For the Ladies only! You look good!

[4formickey]

I would like to pose this question for the ladies only! Do you like it when straight guys flirt with you. I know some very good looking ladies that date of the same sex would you like this?

 

[mickeysaver]

This is a really weird question.

Occasionally Gabby or I will have some sort of bizarre guy decide to flirt. I think it's just freakin' sad that any guy would not be able to look at us and just know that we are not on their team.

I don't find it cool or even flattering. I am usually just dumbfounded that anyone would go there. Maggie

 

[mickeyfan1]

OK, here is a question. Just by looking, how does anyone know the sexual orientation of a person. Now granted, there are some men who are very effeminate looking and acting, but that doesn't mean they are gay. I know a lot of women who could easily be described as butch, yet they are not lesbians. A very close friend from high school is a lesbian, yet men flirt with her a lot. Even if she and her wife are out together, men will flirt with both of them. They are just they kind of women that you would probably not remember if you passed them on the street. When they do get approached by a guy, they will usually say, "I like the same thing you do", and that usually ends the flirtation. But they are never offended.

I also have several gay friends who reek of testosterone, tall, dark and handsome, and there isn't any way of knowing they are gay just by looking. So I guess what I am saying is looks don't always tell.

 

[bubie2.5]

If you know they "date of the same sex"... why flirt with them?
Would you like it if a gay man to flirted with you?

 

[4formickey]

flirting does not have to be anything sexual but just saying you look nice today. It does not take away from who you are as a person so why would you get offended. As a woman do you feel this is wrong? Or do you feel good knowing that both sexes find you nice looking.

 

[beachwench]

It doesn't bother me if guys flirt with me.. but I'm a big flirt myself. Just can't control it... Not looking for anyone, I'm happily in an almost 8 year relationship with a great lady... As a flirt I'm not looking for anything more than a little friendship or converstation... guess i'm just one of those annoying people. my apologies for all of us that know better, but can't resist.

 

[mickeysaver]

If you dress like a boy, have a haircut like a boy, have a woman by your side that also dresses like a boy and has a haircut like a boy, then more than likely, you can tell what you are looking at....a couple of lesbians.

Gabby and I are you garden variety fluffy 30-something lesbians. It's obvious.
Maggie

 

[LauraAnn630]

I know a few people that flirt with everyone! Some people just think its fun.

 

[rhiannonwales]

I think that there is a HUGE difference between saying you look nice today and flirting.
I wouldnt be offended if some one told me that i looked nice today, but a couple of 50ish guys come to my job (restaurant) and they flirt outrageously with me knowing im a lesbian. I mean seriously, like syaing that they could "turn me back to the other side" and things like that.I find it rather creepy and gross.I won't wait on them anymore.
At least for me i find that offensive because if you KNOW im gay, and you are still being flirtatious, that seems to me like your trying to live out that fantasy that most guys have about themselves and 2 lesbians.

 

[bubie2.5]

I think that there is a HUGE difference between saying you look nice today and flirting...
...At least for me i find that offensive because if you KNOW im gay, and you are still being flirtatious, that seems to me like your trying to live out that fantasy that most guys have about themselves and 2 lesbians.

What she said.

 

[beachwench]

I agree, there is a time when it becomes offensive... I haven't encountered that problem very often. Like I said before a little flirting never bothers me, but now I see your situation. I thought you meant you were just out and someone approached/flirted with you. Didn't realize it was an on-going thing in a work situation. I would be annoyed, grossed out and pissed off. The hetero-guy fantasy thing will never go away.

 

[dkostel]

I don't mind being flirted with by anyone. I used to work at a lesbian bar and women can be just as obnoxious as men can, especially in a bar setting.

 

[mystic_path]

Well I dont think you can really tell the orientation of the person unless they make it really obvious. But even at that if I were in that position I think it should be flattering that someone noticed me and finds me attractive. I mean anything of the sort is an ego booster which makes you feel good. To me it means, if one person finds me attractive then other people must as well, even the same sex. Obviously im doing something right if im getting noticed. If I dont feel the same about the person flirting, theres no harm in telling the person im not interested that way.

I think some guys are just ignorant, thinking that girls travel in packs anyways so we are just "friend friend" not "Girl Friends"

 

[DVC~OKW~96]

Nope. Don't like it at all. It makes my skin crawl (literally) and my stomach clench.

I work with men, supervise men, have a man for an ED, interact with men in social settings, conduct classes that have men as participants... all fine, sometimes quite fun, and enjoyable. But moving toward the personal? Nope. Nope. Nope.

 

[Viki]

Nope. Don't like it at all. It makes my skin crawl (literally) and my stomach clench.

I work with men, supervise men, have a man for an ED, interact with men in social settings, conduct classes that have men as participants... all fine, sometimes quite fun, and enjoyable. But moving toward the personal? Nope. Nope. Nope.

God, I ADORE good boundaries!

 

[DVCajun]

God, I ADORE good boundaries!

As in, you find it "hot?"

sorry. couldn't help myself.

 

[Viki]

As in, you find it "hot?"

sorry. couldn't help myself.

Enough said!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[4formickey]

I'm not trying to offend anyone nor do I want to be with two women. It's enough to have one mad at you . If you are with someone, then out of respect,I would say hi and bye. Now some times you my start a conversation with a person and in the mist of saying "hi" on a bad hair day ,I my say that they looking nice today. For those that express they are gay,I let them know that I was not looking but just trying to brighten their day. It doesn't matter to me who you go home to as long as they treat you right. So I see some my like it and others don't.

 

[rhiannonwales]

I'm not trying to offend anyone nor do I want to be with two women. It's enough to have one mad at you . If you are with someone, then out of respect,I would say hi and bye. Now some times you my start a conversation with a person and in the mist of saying "hi" on a bad hair day ,I my say that they looking nice today. For those that express they are gay,I let them know that I was not looking but just trying to brighten their day. It doesn't matter to me who you go home to as long as they treat you right. So I see some my like it and others don't.

I really don't have a problem with generic compliments like "you look nice today" or " that _____ (color, outfit,etc.) looks great on you." Actually i don't see that as flirting, just a compliment. I think that people were concerned because to most of us flirting is something ENTIRELY different.

 

[Grumpy~N~Dopey]

I do not get offended when I or my Partner is flirted with, as long as the "flirter" knows when to stop. We Both get flirted with but we politely say who we are and who we are with. That usually ends it. Now we don't go to bars and stuff, this mainly happens at work for us with customers, and or coworkers. I'm sure it is different when alcohol is involved.
Face it though.... we were once attracted to our partners (before we knew them) because they looked appeasing to us... others are going to see how beautiful or handsome they are also at times just as we did. I know my girlfriend is beautiful as I'm sure all of you do about your significant other, I expect her to get attention.
Keep in mind I am not OK with obnoxious jerks! I just don't see that as flirting... that's just them being ignorant JERKS! (I am watching my language )