Friendships

[life of the party]

I watching a youtube video yesterday and this girl was talking about how selective she is about her friends and how seriously she takes her friendships and it made me start thinking about all of my different types of friendships because i am not selective at all & don't take all of it seriously.

What about you?

Are you selective with who you are friends with?
Do you take your friendships really seriously?
Who is your best friend and how close are you?


I'll post later

 

[cindys_castle2011]

I'm VERY selective of who I'm friends with.

I've been screwed over many times, and I refuse to let that happen again.

I have two best friends.

Kelsey- she was my first real friend coming into a new school. We fight all the time, but it's mainly cause we're like sisters. If you knew both of us, you'd see that we are COMPLETE opposites. I guess that's why we get along so well. She's been mybest friend for 5 years.

Garrett- ever since me and him started dating, he's actually became more of my best friend than she is. Its different with him (than my ex's) because all of our problems.. we solve them out together.. so everytime we have an arguement I don't go running to my friends to vent. I talk to him about EVERYTHING. I tell him everything. I can act myself around him, and I know he doesn't care if I act silly, goofy, or crazy, because he knows that's me.

I take my friendships to heart. If you do ONE thing to screw me over, then chances are... you won't get my trust or my friendship back.

 

[Sparx]

matt is my best friend.

i guess you could say i'm kind of selective. if you do something that really really annoys me, i probably won't be your friend. i'll also cut off the friendship if i have to.

i've never had a problem not being friends with people. in high school i actually cut out all of the toxic people in my life, and i felt so much better afterwards. there was no more drama or fights or anything. it was awesome.

i used to have a million friends and there was always drama or someone was mad at someone, or they were taking advantage of each other or me, and it wasn't worth it. i'd rather have one really great friend than five friends i honestly couldn't stand. and thats what i have now. i have a select few friends who make me happy and i enjoy being with, and thats the way i like it. there is no pressure.

 

[AliceinHalloweentown]

1. I have like a ton of acquaintances, but really only one person I would call my friend. So, yeah, I guess I'm pretty selective. I get along with everyone, but she's the only person I've every gotten close to.

In middle school, I was so weird and gross and nobody liked me. I tried desperately for those years to establish myself as her friend. Of course, when someone else came along, I went to the back. She was the only person I could tell about my depression and suicidal thoughts, though, so I needed her. Everytime that someone else would eventually dump her as a friend, I would be right back at her side like a sick annoying puppy.

We've gotten past that, though. I am still a bit scarred from those years. I have to tell you though - being her best friend is my proudest moment. I worked damn hard to get here and I love knowing how much I mean to her now. Still, I have my jealous spots and she still causes me a lot of grief, but I love her to death.

2. Considering I really only have one friend, I take my friendships extremely seriously. I know without her I'd be nearly completely alone. I hate when I mess things up.

3. I kinda already talked about this in my first, but my best friend is a girl I've been known for about 6 years. She was one of the only people who tolerated me in middle school, though she still didn't like me. Yet somehow through my creepy persistence and I guess her need to help me get over my depression, we came through. I helped her though an eating disorder, and she's been my main support system when I stopped self-injury.

We're super super close after going through everything. I'd love to be closer, but I know that's not going to happen. She still gets pissed at me for no reason in particular (usually when she's stressed out from running), and I don't push the issue further because I know my being a you-know-what to her wouldn't solve anything.

I'm so happy to have her, though <3

 

[Tinkerbell424]

1. I kind of am selective with who my friends are. I had 3 best friends, and 1 of them was the boy I was "talking" to and they all screwed me over in the past and then did it again this past December/January. If you screw me over, I will not be your friend. I use to try and seclude myself from the people who drank and did drugs, but a lot of my friends do. :|

2. Yes, I take some of my friendships seriously. I do get pretty upset if I'm in a fight with them. I had a best friend, who I told EVERYTHING to, and well difference in opinion over weed and his jerk attitude to me has left us with nothing to ever say to each other. The only reason we hang out is because he's friends with my friends.

3. I have a couple best friends.
Leah - I've known her since 5th grade. We've had about 3 or 4 major fights since then. We always stop talking, but she's the only friend I have that I end up going back and immediately get close to all over again. We are total opposites. She loves to drink and party. I hate it. She's carefree. I worry about everything. I love her<3

Joey - Joey has been my best friend since the 9th grade. But he's always busy so I haven't hung out with him in atleast 2 months. :| I still trust him with everything and can always go to him for a good laugh, no matter what. I miss him a lot.

