Fitting rooms

[Aisling]

It wouldn't bother me. But what did make me feel wierd was when a teen couple went in to a unisex fitting room together and were obvioiusly doing something other than trying on clothes.

 

[clgwli]

I think it is "less intrusive" for him to be in the room with me where neither one of us had to come out. The only way anyone would be exposed to him was if they came in our dressing room. He wasn't walking up and down the hallway. He came in, I tried on dresses with his assistance, he coudn't see anyone else.

I honestly didn't think it would offend anyone since we were in a closed room. I was shocked when the attendant asked him to leave. Now I know better...only share a dressing room in Banana Replubic, Gap, White House Black Market (the actually asked him if he wanted to come in with me), J. Crew etc. Lesson learned.

I've shopped in some of the stores you mentioned and the set ups are different. Macy's sells items that I try on where I wouldn't want a man near by. Our White & Black isn't a real secluded area and I adjust for that. The others share a dressing room so I adjust as well.

Personally in an area where I might be trying on a bra like in Macy's I get why he was kicked out. He should have waited in the area just outside to help if need be.

And honestly seeing someone share a dressing room (except for parents with kids) makes me go "What the heck?" too.

 

[wdwfan16]

Actually, no I cannot zip any back zipped dress due to back problems.

There were no dressing rooms in the area where the dresses are. It was in a different area of the store. (I'm sure it was in women's clothign somewhre though.)

Oddly enough, I've gone into the men's dressing room with him with no problems.
The kid on the shoulders was with a woman that was there with someone else trying on clothes. They weren't in a dressing room themselves. They were standing in the dressing room "hallway".

The dressing rooms had doors on them like little rooms, not slatted doors, or curtains...actual full doors. Well 3/4 doors atleast.

Does he need help zipping up his fly?

 

[stashbin]

It wouldn't bother me. But what did make me feel wierd was when a teen couple went in to a unisex fitting room together and were obvioiusly doing something other than trying on clothes.

I have seen that happen too...but with adults doing it!

The worst dressing room thing for me is going in and the carpet smelled like urine! In fact, several dressing rooms I have been in (in major department stores) smelled like someone peed on the carpet!!!!!

 

[wvjules]

Does he need help zipping up his fly?

Nope, he can handle that all on his own.

I have gone in because 1) I'm bored 2) I want to sit down 3) because he has a lot to try on and show me and its easier if I'm already in there 4) because I can 5) he can't zip back zipped dresses either.

Its not like we go in together all the time. And until that day I never realized it was an issue.

 

[si-am]

Am I the only one who just does not want my husband anywhere near me when I'm clothes shopping, much less in the dressing room? First, he gets antsy and starts nagging me to hurry.

And sometimes I try on clothes that just are really unflattering or, worse, maybe don't even zip! I don't want him witnessing that!

 

[lspst8]

I probably would be slightly uncomfortable with a man in the dressing room, but not enough to complain to the sales clerk unless I got a "pervy" vibe off of him. I'm just going to assume that your boyfriend doesn't give off that vibe

I find it amazing that you got your boyfriend to go clothes shopping with you. My DH would hate that. I'm not a big shopper either, so we would both be miserable. The last time we went shopping together, he was the one trying on clothes. It didn't even occur to me to go in the dressing room with him.

 

[ChristaDeVil]

Nope, he can handle that all on his own.

I have gone in because 1) I'm bored 2) I want to sit down 3) because he has a lot to try on and show me and its easier if I'm already in there 4) because I can 5) he can't zip back zipped dresses either.

Its not like we go in together all the time. And until that day I never realized it was an issue.

Okay, that's good.

 

[maxiesmom]

I work retail, and we do insist that men stay out of the womens fitting rooms, and vica versa. I would think it obvious that if a fitting rooms is by womens dresses that it is a womens fitting room, just as a fitting room by mens pants is a mens dressing room.

We have had fights before when men go into the womens fitting rooms. One woman was actually threatened by a guy who wanted to be in the room with his girlfriend/wife. We had security walk her to her car.

Couldn't you have put the dress on, and then walked outside and had your boyfriend then zip it for you?

 

[stashbin]

Am I the only one who just does not want my husband anywhere near me when I'm clothes shopping, much less in the dressing room? First, he gets antsy and starts nagging me to hurry.

And sometimes I try on clothes that just are really unflattering or, worse, maybe don't even zip! I don't want him witnessing that!

ITA! My husband makes me miserable when I am shopping!

 

[wvjules]

I work retail, and we do insist that men stay out of the womens fitting rooms, and vica versa. I would think it obvious that if a fitting rooms is by womens dresses that it is a womens fitting room, just as a fitting room by mens pants is a mens dressing room.

We have had fights before when men go into the womens fitting rooms. One woman was actually threatened by a guy who wanted to be in the room with his girlfriend/wife. We had security walk her to her car.

Couldn't you have put the dress on, and then walked outside and had your boyfriend then zip it for you?

That's what we ended up doing. Instead of him being in there helping me I had to walk through the dressing room hallway< with my backside exposed< to the sales floor so he could zip me. It took us twice as long that way.

lspst8, we go shopping together a lot.

si-am, he tells me if it looks good or not and I trust his opinion (especially when I'm on the fence about a style.) Plus, its easier to have him go get me a different size or color than if I had to put my clothes back on and head back to the sales floor.

 

[jamimb]

I could care less if a woman is in the men's changing rooms. Heck, even if there were no doors I wouldn't care. If you want to look look.

