Frustrated :(

[Skylarr29]

wow.. even my bf just texted me and told me to stop feeling bad for myself, what do i expect with a wedding so far away.

If this is her attitude then maybe noone will come.. i'm so pissed/hurt right now. Am i really being a jerk for expecting/wanting people to do this for me?? I know the economy is ****ty, but there are ways to do this pretty cheap.. right? Maybe i'll just invite all of you to my wedding!!

I don't think you are being a jerk at all! I think you will really regret not having your dream. Some of the most GORGEOUS weddings I have seen have been just with the bride and groom for an escape wedding. It is just so personal and intimate... I wish I was doing that.

Hang in there. Weddings really do bring out the worst in people. People forget that weddings are about the bride and groom and they only think about themselves. I really do think you need to do what you want to have your dream. I know I would be very resentful if I didn't get to have my day!

HUGS

 

[hope1826]

hahaha i love it!! dont know how df would actualy feel about a wedding full of disboarders though! i'm over my fam and "friends" right now. even if i couldnt possibly go to a wedding for my bff i'd be sooo excited for her and do everythng i could to help.

I completely agree! In a way they are being jerks and they need to stop that and be supportive of your choice.

Nikki

 

[PrincessBride07]

Maybe you should consider a Disney Escape wedding, with only the people who are not complaining and then have an At-Home reception for everyone else.

In a sense, this is what DH and I did. We did have a Wishes wedding, but only invited immediate family and a couple of close friends. I wouldn't have wanted it any other way.

You want to ruffle a few feathers, instead of telling people that you want them to travel to your wedding tell them that they aren't invited. It wasn't really bad, but we did have a few aunts and uncles that weren't happy campers. Hey if you were complaining beforehand, you should be happy that we are releasing you from the "obligation" to come.

inkedupmomma ~ I think most of us have gone through similar situations. You will always have support on this board.

 

[inkedupmomma]

thanks again ladies.. i know this wedding is the right thing for me and my df and my 2 kids. it's going to be so magical for all of us!

ps- i like you all better then my own fm and friends irl!

 

[feline figaro]

Trust me you re not alone in getting this kinda response from friends when you explain where you re having your wedding. I normally get people laughing or rolling their eyes, pulling faces, saying " you re not really serious are you". You name it, i ve heard it . At first it really annoyed me & to a point would upset me that people would be so judgemental about mocking my dreams but then again i looked at it like this:

if these people are truely my friends then they ll

1) not be surprised at all as they understand & respect my passion & dreams for my wedding
2)will be fully supportive
3)love the idea just as much as i do as Disney is a big part of who i am

So now i just let people think what they like, i let their words brush off of me. A normal standard wedding would nt fit me, its just not a true reflection of who i am. They suit some people but not all & many people just dont seem to understand that fact.

Anyone who judges your dreams is nt realising how hurtful comments like this can be BUT dont let them get you down. You live out your dreams exactly to how you want them, dont let anyone change your opinions on anything. Hopefully this is something you ll only do once so go mad & make sure you do everything to your hearts desire!!

I would nt change having a Disney wedding for anything, my families been supportive which im very greatful of. They re not surprised in the least as a Disney weddings a true reflection of me, a fairytale weddings always been my dreams since being a lill girl so i think my parents are happy that im living out that dream.

Dont be phased, if people are truely your friends & love you they will jump on board the Disney train & ride out your dream with you...........any one with negative comments can take the bus

 

[sfacowgirl87]

We are doing our wedding and reception here at home and just going to WDW for our honeymoon and you wouldn't believe some of the responses we have received after telling people that we're going to Disney for our honeymoon. "That kiddy place?!" "That's stupid, don't you want to go some where for adults?" I guess we have just brushed it off as one of two things...

They are either jealous or they are just obviously ignorant about WDW

**Apparently having issues with my siggy...sorry...tryin to fix it.

 

[feline figaro]

We are doing our wedding and reception here at home and just going to WDW for our honeymoon and you wouldn't believe some of the responses we have received after telling people that we're going to Disney for our honeymoon. "That kiddy place?!" "That's stupid, don't you want to go some where for adults?" I guess we have just brushed it off as one of two things...

They are either jealous or they are just obviously ignorant about WDW

You should tell them if they come out with such comments that

"wdw is the Number 1 Honeymoon destination in America"

Kiddy place i think not

I think people like this never step foot out of their front door as they seriously have no clue on what WDW truely is.

Sorry but spending 2 weeks on a beach to me sounds boring, boring, boring but i would nt tell someone that if thats where they said they were honeymooning. Id be supportive & say it sounds lovely. Some people just dont get when to "Zip It"!!!