My mom - I trust her with everything.

 

[AliceinHalloweentown]

I just realized how dysfunctional my friend and I sound after that post xD

 

[m!ssemmx0]

I have 2 very best friends, who are like sisters to me (one of them is my sister, actually), and I tell them everything. We've stuck together through a lot since we first met (in kindergarten), and we've only had one REALLY big fight (well, it wasn't really that big... we were in 6th grade, and it was over something stupid). Then I have a small circle of friends that all three of us are a part of. I guess you could say I'm selective, since I'm very wary of people when I first meet them, but over all I'm nice to everyone (who's nice to me, that is).

 

[PosessedEeyore]

1. not really. I really get a long with most people, and if we really click we become good friends.

2. uhm, I guess I do. Because I make an attempt not to loose them.

3. I have a lot of people who I consider my "best friends" but I really only have on true best friend right now:

Mikaela- lives down the street from me, but me and her really only became friends at the end of seventh grade. we are complete opposites, but get along really well. me and her have never gotten into a legit fight. we've never been mad at eacher for over ten minutes and we never get bored with eachother. I can tell her everything and I trust her. Me and her now go to differnet schools now, so we don't see each other as much. But we make attempts to see eachother as much as possible.

 

[grandfloluver]

I think for the most part I am selective for who I chose to be my friends. Like most people, I try to be friendly with everyone! But, I don't want to be with the "bad" crowd. I always try to surround myself with good people who can positively influence me. I actually don't have a best friend, but just a few friends.

-Hannah *\O/*

 

[::Snow_White::]

I am cautious about friends, not necessarily selective.
If someone tries to be my friend and I know they're someone that I do not get along with then I will be nice, but I make no effort to better friends. I have some friends that I would not trust with things and friends that I like to talk to on occasion, but they're not good friends.

I have 4 very good friends. 3 of them I'd trust with almost everything. I've been friends with the same people since 7th grade, even through the screaming, and fighting, and hating each other, we are still friends today. We fought everyday.
Yes, they do things that I don't like sometimes. Yes, they say things that I don't agree with. Yes, they do things that make me mad and sometimes I get very angry with them.
But we're still best friends and I honestly do love them to death.

We haven't stopped talking to each other since 7th grade when we had all that pre-teen drama. We don't let fights get in the way, if we feel tense we usually just stop talking for awhile and forget about it and talk to each other the next day. We don't stay mad for long and we don't talk about each other behind their backs. (At least I don't about them, and I don't believe they do about me.)

We all have very differing opinions though. 2 friends we have the same opinions about mostly everything, the other 2 there are certain topics we stay away from and that's okay, but we all amazingly have a lot of things in common. We aren't the kind of people that just go to the mall to hang out or go over to each others houses. (Though, sometimes we do go to the movies and once we went shopping. But never as much as normal friends do.) I'm not that kind of friend. I'm with them enough through school things that we're all apart of and on the internet.

Man, I love them.

eta: I do take friendships seriously. I don't have friends just to go have fun with. I want them to be there to be encouraging, and caring, and helpful. We help each other a lot with school things and we definitely always encourage each other and are proud of each other when we succeed. I don't think I could ever take a friendship, not seriously.

 

[MickeyisBeast]

I am pretty selective and I take my friendships very seriously. I really don't have a best friend. But I have four very very close friends.

Jenna- I knew her last year, but we didn't get very close until this year. I trust her with everything, and she trusts me. I'm really thankful to have her as a friend

Cassidy- We've been close friends since 4th grade, but it wasn't until last year that we considered each other 'best friends'.

Ally- She's been one of my closest friends since 7th grade, and she can always make me laugh until it hurts. Not many people can do that

Sidney- We've been friends since 5th grade, and we've recently started arguing. She takes everything too seriously, so I have to be careful what I say to her. She also goes overboard on everything. But, we're still good friends

 

[life of the party]

i'm not selective at all, which leads to me getting screwed over way too often. i just have way too much trust in people.

i have a wide spread group of "friends" that can all go into different catagories.

"internet friends"
random people that only talk to me on like facebook but get nervous around me in person ? its weird.