 

[LuvOrlando]

Dressing rooms are where I try on all the stuff that reminds me I'm not 17 & a size 2 anymore. It's bad enough I have to go in there without being offered a shot first (I would like a Kamikazie please). The last thing I want to see when I waltz out in my, "Jeezey Creezey I didn't think it would look THAT bad outfit" is some dude's face to remind me I didn't wear the right bra.

What about bathing suit season where we are all supposed to try on suits with our underwear still on for hygienic reasons. Not how I want to be seen by some guy I don't know.... or even by guys I do no.... not even my DH.

Then there is my developing DD11. As her body changes we're forever trying to figure out what covers enough, and what doesn't. I would not appreciate some guy eyeballing up my kid like women do never-mind how horrified DD would be.

Uggh, I'd never go into a dressing room again and would probably boycott the store forever. It's normal to look around, but equally normal to NOT want to be looked at. Put me down for a no please.

 

[wvjules]

Dressing rooms are where I try on all the stuff that reminds me I'm not 17 & a size 2 anymore. It's bad enough I have to go in there without being offered a shot first (I would like a Kamikazie please). The last thing I want to see when I waltz out in my, "Jeezey Creezey I didn't think it would look THAT bad outfit" is some dude's face to remind me I didn't wear the right bra.

What about bathing suit season where we are all supposed to try on suits with our underwear still on for hygienic reasons. Not how I want to be seen by some guy I don't know.... or even by guys I do no.... not even my DH.

Then there is my developing DD11. As her body changes we're forever trying to figure out what covers enough, and what doesn't. I would not appreciate some guy eyeballing up my kid like women do never-mind how horrified DD would be.

Uggh, I'd never go into a dressing room again and would probably boycott the store forever. It's normal to look around, but equally normal to NOT want to be looked at. Put me down for a no please.

So now we go from DBF being in the dressing room with me to him eyeing your and your 11 year old daughter? Not all men are perverts. He didn't even see anyone else in the dressing room but me.

Now that I know how paranoid people can be I'll never go in a dressing room wiht him in a Department store again.

 

[VillageMama]

When I'm trying to figure out if something is acceptable or not, I often ask myself, "Would this have even been a question 50 years ago?".

I know things weren't perfect "back in the day" but I think that society, in general, had better manners back then. Folks were willing to inconvenience themselves a bit in order to keep others around them comfortable.

I suspect that 50 years ago a woman wouldn't dream of having her husband accompany her into a dressing room. I also suspect that a gentleman wouldn't dream of entering a dressing room.

Of course, back then a woman would go shopping for her frocks whilst wearing a pretty pair of gloves and a pair of pumps. Today we go to the mall in torn jeans and flip-flops.

Feel sorry for me... it's painful to be old-fashioned in today's "comfort first" society!

 

[LuvOrlando]

So now we go from DBF being in the dressing room with me to him eyeing your and your 11 year old daughter? Not all men are perverts. He didn't even see anyone else in the dressing room but me.

Now that I know how paranoid people can be I'll never go in a dressing room wiht him in a Department store again.

I don't think I said anything even remotely resembling your assertion I meant they were perverts. Where on earth did you get that?

Did you read my whole post or just string along the parts you wanted to see so you could pounce? In order for you to make that leap you would have to think I meant the women who eyeball are being pervy too? That would be a no.

 

[wvjules]

Dressing rooms are where I try on all the stuff that reminds me I'm not 17 & a size 2 anymore. It's bad enough I have to go in there without being offered a shot first (I would like a Kamikazie please). The last thing I want to see when I waltz out in my, "Jeezey Creezey I didn't think it would look THAT bad outfit" is some dude's face to remind me I didn't wear the right bra.

What about bathing suit season where we are all supposed to try on suits with our underwear still on for hygienic reasons. Not how I want to be seen by some guy I don't know.... or even by guys I do no.... not even my DH.

Then there is my developing DD11. As her body changes we're forever trying to figure out what covers enough, and what doesn't. I would not appreciate some guy eyeballing up my kid like women do never-mind how horrified DD would be.

Uggh, I'd never go into a dressing room again and would probably boycott the store forever. It's normal to look around, but equally normal to NOT want to be looked at. Put me down for a no please.

I don't think I said anything even remotely resembling your assertion I meant they were perverts. Where on earth did you get that?

See bolded.

 

[wvjules]

I don't think I said anything even remotely resembling your assertion I meant they were perverts. Where on earth did you get that?

Did you read my whole post or just string along the parts you wanted to see so you could pounce? In order for you to make that leap you would have to think I meant the women who eyeball are being pervy too? That would be a no.

I read your whole post and it is quite clear that you think men are perverts checking out your 11 DD. Actually, I dont see much room for any other interpretation.

 

[LuvOrlando]

Bold all you want, the fact is there are other words in the post. I wasn't using filler, the words are supposed to be there, and be read.

Since I absolutely do not think that, I can only conclude you are looking to see certain meaning where none is meant.

I do not think I am the one being paranoid.

 

[wvjules]

Bold all you want, the fact is there are other words in the post. I wasn't using filler, the words are supposed to be there, and be read.

Since I absolutely do not think that, I can only conclude you are looking to see certain meaning where none is meant.

I do not think I am the one being paranoid.

We have to agree to disagree.

It woudn't bother me in the least if there was a man in a dressing room with his significant other. I don't assume all men have evin intentions nor am I paranoid that they are looking at me.