 

[disneyeeyorefan]

If a DFTW is what you want, then that is what you should do. I was married 15 years ago and did everything to make everyone else happy even if it was not what I truly wanted and regret it to this day. After the shock wears off, maybe family and friends will support you, they probably just didn't expect it.
Plus, you are never too old for Disney magic

 

[inkedupmomma]

Trust me you re not alone in getting this kinda response from friends when you explain where you re having your wedding. I normally get people laughing or rolling their eyes, pulling faces, saying " you re not really serious are you". You name it, i ve heard it . At first it really annoyed me & to a point would upset me that people would be so judgemental about mocking my dreams but then again i looked at it like this:

if these people are truely my friends then they ll

1) not be surprised at all as they understand & respect my passion & dreams for my wedding
2)will be fully supportive
3)love the idea just as much as i do as Disney is a big part of who i am

So now i just let people think what they like, i let their words brush off of me. A normal standard wedding would nt fit me, its just not a true reflection of who i am. They suit some people but not all & many people just dont seem to understand that fact.

Anyone who judges your dreams is nt realising how hurtful comments like this can be BUT dont let them get you down. You live out your dreams exactly to how you want them, dont let anyone change your opinions on anything. Hopefully this is something you ll only do once so go mad & make sure you do everything to your hearts desire!!

I would nt change having a Disney wedding for anything, my families been supportive which im very greatful of. They re not surprised in the least as a Disney weddings a true reflection of me, a fairytale weddings always been my dreams since being a lill girl so i think my parents are happy that im living out that dream.

Dont be phased, if people are truely your friends & love you they will jump on board the Disney train & ride out your dream with you...........any one with negative comments can take the bus

i keep trying not too think that only people who really love me will show up.. cause that is somewhat unfair to them. and its generalizing. BUT keep the damn negative comments to yourself.. they can at least do that if they cant come to the wedding.. or dont want to.. or whatever the reason may be.. just send well wishes ya know?? i really hate more then anything when I ALLOW people to let me second guess myself.. i really need to stop doing that. once the contract is signed and i kknow this is a sealed seal i'm pretty sure i'm gonna stick to this board and thats all!


THANK YOU ALLLLLL SO MUCH FOR LISTENING TO ME ALL DAY

 

[feline figaro]

Good for you girl, thats the right attitude to have . You know what, i think when people actually see what a Disney weddings really like they ll really change their opinions anyway. I think when your close mates with people they think you ll appreciate complete honesty but sometimes certain comments do really need to be held back.
You cant live your life pleasing other people, at the end of the day if it was their wedding im sure your opinions would nt alter their plans.
This should be the happiest day of your life that you re planning so dont let some negative comments spoil all the magical time spent enjoying planning it. As long as you & your df are living out your dream day thats all that matters

 

[3BoysRDisneyFreaks]

I am not a Disney bride to be, but an old married woman

The only thing that matters is that you and your DF are there. No one else matters. Let them complain all they want. The most important people are going to be there.

I am jealous. I would have LOVED a Disney wedding. Maybe my next husband..


Sarah

Best Wishes!

 

[DisneyFairy19]

I am so sorry that you are going through this, I live only 3 hours away from Disney so really for family friends, it was ok for them to go up there. I truly believe that you should not stop yourself from having a DFTW, just b/c people are being hard on you. Don’t let others get in the way of your dream. I know if I was in your shoes I would still get married in Disney, those who come, come… I wish you all the best. Keep us posted

 

[IndyBride]

I'm sorry that you are dealing with this. I hope that everything is smooth sailing for you once you get the ball rolling. And, everybody thinks they need to educate you on your wedding. No matter who they are or what the topic is. You have to keep your own image in your head for your wedding and not give in to your dream.

 

[DecemberBride]

I am so sorry that you are going through this, I live only 3 hours away from Disney so really for family friends, it was ok for them to go up there. I truly believe that you should not stop yourself from having a DFTW, just b/c people are being hard on you. Don’t let others get in the way of your dream. I know if I was in your shoes I would still get married in Disney, those who come, come… I wish you all the best. Keep us posted

I agree with Christina... I also live about 3 hours away (if we drive fast ) and so it is a bit easier for people to get there, but we have people coming from Maine and Virginia as well, so i say if people will come great, but don't let it spoil your dream of having a great wedding!

 

[Ember]

Many people don't understand Disney World. They just don't get it. They have a pre-conceived idea in their heads of a tacky, cheesy amusement park and they simply don't know better. So when you say you're having a wedding there, they slot your wedding into their idea of what Disney is and - poof - total non comprehension.

I know I had guests come up and tell me at my wedding, "I didn't understand before, but now I get it. I understand why you wanted to be here." I smiled and told them I was glad. Other people, they just won't ever get it. And that's fine.