"DIS friends"
honestly, i like and care about a lot of my dis friends more than a lot of my RL friends. a lot of you guys have been here for me when they have stabbed me in the back. thank you <3

"school friends"
we have a lot of fun in school and on the internet but don't make plans for outside of school

"BBF"
best behavior friends (saw this on urban dictionary yesterday xD) friends that i hang out with but not close enough with for them to know exactly who i am and stuff. like, im on my best behavior with them.

"friends"
close with and gave a lot of fun but not my BEST friend

"best friend"
i think i probably only have two best friends. my friend jackie and honestly, rachel from on here (minniemouse440044).

jackie: started being friends with her during summer '08 and we have been extremely close ever since. she's the person i call ASAP whenever something happens and i can tell her anything. she's a year younger so i think that helps us because we don't have a lot of the same friends so we don't get involved in the same drama that we would if we were the same age. she is mature for her age so that helps. i have only ever been in one fight with her and it was SO stupid.

rachel: a lot of people may think this is weird but rach is deffinately one of my best friends. she may live like two thousand miles away and i have never met her but i would seriously die without her! it's easier to vent to her because she doesn't know any of the people that i'm talking about (except, well, the people that she creeps on facebook xD) luuhh you gurr

 

[Pearls]

I'm not really selective with friends, if you're chill, drama-free, and like to have fun, you're okay in my book!
I have a lot of friends that I like to hang out with, but only 4 girl friends who I am supersupersuper tight with. I would probably consider all of them my best friends. I guess just because I've known them all for so long. One I met in 2nd grade, one in 6th, one in 7th, and one in 8th. I can completely be myself with them, and have no trouble being 100% honest with them.
But as far as just average friends, I'm not really selective at all. I mean, obv. if they're mean or w/e I probably wont be friends with them, but even then I'd still probably party with them.

 

[imabrat]

I'm not selective at all. What I am selective about is how much I tell someone. I'll be friends with anyone if they want to be my friend. However, I'll only tell a select few things that the whole school doesn't need to know.

 

[hkrox]

jackie: started being friends with her during summer '08 and we have been extremely close ever since. she's the person i call ASAP whenever something happens and i can tell her anything. she's a year younger so i think that helps us because we don't have a lot of the same friends so we don't get involved in the same drama that we would if we were the same age. she is mature for her age so that helps. i have only ever been in one fight with her and it was SO stupid.

I totally agree with the whole being best friends with people younger than you. I think being friends with people of different ages is so much easier. Most of my closest friends are either older or younger than me.

I wouldn't say I'm to selective when it comes to friends. I'll be friends with almost anyone. But when it comes to trusting someone a lot, I'm more selective. I don't all out trust many people.

I have a few best friends at the time. None of them are really my age. One is older two are younger. Two of them are siblings and and both of our families are really close. And the other one I really just started talking to this year. It's weird cuz I haven't known them for too long but I totally trust them with anything. And one of my best friends and I used to be really close with another girl. But she totally turned on me and we haven't said much to each other in seven weeks so i've kinda given up on her.

 

[Disney Princess Elli]

*deletes giant paragraph I just typed 'cause I think it's too mean*
I have 2 best friends. One of them I've known for 11 years and we're like sisters
We've all been through a lot (break-ups, parent's divorces, problems with family members, eating disorders, general bad periods of time, serious illnesses, etc.) and it's made us closer I think.
I take our friendship seriously but I always take back the one best friend who I fight with sometimes because, in the end, I don't want to lose her.
But me and my other best friend never fight..

 

[ilovem3tr0st4t10n]

Now that i'm thinking about it, IM VERY selective of my friends.


if they dont have the same music type, i just dont really click with them.

idk why.

so i dont have that many friends xD

 

[Cinderelli16]

I have a lot of friends mainly because I like to be friends with everyone. I'm not really selective at all, but there are some people that just get on my nerves very quickly.

There is:

Amanda who will always be my number one best friend no matter what. We met when we were 3 & 4 years old when she moved into the house across from me. We immediately became friends that day, every single day that summer she would come over & we would play from 8 in the morning till 10 at night. Every day our friendship got stronger & stronger, of course we would fight like crazy, but we always made up in the end. She has been here for me through thick & thin & I really honestly don't know what I would have done without her these past couple of years. We know every single little detail about each other & we're not afraid to act stupid or say stupid things infront of each other. I may complain about her ALL the time & I may not agree with some things she does, but I love her no matter what & I'm here for her. She's pretty much my sister & it's so easy to tell her things.

