FRUSTRATED!!!! And our WDW trip just days away!!!

[goochy18]

So i got a rather upsetting call monday and it concerns our home & current living situation - my fiance's dad owns our home & we live in it rent free & bill free (except cable/internet) so that part has been GREAT for the past 3 yrs as we've been in med/law schools. But now he's decided that he will begin to get the ball rolling on selling the house. of course i'm upset bc i love this house bc we sit on 1acre of land in the city with fenced in yard for the dogs & it's just great. but i also know how fortunate we've been to have his wonderful family take care of our living arrangements for us for as long as they have. but now it's forcing us to consider all of our future plans ... esp since we don't know where we'll end up bc we're still looking for jobs & waiting for exam results to come in, etc. now money will be an ever bigger issue plus school loans, finding a new place after we FINALLY know what location we'll be in, ARG!!! I WANT to be excited about our WDW trip in 16 days but now i can think about it AFTER we come back & face reality & everything else. It also makes me feel really bad about going on this trip ... money. I know there are no words to be said (or typed) to help me feel better - but i just needed to get this all out.

 

[phorsenuf]

So i got a rather upsetting call monday and it concerns our home & current living situation - my fiance's dad owns our home & we live in it rent free & bill free (except cable/internet) so that part has been GREAT for the past 3 yrs as we've been in med/law schools. But now he's decided that he will begin to get the ball rolling on selling the house. of course i'm upset bc i love this house bc we sit on 1acre of land in the city with fenced in yard for the dogs & it's just great. but i also know how fortunate we've been to have his wonderful family take care of our living arrangements for us for as long as they have. but now it's forcing us to consider all of our future plans ... esp since we don't know where we'll end up bc we're still looking for jobs & waiting for exam results to come in, etc. now money will be an ever bigger issue plus school loans, finding a new place after we FINALLY know what location we'll be in, ARG!!! I WANT to be excited about our WDW trip in 16 days but now i can think about it AFTER we come back & face reality & everything else. It also makes me feel really bad about going on this trip ... money. I know there are no words to be said (or typed) to help me feel better - but i just needed to get this all out.

Why not buy it from him?

 

[OceanAnnie]

Why not buy it from him?

If you love it, maybe you guys can work out a plan?

 

[Stacerita]

So i got a rather upsetting call monday and it concerns our home & current living situation - my fiance's dad owns our home & we live in it rent free & bill free (except cable/internet) so that part has been GREAT for the past 3 yrs as we've been in med/law schools. But now he's decided that he will begin to get the ball rolling on selling the house. of course i'm upset bc i love this house bc we sit on 1acre of land in the city with fenced in yard for the dogs & it's just great. but i also know how fortunate we've been to have his wonderful family take care of our living arrangements for us for as long as they have. but now it's forcing us to consider all of our future plans ... esp since we don't know where we'll end up bc we're still looking for jobs & waiting for exam results to come in, etc. now money will be an ever bigger issue plus school loans, finding a new place after we FINALLY know what location we'll be in, ARG!!! I WANT to be excited about our WDW trip in 16 days but now i can think about it AFTER we come back & face reality & everything else. It also makes me feel really bad about going on this trip ... money. I know there are no words to be said (or typed) to help me feel better - but i just needed to get this all out.

Im sorry you are upset, but you had to know that eventually you wouldn't have the rent free life you have been living. Enjoy your trip and when you come back you will just need to do what everyone else does. Work, pay rent, and deal with student loans. Not ideal, but it is what it is. I am having a hard time being empathetic for someone who hasn't had bills in the last 3 years and is going to WDW in two weeks.

 

[LaurenLC]

Sorry you’re going through something.... I wish I could say I feel really bad for you, but I can't. You've gotten to live somewhere rent free for years and you are going to Disney in two weeks and you're upset about having to come back to the real world? I'm sorry, as I just paid my mortgage this morning I am having a hard time mustering up a lot of sympathy for you.
Good luck with your move.

