Frustrated :(

[figmentcookie]

wow.. even my bf just texted me and told me to stop feeling bad for myself, what do i expect with a wedding so far away.

If this is her attitude then maybe noone will come.. i'm so pissed/hurt right now. Am i really being a jerk for expecting/wanting people to do this for me?? I know the economy is ****ty, but there are ways to do this pretty cheap.. right? Maybe i'll just invite all of you to my wedding!!

Count me in, I'm definitely down with coming to your wedding... especially since I'm getting an AP with my wedding

I'm sorry to hear that people are giving you a hard time. Most people have been very supportive.... except my mother, much like Redxpanda. I'm an only child, so I'm pretty close to her. She was trying to convince me to do it someplace closer to home. I showed her pics of when we visited the WP last September and she said, "Well that just looks stereotypical." And she didn't care about the pictures. And she didn't like the sound of how much the video was. And... well, hmm, I tuned the rest out.

We're keeping our guest list to immediate family. We only invited 7 people because we want to keep it intimate so we can spend time with all of our guests without the stress of the rest of our friends and super-extended family. My mother said "No one will want to go down, it's too expensive considering the economy, you aren't thinking of what anyone else wants." But, all of our friends want to go now too. They keep telling us that they're free on the day of our wedding (on a Monday?!?) and if we want more people, they're ready to go. So trust me, people will want to go.

So here we are, eight months later, and my mother is getting excited. She finally realizes that hey "this will be like a vacation," "my friend's daughter's aren't doing anything this fun," and the most important of all "hey, I really don't have to do a lot of work because the wedding planner does everything for me."

Don't let them get you down. They say negative things, but at the end of the day, you can't let them get to you too much. Regardless of where you're having your wedding, there will always be a party pooper.

PS. Good luck with the money stuff too.

 

[theantibride]

I just wanted to give you a big cyber hug! I guess I'm a lucky one. When we said we were engaged everyone asked us "Are you doing it aty Disney?!" cause we're such huge Disney freaks (passholders for almost a decade now). So it makes sense to everyone although they don't know what to expect. My favorite question so far came from a bridesmiad who's never been to Disney "I don't have to walk down the aisle with someone in a giant mouse gettup, do I?" But no matter where we got married there would always be 98% of our guest list having to travel because all of our friends and family are scattered around the globe -- we've got guests spread out from NY to LA and even some coming from Australia just for this! All I can say is that it's your day and if it's what you really want then find a way to do it! Maybe you have to wait a year to save up some money (that's what we did) or maybe you do an Escape wedding or something, but do what makes you and your fiance happy because this really is a huge day and it should be your vision of hapiness not others. And to the nay-sayers just say "Hey! This is what we're doing cause this is our dream, but you don't have to come and share that with us." That sends a strong your approval is neither desired nor required message and should put an end to all the back talk. Good luck and remember we're here for you if need be.