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[MagiKitty]

Wendy, if you're the bad guy, then I'm the bad friend of bad guy. You are so right! Chilis on a Saturday night??? So not appopriate for your daughter to go unchaperoned. Chili's bar has huge (fun) drinks! I'd guess your DD would be the youngest one of the group, and if you can't be assured that she will be monitored every single minute (even the bathroom)--then sorry, thanks for inviting me, I'm really flattered....but have a great birthday without me. You're on top of this one...

 

[racetrack18kb]

Have to agree with Magikitty on this one, Wendy. No way would I allow DD to go. You know her best and what she would be able to handle. Yep, you'll be the bad guy if she really wants to go. It's part of your job as her mom. Heck, I've been the bad guy most of the time I've been a mom. And as far as your ex goes, trusting her has nothing to do with it. Knowing what DD can handle SAFELY goes much farther than trusting her and hoping that all goes well.

 

[LivinInTheCastle]

Hey all, hope everyone is well.
Wendy--sorry I don't feel equipped to give advice on this one since I don't have kids of my own, except to say trust your gut.
Race-hows the arm?

 

[pepperw23]

I totally agree with the others Wendy. Not to mention, you don't really know this guy. How do you know he is not a pedophile, sadly these are the times we live in? Nope, you are making the right call.

 

[LivinInTheCastle]

Pepper I love your Dopey!

 

[racetrack18kb]

Hey LITC!!! Her are is doing better. Still hurts like crazy but today we were able to work out a good schedule for the motrin. She didn't take any before school today (she gets up on her own) because I drilled it into her head not to take any medication unless I give it to her.

I watched the retrospective ER show the other night. I cried, I laughed, I had a beer and toasted the end of a great show. I hope they add to the final dvd set.

 

[LivinInTheCastle]

That's good to hear. Hope it is all better soon.
I'm sure they'll add it, I don't think it could be a complete set without it. It was great.

 

[racetrack18kb]

So, what's new? How's work going?

 

[LivinInTheCastle]

Not to much new, 25 days to check in! And we have good friday off at my work, thank goodness.

Works not great still. Just trying to get through day by day. Need the paycheck unfortunately!!

 

[racetrack18kb]

25 more days. That is so close.

Needing that paycheck...know all about that one. Sometimes I wish I could just tell DH to quit and look for something else that makes him happier. Not going to happen anytime soon.

 

[LivinInTheCastle]

Trust me I get you on taht one. Both my DH and I are in that spot. Of course I could pick up and get a new job "easier" than he could. He makes more than me, he has our health insurance, And he has quite a bit more time in at his job than I do. But I feel so bad for him, they abuse their management so bad their. At least I am kinda under the radar where I am.

 

[racetrack18kb]

Reading that, I feel bad for your DH too. Mine gets dumped on at his job too. He's very good at what he does and thus, his bosses expect him to be perfect all the time. Sometimes he has an off day...not often but it happens. And when it does, he really gets it from his boss. But yet, other foremen will totally screw up their jobs and have flooded out a building because they didn't do their jobs right. But hardly a word gets said to them. Pi***s me off because it stresses him.

 

[LivinInTheCastle]

I feel for your DH. I completely understand what you are saying. The "top" boss at my DH's store is a woman (fine) but she doesn't seem to like to work with men, thus my DH and the other men in the store get at least three times the BS handed to them that the women managers do. Then one of the women managers does something basically that is supposed to be their job and they are practically a goddess......

 

[racetrack18kb]

I bet your DH works his butt off too only to handed a bunch of c**p on a daily basis. I remember when hard workers were valued and rewarded for what they do. What happened to those days?

 

[whgrn]

I am a GENIUS!!!!!!!!!

Tonite at dinner, I was casually discussing the menu for the week with the kids. OK, so tomorrow is pizza, Wednesday we'll have meatloaf, etc. And on Saturday, we're going to Grammy and Grandpa's for dinner for Grandpa's birthday (which is Friday, and which he NEVER celebrates--he "stopped having birthdays" 20 years ago!)

DD's response? Will we go out? Can we go to KC Prime?

Guess that party wasn't so important after all!! I won't even bring it up. She's likely to forget all about it. After all, she may miss a party, but she's going to Grammy's house!!!

Not surprisingly, Mom and Dad agreed with me 100%. My father asked if the ex had a screw loose, then said, "never mind, I already know the answer"!

 

[M&N]

In the bad guy vs great mom debate, I'll have to side with the great mom. As someone said, trust really isn't the deciding factor. You can trust her all you want and it won't matter if someone else doesn't play by the rules. I'm sure that mom who let her daughter walk to a neighbor's house trusted her not to go anywhere else but she never made it back home. You are thinking safety and that is of major concern in our time. There could be anyone there not with the party just on the look out for someone. It would not take long. So maybe a bad guy for a day but a loving, caring mom forever. (Just another example to make you wonder how you could have married that jerk of an ex!)

 

[whgrn]

In the bad guy vs great mom debate, I'll have to side with the great mom. As someone said, trust really isn't the deciding factor. You can trust her all you want and it won't matter if someone else doesn't play by the rules. I'm sure that mom who let her daughter walk to a neighbor's house trusted her not to go anywhere else but she never made it back home. You are thinking safety and that is of major concern in our time. There could be anyone there not with the party just on the look out for someone. It would not take long. So maybe a bad guy for a day but a loving, caring mom forever. (Just another example to make you wonder how you could have married that jerk of an ex!)

A qeustion I have asked my self soooo many times!! WHAT was I thinking???

 

[M&N]

I am a GENIUS!!!!!!!!!

Tonite at dinner, I was casually discussing the menu for the week with the kids. OK, so tomorrow is pizza, Wednesday we'll have meatloaf, etc. And on Saturday, we're going to Grammy and Grandpa's for dinner for Grandpa's birthday (which is Friday, and which he NEVER celebrates--he "stopped having birthdays" 20 years ago!)

DD's response? Will we go out? Can we go to KC Prime?

Guess that party wasn't so important after all!! I won't even bring it up. She's likely to forget all about it. After all, she may miss a party, but she's going to Grammy's house!!!

Not surprisingly, Mom and Dad agreed with me 100%. My father asked if the ex had a screw loose, then said, "never mind, I already know the answer"!

Hey Genius...I think Grammy deserves the credit for this one. Thank Heavens Grammies are still more important than a guy! May this last a long time...

 

[racetrack18kb]

Wendy, I'm so glad it all worked out without you having to play the "bad guy" (and every time I type that, I keep hearing some ominous music in my head )

 

[LivinInTheCastle]

Way to go Wendy,good mom trick there.

Race--you basically hit it on the head! The harder he works the worse she treats him. The payback I have given her in my head.