This whole case is just sad, and tragic...
Two very young people - one who tragically lost her life and the others is completely destroyed no matter if he is guilty or innocent..
The families of those two young people will never ever be the same... One has lost their daughter, and not knowing what happened will haunt them forever.... and the other has lost their son whether he is out there running for the rest of his life, or ends up in prison if he is guilty, or if he is innocent the stigma that will follow him the rest of his life or god forbid he takes his own life.... things for them have changed forever... His parents will always have a stigma attached to them...
I worked in health care, and domestic violence is something that they gave us continual training on, how to spot it, not only physically markers, as well as how someone is speaking, listening to not only what they were saying, but how they were saying it, eye contact, as well as things like body language, on both parts. The abused person will defend, and cover up, and take the responsibly for the other person abusing them, in that it's their fault, that they did something wrong, said the wrong thing, looked the wrong way, dressed the wrong way, cooked or cleaned something the wrong way, which cause the Abuser to have a reason to react in the manner that he or she did... The abuser has total control....
The abused person takes the blame for them... and feels that they deserve it... The abuser will normally seem rational and nice, polite and even charming, and will happily let the person they are abusing take the blame, and its expected or else... The abused lives in constant fear, and in a state of hypervigilance. Someone with mental health issue or low self worth or self esteem problem like this would become only magnified.
I lost a friend to domestic violence right after high school, her boy-friend shot and killed her in the drive way to her house.
Another friend husband almost beat her to death, she ended up having to move away and leave everything behind, everyone she loved, all her friends just to stay alive and have a chance at a normal life.
I think that there is alot more to this story, there are so many things that just don't make sense. From what the media is reporting, and most likely they don't know or report all the facts... they look to sensationalize this tragedy. I can't imagine the FBI and Police updating them on everything that is happening... They need to keep somethings close to the vest...
The whole thing with the storage unit is just weird, Why would you fly across the country to do this? when money was in question? Could he not have asked his parents or sister close the unit? and where are the items from the storage unit at now?
I understand about getting him a attorney, then talking to the police... Yet this is not what happened... that really doesn't look good.
The biggest thing for me, is why would he take her van and come home without her? and Now he has disappeared it really makes him look guilty... I'm not saying he is guilty of anything...this does not help him at all...
Another think is that I read that the police where at his parents home twice the day before she was reported missing? if this is correct why were they called to the house?
Them all going camping is just the most bizarre thing, his girlfriend is missing and they go camping... Plus with all this happening he goes for a hike? another bizarre thing... Did his parents call and report him missing that day or when the police came to see him again? This is something that I would like to know... With all this going on, and he did not come home, as a parent I would have called right away especially if they worried about his mental state and him possibly harming himself...or were they hoping he would just show up and did not want to cause more problems for their son or did they not say anything to give him more time before the authority realized he was gone? Bizarre behavior to say the least...
I hope and pray for Gabby's family that they get the answers that they need to be able to mourn for their daughter and to lay her to rest properly.
For Brian's parents I hope he does the right thing and turns himself in, and explains what happened...