I wouldn't have gotten married anywhere else!

 

[feline figaro]

My mates seem to think Mickeys gonna perform the ceremony, that Minnies gonna be my bridesmaid.

I WISH

I now just play up to them & say " yes Mickeys gonna be dressed as a minister, Plutos giving me away". Funny thing is i must of gotten pretty good at saying this as i ve had a few people believe me. now im blonde & have many of those famous "blonde moments" but im not even that gulable

 

[Lynn5700]

We all go through it..it is ANNOYING!!!!!!!!!!! You know what all of thier complaining will not matter in the long run........your day will be beautiful and you will not regret having your wedding in Disney! All of my guests said it was the most beautiful wedding they have ever been to.

It's hard but please don't let them get to you..it's not worth your stress..just laugh at them!

 

[inkedupmomma]

that's exactly it.. i know once people are there they wont be able to do anything but feel our love and the surorunding disney magic.. because disney is magical and does something to you!! i'm really looking forward to the "i told you so" i'll be able to tell everyone!! plus its a wedding.. how bad could it be.. its not at joe's kinda crabshack.. jeez!!

Now i just gotta hope and p[ray that my mil gives us the money we need for the wedding.. so to all of you that pray..talk to spirits or whatever keep me in your thouts and send me money gettin vibes cause afterthis much heart ache it NEEEEDS to happen!! yall deserve to see pics and a kick-*** pj!!

 

[RedxPanda]

I don't know about you guys, but my family and some friends are being soooo negative and unsupportive of my choice to do a dftw!! I keep getting.."what?? " "why would you do that?", "oh doubt i'll be able to come", don't you think your too old for that?","cant you just do a normal wedding here", "how am i supposed to get there", and my favorite "no one is gonna go to your wedding".

I feel for you. I am getting the same response, but only from one individual... my mother!! I thought she would support anything, but boy was I wrong! She has said all that and more... "go to the courthouse.... do the cruise... " blah blah blah. She's even sent somewhat pointed emails to me, DF, my dad (they're divorced), and DFs parents, where she basically blames them (future parents in law) for wanting to do a bigger ceremony than we originally discussed. Sooorrrrry for changing my mind mom, but in the end if we're doing a ceremony in the same state that most ppl live, then I'd like to invite them along for the fun! And its going to be a once in a lifetime opportunity, so lets do it up right, even if we aren't "look at us while we say vows and then dance around like fools" types of people.

Long story short, I've decided to just leave her out of the planning for now. If she wants to change her tune down the line, then I'll let her back into the plans. But, if she keeps this up then I'm already prepared to cut her out all together! I certainly don't need a negative aura like that goin' on at the ceremony. (she had the nerve to say "well if 10 ys down the road it doesn't work out, then I don't want you to regret wasting all this money on a wedding" again she and my dad divorced like 4 or 5 years back, can we say bitter woman!?)

I thin just about everyone must here "nobody will be able to come down there", I think they will, and I know they'll have fun. and if someone doesn't want to come b/c of Disney, then I say pooh pooh to you! They'll be missing out, but we sure won't.

°o°, <3, goodluck, and don't give up!

 

[inkedupmomma]

I feel for you. I am getting the same response, but only from one individual... my mother!! I thought she would support anything, but boy was I wrong! She has said all that and more... "go to the courthouse.... do the cruise... " blah blah blah. She's even sent somewhat pointed emails to me, DF, my dad (they're divorced), and DFs parents, where she basically blames them (future parents in law) for wanting to do a bigger ceremony than we originally discussed. Sooorrrrry for changing my mind mom, but in the end if we're doing a ceremony in the same state that most ppl live, then I'd like to invite them along for the fun! And its going to be a once in a lifetime opportunity, so lets do it up right, even if we aren't "look at us while we say vows and then dance around like fools" types of people.

Long story short, I've decided to just leave her out of the planning for now. If she wants to change her tune down the line, then I'll let her back into the plans. But, if she keeps this up then I'm already prepared to cut her out all together! I certainly don't need a negative aura like that goin' on at the ceremony. (she had the nerve to say "well if 10 ys down the road it doesn't work out, then I don't want you to regret wasting all this money on a wedding" again she and my dad divorced like 4 or 5 years back, can we say bitter woman!?)

I thin just about everyone must here "nobody will be able to come down there", I think they will, and I know they'll have fun. and if someone doesn't want to come b/c of Disney, then I say pooh pooh to you! They'll be missing out, but we sure won't.

°o°, <3, goodluck, and don't give up!

oh thats my other fave.. go to the courthous ethen have a big party or bbq... and another fave.. how do you know you guys will be togther.. what if you get divorced.. love that one to pieces.. way to make it romantic!