FL Surrogate Wants To Keep Baby AND Get Child Support

I think if the surrogate truly had a change of heart, she'd be looking to terminate the father's parental rights and looking for other adoptive parents, not seeking child support.

Why would she look for other adoptive parents? The baby is biologically hers. My understanding was that the "change of heart" was that she wanted to keep her biological child, not just that she didn't want this couple to have it.
 
Why would the couple just not check the contract to see if it was signed just because they trusted her?:confused3 That sounds so fishy to me.
 
Somewhere on this thread is a statement that she felt the biological father was unfit.
 
Somewhere on this thread is a statement that she felt the biological father was unfit.

That would be a reason for her to not want the bio father to have custody, I just don't understand why she should give the baby to a completely new set of parents since 1) it is her biological child and 2) she apparently wants to keep it.
 

You would expect one article to contain all the information and for it all to be 100% accurate. How would you know that $1500 was all that she was paid?

One of the other news stories said that $1500 was a deposit. Based on the stories out of the J-Ville press--and the poster who claims to have been their first surrogate not withstanding--the $1500 was simply a "downpayment."

Anne
 
That would be a reason for her to not want the bio father to have custody, I just don't understand why she should give the baby to a completely new set of parents since 1) it is her biological child and 2) she apparently wants to keep it.


because she didn't get pregnant to have a baby, she got pregnant to be a surrogate.
 
And why should you automatically dismiss the person as being untrue?
Well I'm not buying it either. Brand new poster. Posting in the middle of the night. This thread was probably buried on page 5 by the time this "surrogate" got to it.
 
One of the other news stories said that $1500 was a deposit. Based on the stories out of the J-Ville press--and the poster who claims to have been their first surrogate not withstanding--the $1500 was simply a "downpayment."

THis is what I read too.
 
One of the other news stories said that $1500 was a deposit. Based on the stories out of the J-Ville press--and the poster who claims to have been their first surrogate not withstanding--the $1500 was simply a "downpayment."

Anne

Yes, a downpayment but surely the media outlets and the "wronged" couple would put out there if she has received several thousand dollars to date, wouldn't they? That would also sway my opinion a bit if she received much more then the $1500. I also read the "surrogate's" post that the birthmother was checking in the couple's financial records after she was already pregnant. If she was in it for the money, wouldn't she research that before she got pregnant?

I'm just throwing stuff out there. All of this, quite frankly, is very fishy.
 
Why on earth should anyone believe you? Is this the only place on earth this case is being discussed, that you felt the need to register and defend this couple?

Sorry, but I think you are making the whole thing up.

I know of all the message boards out there on the net she just happens to stumble upon ours......could happen but I doubt it.
 
While I agree it is her right to change her mind and keep the baby, I completely disagree with her allegedly wanting child support for it.
 
While I agree it is her right to change her mind and keep the baby, I completely disagree with her allegedly wanting child support for it.

I think you hit the nail on the head. I can understand her having a change of heart, but I think it's absurd, and actually cruel that she expects child support due to her change of heart. If she can't afford to raise the child on her own without support, then she should do what's best for the child and surrender it to the biological father--unles she's got a compelling reason that he would be unfit. Frankly I think she's being incredibly selfish to both the couple and the child.

Anne
 
Why should you autmatically believe them?

Anyone can go on the internet and say anything. I received an email today telling me that I won the South African lottery, and if I just provide them with my bank account number, they will transfer the money immediately. Guess I should give them the benefit of the doubt too.

Don't you find it amazingly coincidental that this couple's surrogate just happens to find this thread on one of millions and millions of internet message boards?

If she is so determined to publically defend this couple, why not call up any of the Florida media outlets that have already covered the story and go on record there? Why come to a relatively obscure message board to do it?

My point in quoting the article was that the so-called first surrogate poster cited that article as proof of all the claims she made in her post. I was pointing out that in fact, the article did not back up her statements.

How would I know that $1500 was all that was paid? I don't. But then you don't know that any other monies were paid, do you?