Then there is Suzy, she is another really good friend of mine, I don't want to say she's my best friend, but we're very close. I've known her since elementary, but I didn't become friends with her until 7th grade. I took her to Disney with me this year & it was a blast. We're together most of the time and we're pretty freaking crazy. She knows a lot about me also, probably not as much as Amanda, but that's only because I haven't known her as long. She doesn't really know how to take a joke which drives me crazy, but I still love her.

I have other close friends like Chelsie, I've known her since 10th grade. The first time we met I knew we would e great friends. I have SO much fun when I'm with her.

Destinee is another close friend, we don't hang out that much anymore, but when we do we never stop laughing. She picks me up when I'm feeling down & some how manages to get me to smile when nobody else can. There are some things that we talk about that my other friends would think that there is something wrong with me. Destinee is pretty immature, but that's why I love her so much, everyone needs that one immature friend to make them laugh.

Then there's just the friends that I have at school, but don't really hang out with outside of school.

There's my DIS friends that I love oh so much.

Then there's the friends from facebook that only talk to me over the internet, but won't speak to me in school. Which I find kind of weird, but whatever.

I try to be friends with everyone & I give everyone a chance, but if you screw it up it's over.

 

[yellowlabforever]

I have been friends with around four or five girls since Kindergarten. We were all good friends and we still are good friends, even though we have grown apart since middle school.

Out of that group of friends, I have one friend that has always been my frienemy. She was my best friend, and she was my worst enemy at times too. Through elementary school we were BFFs, but in middle school my group of friends all found out that she had been lying to us all through elementary school, just to increase her image. I don't value that in a friendship, so we kinda grew apart through the middle school years. As high school came on, she kinda grew out of that phase and now we all are just cool with each other.

In middle school we were kind of inbetween on the ladder. We definately were not popular(there was about five or six girls in that group, and they were really mean. One girl stole another one of my friend's small teddy bear and threw it up in a large tree in fourth grade). Since High school though, the pettiness of middle school has worn off and now we are all cool with each other. In fact I don't think anyone in my class does the whole "BFF sleepover" thing. (Now my sister's class.... that's a different story. They're the more social butterfly type class with about 3/4ths of the class being bffs with one another.)

Since high school started I have been able to form so many friendships outside of my high school due to many different opportunities I have had. Currently I don't have any really good friends in my high school, rather they are across the state and around the country. One of my really good friends is currently attending the college that I am going to, so I'm glad I'll know somebody there before I go.

 

[DramaQueen]

I find this so interesting to read for some reason.

Anyways, I'm REALLY not selective with my friends, I'll be friends with anyone pretty much, I never really have drama issues, only a few times and if someone starts causing drama i don't have a problem cutting them out, but i can only think of one person ive had to 'cut out'

and sure i take my friendships seriously, i mean with my best friends who i love i would do anything for, sure i have some acquaintances that, to be honest i don't really take those friendships 'seriously'.

my best friend is emily, i love her and we've been best friends only for a couple of years now but we're like sisters, it sucks because she lives like 45 minutes away from me now that she moved, but we try to get together every weekend. we've never been in a fight over anything and we got on sooo well and have such a great time together no matter what we're doing

my boyfriend derek is also my best friend, we're just there for each other no matter what and we can talk about anything and everything and just enjot spending time together

my other best friends are emilys boyfriend, bert, he moved here from england to be with her (long story how they met) he's awesome though, mark who i've known since grade 9 and we just hit it off and have so much in common, lauren who i also met in grade 9 and shes the best person to talk to and probably my sister for obvious reasons.

and katie, don't think it's weird that rachel's your best friend!! my sister met her best friend (Melina) on...NEOPETS! lol i'm close with this girl too, but her and my sister are BFF. lol we had a guild on neopets way back in like 2003 of girls and we all got really close and still keep in touch and i've met 2 of them, this girl Melina and another girl. I've met Melina 3 times (once in Disney!) she's even come to stay at our house before and she's coming again in the summer. She lives in Michigan which is pretty far, but we skype a lot and stuff. And my BFF emily met bert her bf over myspace, and he actually moved to canada from there and they live together now!! so it's pretty common to meet really great friends online.

omg this is so long lol....also i have dis friends too that are great and i love talking to!!