Friendship Advice

[dismom2005]

I've ben debating posting this but I really need to get some ideas from other people if they've been in this kind of situation with a friend of many years.

My friend and I met in college, and stayed in touch throughout the years - we are both in our early 30's and live within 45 minutes of each other. Unfortunately she has had some bad things happen in her personal life (relationship problems, divorce) but has otherwise done well with her career.

Over the course of the last year she has become extremely unpleasant to be around, is for lack of a better word miserable at the world, and has also become very prejudice as well which is very uncomfortable because I don't feel the same way she does. Anytime i'm in the car with her she always gets into a "road rage" incident with someone on the road - every time - horns honk, middle finger, tailgating etc. The most recent incident was being rude to the waitstaff at a restaurant, mortifying.

I find myself pulling away from the friendship but I also feel as if I owe it to her to say something (what, I don't know). I am certainly not perfect either and have my quirks but even my other friends have commented on how much she has changed recently.

Any advice?

 

[Mickeyistheman]

You can try and ask her what is wrong, sometimes we women just get mad at the world especially when she has had some tough problems this year. I can totally relate to that.

I got laid off and I really was not a happy person to be around at all. So instead of getting aggrevated, when my friends called even my best friend I was honest and said I am not in the best place right now I need some me time. Is that okay? She was fine with that and now I am a little better and we are spending more time together and I am not as cranky or B***y either.

Just be honest with her, she probably doesn't know how its affecting you b/c its all hazy to her as well and she is still dealing with everything.

I am sure if you are honest and caring all will go well.

Good Luck!

 

[wendy darling]

I've ben debating posting this but I really need to get some ideas from other people if they've been in this kind of situation with a friend of many years.

My friend and I met in college, and stayed in touch throughout the years - we are both in our early 30's and live within 45 minutes of each other. Unfortunately she has had some bad things happen in her personal life (relationship problems, divorce) but has otherwise done well with her career.

Over the course of the last year she has become extremely unpleasant to be around, is for lack of a better word miserable at the world, and has also become very prejudice as well which is very uncomfortable because I don't feel the same way she does. Anytime i'm in the car with her she always gets into a "road rage" incident with someone on the road - every time - horns honk, middle finger, tailgating etc. The most recent incident was being rude to the waitstaff at a restaurant, mortifying.

I find myself pulling away from the friendship but I also feel as if I owe it to her to say something (what, I don't know). I am certainly not perfect either and have my quirks but even my other friends have commented on how much she has changed recently.

Any advice?

If it were me, I would either try to talk to her and tell how you feel about her actions and the way you feel around her. Or I would sit down and write her a letter. I would tend to write a letter.

I hope everything works out for you.