking about everything I am going to "tell" her about what she supposedly thinks she has it SO bad when she gets home today. I am so angry I can hardly see. We are going to have a chat NOT mad but just talk to her about what she perceives about how "rough" she supposedly thinks she has it and then I am going to tell her the facts of life. I know though that if she stays here tonight unless we don't sleep again she is going to leave again. And this time we WON'T find her. That is NO life and if Shane thinks otherwise he is a fool. I think if we don't put her in some type of home then she will run again. But I don't know. I am just completely and utterly disgusted!

Anyway I am now just waiting for his cousin to drop her off.

We have to take our dog to the vet unfortuntely cuz he has to get shots and I have an apt at 11 I can't get out of and we HAVE to go to sam's cuz we are COMPLETELY out of food. So that is going to put a crimp on things but can't be helped.

I will try to get on later and give an update.

Thanks for being here to listen. It helps to be able to purge!

I am SO glad that you found her and that everyone is OK. Please remember that just because she say that she it is all because of you, doesn't mean that it is. Perhaps you are just the safest parent for her to be mad at and blame right now. Doesn't sound like she can count on her biological mom.

Is there any support/counseling your family can get to help you through all this?

I'm so NOT an expert in teens, as my niece and nephew are quick to remind me at every occassion. One thing I think may be true - do not expect teens to be fair and rationale.

Good luck and please take care of yourself too during this time. I am so relieved to hear that everyone is OK.

 

[toocherie]

WHAT!!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!




Two of my most favorite movies EVER!!!

Go see Little Mermaid at least! Ariel is one of the best princesses EVER, or at least has some of the best songs!

BTW add me to the list of never having seen its a Wonderful Life. Weird since I really like Jimmy Stewart. "Vertigo", "Bell, book and Candle", and "Harvey". Note I also love Kim Novack!

I love Bell, Book and Candle too! I've always wanted to name a cat Pyewacket, but it's just never worked out--they've already come pre-named!

 

[toocherie]

Kelly and Dawn: I am so sorry for what you are both going through -- life is never easy and predictable, is it?

Then again, I love Bad Santa, so maybe my taste in holiday films is a bit questionable

I love Bad Santa too! It's become my holiday tradition--however this year we watched it on the Comedy Channel and they cut out all the bad words and it just wasn't the same. So have to get the DVD for next year.

Hope you all have a great weekend. We have lots of errands to do tomorrow. But the best thing is that we're going to see our puppy (he was born the day after Christmas) and the kids don't know yet. I can't wait to see their surprised faces. I'm hoping to take a couple of pictures of him with them. If I'm able to get them, I'll post them tomorrow night.

I"m sure I'll be back on later to keep up with all of the chit chat.

steph

pictures! we definitely want pictures! and details! obviously a boy puppy but what kind?

You've never seen it? Blasphemy I tell you. It's a classic!!

You are going next weekend too? I was going to announce that I'm coming too, and staying at the Grand baby!!! Dave and I are getting away, just the two of us, but I will be on my own in the mornings probably. So what's happening ladies?
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I might be able to make it up there on either Sat. or Sun. morning.

I pm'd Melody and Michelle we can talk tomorrow. I'm not sure that I can go both days, but was planning on Sunday.

I'm so jealous. So Cheryl, Stacie, Wendy, Melody and Michelle will be having a blast at DL this weekend while I'm being tortured at the dentist.
Someone have a churro for me since I think it will be awhile before I can eat anything besides yogurt and applesauce.

Well, I see below that you've already picked up on this--but think of the weight you'll lose!!!!

 

[toocherie]

Morning everyone. Gee last one to post last night and first one this morning. NOT surprising. I was up last night till 2:30 and we slept downstairs on the couch and I didn't really sleep much but rather tossed and turned thinking about everything that happened. I had the cops here TWICE last night. Once when we made the report and then again when they picked her up. Then thinking about everything she said before she went to Brian's house.

Then thinking about everything I am going to "tell" her about what she supposedly thinks she has it SO bad when she gets home today. I am so angry I can hardly see. We are going to have a chat NOT mad but just talk to her about what she perceives about how "rough" she supposedly thinks she has it and then I am going to tell her the facts of life. I know though that if she stays here tonight unless we don't sleep again she is going to leave again. And this time we WON'T find her. That is NO life and if Shane thinks otherwise he is a fool. I think if we don't put her in some type of home then she will run again. But I don't know. I am just completely and utterly disgusted!

Anyway I am now just waiting for his cousin to drop her off.

We have to take our dog to the vet unfortuntely cuz he has to get shots and I have an apt at 11 I can't get out of and we HAVE to go to sam's cuz we are COMPLETELY out of food. So that is going to put a crimp on things but can't be helped.

I will try to get on later and give an update.

Thanks for being here to listen. It helps to be able to purge!

Kelly: what a terrible thing to have to go through. One thing that I have learned in "negotiating" is that the more the other person gets agitated and loud the quieter and less emotional I get. It's amazing how it works. so, I know it would be hard but try to be very controlled and not angry/mad/upset with her. Just state facts. Teenage perceptions can be so skewed--I'm sure in her mind she had magnified all of the things you ask her to do (which any Mom would) into making her into freakin' Cinderella. Is there a social services person you can talk to with Shane? Sometimes having a disinterested third party tell you that someone needs to go in a group home has more impact. I've had this situation with a couple of friends and it's always hard. One of my friend's daughter has been in a group home for over a year. My friend also goes to parenting/counseling classes to help learn coping techniques.