 

[hrh_disney_queen]

 

[Savanah'sMom]

Im sorry you are upset, but you had to know that eventually you wouldn't have the rent free life you have been living. Enjoy your trip and when you come back you will just need to do what everyone else does. Work, pay rent, and deal with student loans. Not ideal, but it is what it is. I am having a hard time being empathetic for someone who hasn't had bills in the last 3 years and is going to WDW in two weeks.

 

[Polyluvr]

I have to totally agree with pp- no sympathy here; you should have been saving something-something- these past years- to put towards something-anything sometime to house you and your kids etc.

I wish someone would give me a free home to live in for a few years.

Good luck to you!

 

[kwelch10377]

I pretty much agree with some of the PPs. It stinks, but you knew it was going to come sooner or later and it is something you should have been preparing for. I know that you may not know where you will working, but you should have has least some sort of game plan as to what you would do, i.e. enough money for rent for a few months saved or even start saving money to eventually purchase the house yourselves.

 

[Freyja]

Come on guys! The OP is obviously very grateful for the help she has recieved.

OP, go ahead and have a wonderful and magical trip. You might not get to go again soon, so you might as well make the most of it. As soon as you get back you can start making new plans and adjust to your "new" life. Good luck with everything!

 

[Hillbeans]

Maybe your fiancee's dad can't afford the house any longer - I assume he still has to pay taxes and upkeep on the house, so while you have been living rent free it's costing him $$ every month. I'm sorry but you should have been preparing for this day and it shouldn't be a surprise. I know it's upsetting but it's time to step up to the plate and pay your own way. Good luck with your career and try to enjoy your WDW trip.

 

[Stacerita]

Come on guys! The OP is obviously very grateful for the help she has recieved.

Personally, I don't think its obvious that the OP is grateful.

 

[Freyja]

Personally, I don't think its obvious that the OP is grateful.

"but i also know how fortunate we've been to have his wonderful family take care of our living arrangements for us for as long as they have."

You don´t think that sounds grateful? The OP didn´t ask us to feel sorry for her. She was simply venting about the frustration and stress associated with a big change in her living/financial situation.

 

[Tiger926]

It's a frustrating situation, and hopefully you are grateful to father in law for doing this for so long, but now it's time to get out on your own and handle your own living arrangements. Why not cancel the trip, and use that money for rent money or towards downpayment on a house?

Good luck, Tiger

 

[PammieJ]

Guess you're not going to get any sympathy here, Yikes!

Although my husband has been out of work for 18 months, I've saved and scrimped and our Disney trip is still on. But there are millions of people out of work, (unemployment in my state is 10%), and people have lost homes, cars, insurance, and can't even feed themselves. So although I am sorry that your life is about to change, I can see why nobody can really muster up a big pity party for you.

So it's time to put your big girl pants on, be glad you have an education, your health, your youth and the means to make a living, but don't let this bump in the road upset your vacation. Have a good time, but be thankful that you're not in the same boat as some of us.

 

[Polyluvr]

"but i also know how fortunate we've been to have his wonderful family take care of our living arrangements for us for as long as they have."

You don´t think that sounds grateful? The OP didn´t ask us to feel sorry for her. She was simply venting about the frustration and stress associated with a big change in her living/financial situation.

If there were any gratefullness; we would never have read any of this "trivial; just venting issue"

 

[Stacerita]

"but i also know how fortunate we've been to have his wonderful family take care of our living arrangements for us for as long as they have."

You don´t think that sounds grateful? The OP didn´t ask us to feel sorry for her. She was simply venting about the frustration and stress associated with a big change in her living/financial situation.

For me, no.

 

[Freyja]

Personally, I don't think its obvious that the OP is grateful.

If there were any gratefullness; we would never have read any of this "trivial; just venting issue"

I beg to differ, but I guess we´ll just have to agree to disagree. Someone can be grateful for what they have been given but yet worried about what the future holds.

 

[Rora]

OP- your gratefulness is not my concern, so..

Is it possible for you and your DF to purchase this house from him? Or start a pay plan to eventually purchase it from him?

Enjoy your trip!

 

[Freyja]

For me, no.

Seems to me there are a lot of bitter people here on the Dis who can´t stand the fact that the OP got to live in this house for free for so many years and can afford a trip to Disney.