Since the adoptive couple has repeatedly said that the surrogate wanted to cheat and extort money from them, doesn't it make sense that they would list all the amounts and times that such money had been extorted? But they only mention one amount - $1500. If she took more money, why not say so? wouldn't that only make their case stronger?

Didn't say I did believe them but I don't automatically disbelieve them either. There are any number of reasons why this poster appeared here to defend this couple, including she may have already been a member but simply created another user name to avoid what has happened since she posted.

Sure the odds are pretty slim but it could happen.


One of the other news stories said that $1500 was a deposit. Based on the stories out of the J-Ville press--and the poster who claims to have been their first surrogate not withstanding--the $1500 was simply a "downpayment."

Anne

Exactly, a deposit not the entire payment.

Well I'm not buying it either. Brand new poster. Posting in the middle of the night. This thread was probably buried on page 5 by the time this "surrogate" got to it.


It's crazy but it could happen.
 
I think you hit the nail on the head. I can understand her having a change of heart, but I think it's absurd, and actually cruel that she expects child support due to her change of heart. If she can't afford to raise the child on her own without support, then she should do what's best for the child and surrender it to the biological father--unles she's got a compelling reason that he would be unfit. Frankly I think she's being incredibly selfish to both the couple and the child.


Well said Anne. ::yes::
 
My name is Rebekah and I live near Tampa. If any of you are in the listening area of 93.3 (Tampa, St. Louis and Jacksonville), i was just on there show this morning about this. I found this online when I googled the situation. Who cares if you don't believe me, the facts are what they are anyway. You'll see me on the news at some point in the future. In fact I am hear witht the family today with two of my children about to do an interview for CBS News. Why would I take the time to point out all of this stuff if I wasn't there surrogate.

And this is not "the only place in the world discussing this". I will continue to find this topic and defend it because I am involved and I am tired of people bashing surrogacy and those involved.

Rebekah
 
My name is Rebekah and I live near Tampa. If any of you are in the listening area of 93.3 (Tampa, St. Louis and Jacksonville), i was just on there show this morning about this. I found this online when I googled the situation. Who cares if you don't believe me, the facts are what they are anyway. You'll see me on the news at some point in the future. In fact I am hear witht the family today with two of my children about to do an interview for CBS News. Why would I take the time to point out all of this stuff if I wasn't there surrogate.

And this is not "the only place in the world discussing this". I will continue to find this topic and defend it because I am involved and I am tired of people bashing surrogacy and those involved.

Rebekah

Ummm, wow. :eek: If you are who you say you are (and I do believe Googling can bring people here because we discuss a lot of things), will you be advocating for the parents and surrogacy in general?
 
My name is Rebekah and I live near Tampa. If any of you are in the listening area of 93.3 (Tampa, St. Louis and Jacksonville), i was just on there show this morning about this. I found this online when I googled the situation. Who cares if you don't believe me, the facts are what they are anyway. You'll see me on the news at some point in the future. In fact I am hear witht the family today with two of my children about to do an interview for CBS News. Why would I take the time to point out all of this stuff if I wasn't there surrogate.

And this is not "the only place in the world discussing this". I will continue to find this topic and defend it because I am involved and I am tired of people bashing surrogacy and those involved.

Rebekah

Do the surrogates go through any psychological screening? Just wondering.
 
Do the surrogates go through any psychological screening? Just wondering.

I don't think it's a requirement in most states, but I don't know that for sure. I'll tell you, if I were a parent who was thinking about using a surrogate, I'd be requiring the prospective "womb" to undergo a psycological screening before paying her a dime. That's just me though.

Anne
 
My name is Rebekah and I live near Tampa. If any of you are in the listening area of 93.3 (Tampa, St. Louis and Jacksonville), i was just on there show this morning about this.
Well.....hmmmmm. I actually listen to that radio show, but didn't this morning. :laughing:

Thing is, if you're for real ok fine. But, we don't know these people so it doesn't really matter what we think about them or about surrogacy. Besides I think we can all understand that this was sort of a shoddy way to go about the process. And hopefully people will learn from it.
 














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