 

[fairykin]

Kelly...I am glad that she is safe. Please remember when you talk to her today..to still within. Keep something small in your hand like a little stone to remind you to be still and quiet when talking with her. Try your best to not mention her mother..because..no matter how horrible she may be in her actions..it is still her mother.
I am sorry this has happened to your family. Even though lynn's actions may be that of a young adult..she's still a child in crisis. And remember that this is your husbands child... and a parent loves uncomditionally. I will continue to pray for your family and I am so sorry this trouble has come upon you. Remember to still and breathe.. go into the dialoge with the goal of Listening. While this happened to you...it is not of your origin.. so be still..and let her speak.. and have awareness of her actions.
~*~*~*

I wanted to thank each of your your kindness extended. It is no better in the light of day. I spoke with her parents and they are just Devestated at losing their Only child. They are awaiting the autopsy as it was a "unattended death". Just that thought alone makes me ill.
My daughter is shy and quiet.. this was her best friend of 15 years.. it will be very hard for her.. and i feel helpless to make it better. That's a mom's role..right.. to make things better.

 

[tinkermell]

Dawn I am so sorry for your daughter's friend that is awful. One of my ex sister in law's friends was pg and died of toxemia just before she had the baby in her sleep it was SO sad!! They found her in her bed as well. My prayers are with your daughter and the girls family!

Guys I am just so beside myself. I have a massive headache. Shane's cousins came over and we tossed lynn's room and found phone numbers of her friends in her yearbooks and in her dressers and stuff. The girls told me that she had a boyfriend that has been meeting her at work and get this his MOM has been meeting her there and picking her up on her breaks and taking her places. I am LIVID. WHAT gives this woman the right to take MY child ANYWHERE without my permission. We also talked to one of her friends and she said that she was upset about some "stuff" at home. WHATEVER. That kid doesn't know how good she has it. Her bio mom is a TOTAL piece of crap who was getting her drunk and giving her drugs at 13 and 14 and leaving her alone at night so she could go sleep with COLLEGE age men! (Lynn mind you NOT the mom) Her mother was such a piece of junk that she completely lost custody of not only Lynn but her other two kids who she had NO contact with and who the dad told the kids the mother was dead! This woman is a travelling RN no less who is such a drunk she cannot go 1 day without alcohol or she gets the dt's. I mean I could go on and on.

We have given Lynn a good decent christian home. We expect her to have bed times, homework comes first, we want her to go to college and be a good decent respectable human being but I guess that is too much to ask. She wanted to lead her mom's life and last year got arrested for theft at school and then got caught with drugs and after drug and alcohol counseling we had her in TWO youth groups and she got this job through the church and we thought she was on the right path and now this. I am at the end of my rope.

She told her father she didn't care if he was dead. She is flunking out of school. She told us she hates us. I mean I just can't take it. We have done EVERYTHING for her and it just doesn't matter to her. I am now afraid of what her influence is going to do to the little ones.

The police said they will do nothing. They said she can keep running away and there is nothing they can do. They won't take her to juvenille hall. I am just done!

Kelly, I am so sorry that you have to go through this again. I just read that you have found her.........for that I'm grateful that she is safe and sound. The world is cruel out there.

I agree that it would be nice, if you could have a third person when you have your talk with her. And try to keep a hold of your anger, and just state the facts. But I know this is not a perfect world, and that might be too much to ask. Especially since we have no idea what she is like in real life. It just sounds like she is messed up. I am so sorry. Take care today, and my prayers will go out for you, Shane and Lynn.

 

[tinkermell]

Um, Monkey?

Wow!!!

kelley..i will pray for your daughters safety and for her return.


If i may ask.. Please pray for my daughter tonight, they found her best friend dead in her dorm room this afternoon. this is my daughters childhood friend who has grown up as her sister. my daughter spoke to her on the phone everyday..and yesterday didn't get ahold of her.. when she couldn't get her on the phone today..she called her best friends mother.. and her mom hadn't heard from her since wednesday. So my daughter called the university to get them to send someone to go check if her friend was alright. hhmmmm... and they found her dead in her bed.

we are devestated as she was like a member of our family..and my daughters children loves her like an aunt. so the three little grandchildren had to be given the death talk tonight..we have them here for the night..as daughter is just so very broken hearted.

my son in law said, that wednesday night my daughter woke up from a bad dream and told my son in law that she dreamed her best friend died.
he said he held her and said it's just a bad dream..but she couldn't go back to sleep so he got her a tylenol pm.

Then today they find her best friend dead. My daughter is so Upset. Please pray for my daughter and her family as well as the young girls mother and father.. as she was their only child.

she was going to college to be a teacher. it is just heartbreaking.

Dawn, I am so terribly sorry. Words can not even come close to how heartbreaking this all is. Please know that Emily and her friends family are in my deepest and most heartfelt prayers.

I have been lurking all day. I don't feel well at all. I am trying to pack this place up, and I just haven't been myself.

Aw! I was wondering where you had been? Take care!

I might be able to make it up there on either Sat. or Sun. morning.

Yay Michelle!! Another to join our little mini meet!!

I wish I had more time to respond to everyone. I have to go.

Have a nice day all!