Gift equitte/dilema?

[momx2]

wow-2xl is a big gal-and your Mother knows it

You are one of the rudest posters I have seen here and that is saying alot. Merry Christmas to you too!! I hope you get a stocking full of coal!

 

[arielsleepingbeauty]

Maybe the buyer read the request the same way I did. The child only specified a BBW gift card. They were not specific about the brand of the lip gloss or lotions.
BBW has really good sales and if I was going to get a gift card anyway, i would have just bought the items at BBW.

 

[Soarin_04]

We just took part in a gifts drive and the Marine who assisted us said to be wary of "kids" asking for gift cards because a lot of the time, it's actually the parents who end up using it and a lot of the time it isn't the child who benefits.

Sad but true.

 

[kaytieeldr]

You dont get what I am saying

The OP asked-My wife wears a 2XL and mom always gets her a sweater or shirt in petite medium. It is very obvious that not even our daughter would wear a petite medium, let alone my wife. Perhaps one of you girls could explain the thought process of my mother, because I don't understand it at all.

His Mother is purposely buying his wife small clothes to embarass her

The posters saying you're being rude understand what you meant; if you'd said it this way the first time, people would have agreed with you instead of calling you out.

 

[RainbowBrite]

wow-2xl is a big gal-and your Mother knows it

was that really necessary?

 

[Swan4Me]

was that really necessary?

Originally Posted by Swan4Me
You dont get what I am saying

The OP asked-My wife wears a 2XL and mom always gets her a sweater or shirt in petite medium. It is very obvious that not even our daughter would wear a petite medium, let alone my wife. Perhaps one of you girls could explain the thought process of my mother, because I don't understand it at all.

His Mother is purposely buying his wife small clothes to embarass her

 

[Swan4Me]

You are one of the rudest posters I have seen here and that is saying alot. Merry Christmas to you too!! I hope you get a stocking full of coal!

Originally Posted by Swan4Me
You dont get what I am saying

The OP asked-My wife wears a 2XL and mom always gets her a sweater or shirt in petite medium. It is very obvious that not even our daughter would wear a petite medium, let alone my wife. Perhaps one of you girls could explain the thought process of my mother, because I don't understand it at all.

His Mother is purposely buying his wife small clothes to embarass her

 

[momx2]

Originally Posted by Swan4Me
You dont get what I am saying

The OP asked-My wife wears a 2XL and mom always gets her a sweater or shirt in petite medium. It is very obvious that not even our daughter would wear a petite medium, let alone my wife. Perhaps one of you girls could explain the thought process of my mother, because I don't understand it at all.

His Mother is purposely buying his wife small clothes to embarass her

It has been said a few times already, but I'll state it again, if you would have phrased it this way to begin with posters wouldn't be offended by your comment. I have read a few of your responses on other threads and you really do come across rather rude at times. If you don't mean to be rude, then you might should work on your delivery.

 

[maxiesmom]

If someone cares enough to give a gift and the gift request is reasonable, I would hope the request would be honored.

I always either try and get exactly what is requested or a gift card for somewhere they can get what was requested.

I agree. We were actually just talking about this at work the other day. I work someplace that has gift registries, and I am amazed by the number of people who come in supposedly to shop from them, but buy cheaper substitues for the items listed.

really believe you should by people what they want and not try to cheap out on them. I don't mean that as a slam, OP, but if you can afford to buy exactly what was asked for, then that is what you should buy.

 

[RainbowBrite]

Originally Posted by Swan4Me
You dont get what I am saying

The OP asked-My wife wears a 2XL and mom always gets her a sweater or shirt in petite medium. It is very obvious that not even our daughter would wear a petite medium, let alone my wife. Perhaps one of you girls could explain the thought process of my mother, because I don't understand it at all.

His Mother is purposely buying his wife small clothes to embarass her

I do get it. The way you said it was rude.

 

[kaytieeldr]

Originally Posted by Swan4Me
You dont get what I am saying

The OP asked-My wife wears a 2XL and mom always gets her a sweater or shirt in petite medium. It is very obvious that not even our daughter would wear a petite medium, let alone my wife. Perhaps one of you girls could explain the thought process of my mother, because I don't understand it at all.

His Mother is purposely buying his wife small clothes to embarass her

No, really. As momx2, RainbowBrite, and I said, we get it. Everyone who responded to your original comment gets it. Your original statement was rude and offensive, and no matter how many times you copy & paste your "no, you don't get it..." reply in response to posters calling you out, the feelings about your attitude aren't going to change.

Now, a genuine apology might make a difference. Maybe not.

General note: its possible the offending poster has me on ignore, so if someone wants to quote this so she can see it...

 

[FredS]

. . . knowing that someone made their best attempt at helping someone else, when we don't know the helpers own personal situation, would even comment or have the gall to put down someone else's charitable gift.

I totally disagree. Honestly, it's really insulting that a girl made a reasonable request and the response is to substitute a really cheap, inferior product. I can only imagine how crappy that girl felt to get the cheap item. It's not like she asked for something extravagant, and in her shoes I would have felt like I wasn't even worth a freaking BBW gift card.

There are plenty of ways someone with limited funds can help at Christmas. This was not the way, and by taking this angel's request and not fulfilling it they may well just been an obstacle, as someone else might have been happy to satisfy the simple request.

Just seems tacky and thoughtless and a way to make the giver feel good but the recipient feel bad. Poor girl!

 

[aprilgail2]

I love the dollar store, but I wouldn't shop at the dollar store or a similar store for an angel tree gift. I'd do my best to get what was specifically asked for.

I totally agree. I volunteer with a charity that does toy drives and helps needy children at Christmas and these children are already stuck with things from the Dollar tree because thats mainly what their families can afford. If you are going to take a angel or donate a toy then give them what they are asking for-I am not talking xbox 360's but come on--bath and body works is reasonable!
I can not tell you the amount of chutes and ladders and candy land games we get after black Friday when they are like 2.00 each on sale--we get so many we can't give those things away LOL.