OMG, Kathy! That is too much to handle all at once. May I ask what took Rick's partner so quickly? Did he have family to step in to handle things? The timing was just so very awful. So sorry about all the stress with the cars, too. Tris sounds like an amazing young woman. I'm sure she will be fine in her pregnancy. I do hope she is taking the necessary time for herself, though.
They aren't sure what he died from. Someone told Carrie that he had lung cancer and didn't tell anyone. He only had 1 lung that worked to full capacity. His sister said he and Rich continued to smoke like chimneys though.
I guess he died sitting on the sofa watching tv. Rich happened to wake up and all the lights were on. Guess that was out of the ordinary. When he looked at Lynn (his partner) he had labored breathing and foaming at the mouth. He called 911 immediately. Not sure if he died at the apartment or at the hospital.
He was cremated the next day. No autopsy. It came to light earlier this week that a lot of Rich's pain killers were missing. The first question I asked Carrie when she told me was if it could have been suicide. They didn't think so.
I am so proud of my girls. I just feel bad that Rich never really came around when we split. He missed out on so much of their lives
It wasn't until the wedding that he really seemed to want to see them. Not sure if he was embarrassed by his life style choice or what.
Kathy, you are coming full circle in your willingness to help Rick and Tris in his time of transition. I know your spirit will be gifted by your generosity and you will find that you have healed through your grace. I am in awe of you.
Lisa, I have wanted to talk with him for quite some time. But he never wanted to do much more than the normal courtesies. So I kept it at the "formal" type of talk.
When we found out about his cancer, I so wanted to call him, but didn't know if he'd want to talk to me or not. I also thought about sending him a card, just to let him know I was thinking of him and praying for him too. But I didn't know how he'd react.
So when his partner died, I finally called him a couple days later. I asked if we could talk and also if it was ok that I called. He said yes, and he was crying. My heart was breaking for him. Such a hard, sad situation. He couldn't talk at that time, but he said he'd call me back. He didn't, but I had to take Carrie down last Thursday, so I went into the apartment. As soon as he saw me, he started crying. I walked over and hugged him and told him he needed to come home to his family. I told him I always will love him, as he is the father of my children. I told him I never hated him. We just changed over the years. I also told him he has friends here who want to help take care of him, and be there for him. He looked so frail. His appearance didn't surprise me as much as the reality of his mortality.
Yes, I do feel as though I've come full circle. I am able to forgive him for past things. The past will remain in the past. We have a new future to look forward to with a grandchild.
I am researching alternative cancer "treatments" and came across some good articles. I will pass them along, but I'm sure you already know about them.
I know without a doubt, he needs to quit smoking, and gave him the resources I used. I want to show him that love is truly unconditional. I want my children to learn by my example.
Ok, I'm rambling on and on. Sorry
I am glad Tom got home ok. I can imagine what a relief that is for you! What a nice time you'll have with your 2 men with you. No doubt they will be spoiled.
I hope J-P is feeling better. Tell him he'd better not do that again, or all your MM friends will set him straight! LOL
We started my first step in my rock polisher with all of my Oregon agates last Sunday before all the drama around here. Today we opened it to change to the finer grit. You tumble each step for about a week. They already look so pretty! I'm really excited. It's going to be a fun hobby for us.
My mom has a rock polisher. She had polished some rocks and gave me. They were so pretty. You got me thinking I may borrow it and get some of my own. You can get some rough gems on ebay rather cheaply. They have some nice looking rubies and such. Really thinking about it. They say there is "magical" powers in the different stones.
http://www.bestcrystals.com/metaphysical.html
Ok, off to rest for a bit. Ran myself down too much and now coughing and a sore throat. Going to make some tea and relax watching the Band of Brothers marathon. I'm not much for war shows or movies, but really like this one. I would like to order the dvds of The Pacific too.
Oh, does anyone know about the 14 day diet? Or is that the one we already discussed? LOL
Later everyone!!
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I should go to Macy's tonight. I really need a pair.
I know the feeling; I used to give the receiver 'the finger' when mine was talking to me on the phone. It made me feel better. 
