Gift Registry Dilemma

[JDMasso]

So . . . I've asked a similar question to this in the past, but now, I need more info I hope you guys can help

I have not signed up for a gift registry b/c we pretty much have everything we need at home. I hate to say this but what we'd really want is money!!! I know that it's not "kosher" to ask for money as a gift, so that's why I have not signed up for a gift registry and I am hoping that by word of mouth, the guests will bring money instead of toasters or blenders. However, I have found two websites on line that allow for couples to sign up for money gift registries. My questions are as follows:

Has anyone used these money gift registries before?
Are they safe?
And do guys think this would be tacky?
Should I sign up for a money gift registry and a registry like at a department store, just to give the guests a choice?

Any help or suggestions would greatly be appreciated.

Like always, you guys are the best and thanks for your help

If you guys want to check out the money gift Registries, here they are;
https://www.aperfectweddinggift.com/give0.php
https://www.rainfallofenvelopes.com/default.asp

 

[SRUAlmn]

We feel the SAME WAY! We have lived together for over 5 years, and we really don't 'need' anything. However, I do think the money registries are a little tacky, but I don't know that much about them to say for sure. I don't know what we're going to do either. I was hoping if we don't register anywhere that people would just send money

 

[Cinderella Fan]

BG and I have also lived together for 5 years, but we are still registering for some things, like our china. That way, guests can choose which they would prefer to give.

By the way, JD, I noticed our wedding is on the same day, at the Wedding Pavilion. What time??

Good luck!

 

[Moonpie]

I don't think that a money registry would be in good taste. Think of what it is that you may want that might save you money in the future, and register for that. Like if going out to eat is a real luxury for you, than ask for restaurant gift certificates to your favorite places. Or you can even register at some wineries in Napa Valley....if buying wine is something you like...and it can get expensive, and may save you money in the future...then you can register for your favorite wine and have it sent to you every month!

I thought that we didn't need anything either, so I registered for home decor items that I thought I'd like, but would never buy for myself. I'm registered at Pottery Barn, Restoration Hardware, and Sur La Table (kitchen store). I registered for stuff like.... a milk shake machine, table decor, pretty pillows...etc.

 

[JDMasso]

BG and I have also lived together for 5 years, but we are still registering for some things, like our china. That way, guests can choose which they would prefer to give.

By the way, JD, I noticed our wedding is on the same day, at the Wedding Pavilion. What time??

Good luck!

10:00 a.m.!!!!!! Maybe we'll run into each other

 

[nkkilala]

JDMasso,
My sister who just got married in Sept felt the same way that you do. Her solution was to register rfor higher priced items (new refridgerator, dishwasher, and hardwood floors) at Low's She added the gift card option.
Most of her guests got the hint and got gift-cards. a couple of friends even got together and bought her a new grill (700 dollars) that they registered for.

This is one way that you could go about it...

 

[Namsupak]

My DF and I were having the same trouble deciding what to do. We've been living together for 5 years and own our home. We're both students so when we finally graduate and get married the one thing that would really help us is money. I think this is one instance where etiquette hasn't caught up with the times. Personally I always give money as a wedding gift because you can't go wrong there. We were thinking about registering for money on one of those sites but I don't like the fee that some of them charge. What we have decided to do is put on our wedding website that coming to our wedding is gift enough, but if they want to give something more the only thing we need is money. Not worded like that but you get the idea. If people think we're tacky then that's fine. But I won't have to register for anything that I don't need and my house won't get cluttered up.

 

[SRUAlmn]

What we have decided to do is put on our wedding website that coming to our wedding is gift enough,

That's the same thing we were going to do, that way, if they want to still give a gift it's implied that money is what we need most, but it's not so blatent. I know if I were invited to a wedding and the people weren't registered anywhere I would assume to just give money. Maybe we should do a DIS poll

 

[wendy46001]

We ran into a similar problem...we bought our house the year before and after a house warming party and an engagement party...we didn’t need anything else....we decided to go with the honeymoon registry....
it worked out great....you list different events on your honeymoon....like champagne, breakfast in bed, romantic dinner...and people buy stuff off the registry...The best part about it is the company then just send you a check for cash about ten days before your wedding....this way you get the money you wanted and everyone feels like they gave you a gift....plus we already planned on doing the stuff on our honeymoon...so it ended up just being a polite way of asking for money...

went through
www.honeyluna.com

 

[JandJ]

Well, I hate to say it, but a cash registry is tacky. Giving a wedding gift is a choice, not something to be expected. Most people give cash anyway, so either don't register and they'll get the hint, or as someone else suggested, register for expensive items (like a plasma TV or a fancy vacuum cleaner) and you'll get cash instead. The honeymoon registry wendy46001 suggested is a very cute idea too. Otherwise it's like you're telling people you expect them to give you money.

 

[twojo21]

in my circle gifts are given at a shower & cash/checks at the wedding reception. so we didnt need to say a thing.

personally i think money registries or asking for cash in writing is tacky, spread it by word of mouth if thats what you want.

 

[JDMasso]

Ok. . . .no money gift registries. I think I am going with my original plan, that is, not sign up anywhere. Although the idea of the honeymoon registry is great !!!! Also, I'm thinking about the suggestion of just writing on our wedding website that our guests coming to the wedding is gift enough . . .

Like always, thanks for your help

 

[ead79]

Well, I hate to say it, but a cash registry is tacky. Giving a wedding gift is a choice, not something to be expected. Most people give cash anyway, so either don't register and they'll get the hint, or as someone else suggested, register for expensive items (like a plasma TV or a fancy vacuum cleaner) and you'll get cash instead. The honeymoon registry wendy46001 suggested is a very cute idea too. Otherwise it's like you're telling people you expect them to give you money.

Yes, I totally agree. Though most people do of course give wedding gifts, you don't want to in any way imply that you're expecting a gift.

 

[chipscinderelly]

Gift giving customs vary by area of the country (and world) you grew up in and other cultural differences. Where I grew up giving cash for a wedding gift is not expected or the norm - an actual present is.

And this is just my 0.02, but a honeymoon registry is the same thing to me as asking for cash.... my family would die if we did that.

 

[Cinderella Fan]

Our's is at 4:00!! Hope to see you there!!!

10:00 a.m.!!!!!! Maybe we'll run into each other