Geena Davis, 47, having twins

[campingcorgi]

What did she name them--Plum and Raisin?

Sorry, still reeling over the Apple baby announcement yesterday!

 

[snoopy]

I look at Celine Dion's husband in his 60's with a toddler and I just can't help but feel sad. Please don't flame me, but it's just my feeling...

I'm not flaming you, but for whom are you sad? That little child appears to be very loved and very wanted. They certainly have the financial means to raise a child. If the child is loved and cared for, what is there to be sad about?

 

[pirateofthecarolinas]

I think it is terrific.

Lori

 

[Mishetta]

Just as Mommyseven said, Geena will probably have lots of hired help with the twins. As for me, I gave birth at age 42 to my youngest DS (who was a total surprise) & I can't afford hired help, but boy could I use some!! It's not easy running after a toddler now that he's 2 & I'm 44 . Not to mention, when my (now 8 y/o) DS went to pre-school, I was the only Mom in my late 30's & all the other Mom's were in their early 20's! I can only imagine what it will be like this coming fall when my baby starts school! They will surely think I'm his grandmother!!

 

[Lanshark]

I am sure she can afford plenty of help if she needs it.

 

[Dream]

I dunno ya'll....it seems to me that at 47 one has a much better perspective on life than one might have at 25. Maybe more patience and more knowlege to share with a little one? Just a thought. And hopefully at 47 you are more secure with yourself, maybe making you a more giving parent? As far as the physical aspects, I know a lot of people in their 40's who are in BETTER shape than they were in their 20's and 30's. So I guess I wouldn't call her crazy at all....I would call her very very blessed.

 

[HappyMommy2]

Originally posted by snoopy
I'm not flaming you, but for whom are you sad? That little child appears to be very loved and very wanted. They certainly have the financial means to raise a child. If the child is loved and cared for, what is there to be sad about?

I'm not the one who made the comment you're referring to, but I can see where that person is coming from, at least a little bit. That child will not have a "young" daddy to do things with--to play football with, go on long mountain hikes with, etc. For someone to whom these things are important, that might be a little bit "sad." And of course with life expectancy for men being around 75, the chances are good that that child will lose his father at a much earlier age than most people lose their dads.

However, IMO those considerations pale in comparison to the most important aspects of having a child, namely the ability and willingness to love and care for the child wholeheartedly. And there are no guaratees in life anyway. A 29-year-old friend of mine was recently diagnosed with a very aggressive cancer, but that won't stop him from being a wonderful daddy to his kids even though there are many "dad" things he can't do right now, and even though he may not live to see their high school graduations.

Just some thoughts. I wish Geena and her family the very best with their twins--whew! That is a lot of work at any age, but a lot of joy too.

 

[Nala217]

My husband went to school with twins whose mom had them in her late 40's as well. She thought she had already went through menopause. Surprise! Also, she had them in the 60's when you were still knocked out for delivery and the babies were kept in the nursey. The nurses only brought in one baby at a time. She didn't know she had twins until one of the nurses asked her about it. She thought the nurse was crazy because she was never told she was having twins.

 

[TINKTWINS]

Im 38 and have 4 year old twins plus 3 teens, they are killing me! I cannot imagine having to do it in my 40's, having twins really takes alot out of ya!!

 

[olena]

My great-grandmother had kids until she was 45. It wasn't a big deal.

Good for Geena. I hope her kids inherit her brain. She's very intelligent.

 

[CEDmom]

If she can provide for them and give them the love all children need and deserve then I think it's great.

There aren't any guarantees in this world. Just because someone has children at a young age doesn't mean they'll be around to see them grow up. Just think back to all the people who died on 9/11, many were young parents. Many of the soldiers who have died were young parents as well. My own father died at 42 - I was 8.

From my own personal experience I can tell you that I'd rather been loved like I was by my father for 8 short years than by loved like many of my friends have been for their entire lives.

Finally, life does not always give us what we want when we want it. I didn't get married until 32 - DH was 40. We wanted children and tried right away. Unfortunately things didn't work as we'd hoped but we never gave up on our dream at be parents. After almost 6 years our dream finally came true.

I don't think there's anything to be sad about.

 

[Robinrs]

I had Michael at 36 so I thought I'd be the OLDEST mother by far in his kindergarten class. I was SHOCKED to find out that my age is normal in my neighborhood.

I moved into a neighborhood that has lots of women who chose to wait to have children. In Michael's class are children with parents in their 40s, 50 and some Dads in their 60s. They absolutely dote on their kids and it makes me feel so comfortable because I do, too.

I believe the most important ingredient in parenting is WANTING to parent this child. It's kind of hard to just BECOME pregnant at that age, so the pregnancy must have been planned and wanted. I'm sure everyone will be just fine.

 

[cheeringmom]

I'm more concerned for her health. At 35 and having number 3, the docs put me in high risk b/c of my age. She has to be careful. But as long as the docs are watching her carefully, more power to her!

 

[Hillbeans]

I thought more about what I said yesterday and I think I spoke too soon when I used the word "sad"...I know some people are a very young "48" and I guess if she has plenty of help and can take care of the kids, so be it. I just know for myself i'd not want to be having twins at 48. I guess for her though, it works out.

My parents were always quite a bit older than parents of friends my age, and although they were wonderful parents, I don't ever remember my dad rolling around on the grass with us...he was well into his 40's when we were little. He's now 71 and rather healthy and happy though.

 

[Kitty 34]

Congrats to Geena!! Wow! All I know is her hot flashes will be fun chasing after two year olds!!!

 

[jiminyC_fan]

Wow! Glad I had my twins in my twenties!!!!

 

[theSurlyMermaid]

I too would be very concerned about health. Having healthy babies at 48....well, there is certainly no guarantee and the odds aren't great for having a baby at all at that age, never mind healthy babies!

DH and I were discussing when we should start trying because I am going to be 31 in June and we want to minimize the risks. I want to enjoy a pregnancy, not be worried about being high risk.

 

[hrh_disney_queen]

Originally posted by TigerBear
Hey, this gives my 33-year-old self hope!!

Oh yes, I had DS6 when I was 40, and DS4 @42. Only complication was gestational diabetes controlled by diet. However, I do know how lucky I was to still be fertile at that age. (They call it "Advanced Age Pregnancy"-sounds almost fatal, doesn't it?) Good luck!!


(Now pardon me while I flame a little about some of these other posts.)

I had no help, no family around for the first 3 years. Yet, my decrepit old withered body somehow managed to drag itself out of bed every day and feed and clothe my children. If I took my Geritol, I could "roll around on the floor" with them. Jeez.. there is life, and energy, after age 35!!! I think it's great for Gina and her husband...

 

[Hillbeans]

Originally posted by hrh_disney_queen
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(Now pardon me while I flame a little about some of these other posts.)

If I took my Geritol, I could "roll around on the floor" with them. Jeez.. there is life, and energy, after age 35!!! I think it's great for Gina and her husband...

There is life after 35 I am sure, however 35 and 48 are totally different things. My dad had a heart attack at 51.

Some 30 year olds act like 70. I guess it's all relative.

 

[hrh_disney_queen]

Originally posted by Hillbeans
There is life after 35 I am sure, however 35 and 48 are totally different things. My dad had a heart attack at 51.

Some 30 year olds act like 70. I guess it's all relative.

I agree with you, 35 and 48 are different. But I still get down on the floor with my boys and roll around with them, and I am 46. My mom does too and she is 71. We are both in good physical health, and we don't THINK old. I am sure that Ms. Davis will love her children as much as any 35 year old could.