If you're truly concerned about your son's safety, teaching him to loudly say "get away from me" is a far better life skill than escorting him into bathrooms.
Well I guess you and I will agree to disagree on that one. Since there are no laws or rules regarding this issue ( if there were, all these posts about it would be moot) I will continue to do what I think is best to ensure my children's safety and I hope OP does the same.
Mothers have been helping their young sons dress and use the restroom for eons and its really not nearly as big of a deal as you're making it. Basically, you're saying all pre-adolescent boys are perverts and just will look no matter what. Don't flatter yourself. I doubt they want to see middle aged, pudgy women going pee pee. :rolleyes
If you're truly concerned about your son's safety, teaching him to loudly say "get away from me" is a far better life skill than escorting him into bathrooms.
If you're truly concerned about your son's safety, teaching him to loudly say "get away from me" is a far better life skill than escorting him into bathrooms.
I don't think anyone's talking about embarrassment. It's not appropriate for a 3rd or 4th grade child to be in the restroom that is not labeled for their gender. Why should a female child be exposed to a 9 or 10 year old male in the womens' room, who could be peeping at her?
So what exactly is unsafe about the male restroom?
What if a woman who was the victim of a viscious post-Teacups nausea attack is in there washing her shirt in the sink and wearing only her bra? Are the both of you cool with that?
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So if your child's safety trumps the women in the restroom I assume you are aware of the statistics of child molestation and abduction from WDW restrooms.
Sorry but an irrational fear based purely on your feelings of safety don't trump the feelings of the women who are using the bathroom designated for them.
My son did know this. He did yell. He was with another family member who did nothing. I assure you, had I been there, I'd be in prison for murder. The man who touched my son got away with it and now my son is scared of any strange man and seeing them undo their pants. He trembles when DH takes him to the men's room. Yes, he's in therapy, yes, we've talked to him and in smaller venues, he's fine. But at a place as big as Disney? He'd rather be in the women's as he feels safer and so do I.
His safety and comfort trump strangers. He's my kid and its my job to make him feel safe.
My son did know this. He did yell. He was with another family member who did nothing. I assure you, had I been there, I'd be in prison for murder. The man who touched my son got away with it and now my son is scared of any strange man and seeing them undo their pants. He trembles when DH takes him to the men's room. Yes, he's in therapy, yes, we've talked to him and in smaller venues, he's fine. But at a place as big as Disney? He'd rather be in the women's as he feels safer and so do I.
His safety and comfort trump strangers. He's my kid and its my job to make him feel safe.
Well then this entire post is pointless as OP's son is only 9 and is allowed to accompany her to the restrooms. There. Argument over and information given. The conversation should be done now.
As for what I do with my own son (who is only 7) I don't trust HIM alone in a men's room. He loves to play in the water as he washes up (gets in trouble for it at school all the time) and my DH has caught him playing with the urinal cakes before. Ewww! So you see, I'm really concerned with his health, the comfort of the other men who will have to deal with MY son, and the feelings of the poor people that have to clean those restrooms. Oh and there are some nasty men out there and since my son was molested when he was four, I will continue to do what I feel is safe for him. He goes with me. Period.
Thank you both but it wasn't my intention to post our story for sympathy but rather understanding. People always assume things about others and inherently put their own selfish desires first. But stop to think that the little boy you see in the women's room may have been a victim of abuse and your whole perspective changes. My point is to stop assuming altogether. Stop assuming a mom is paranoid or a boy will peep or even that a man will molest. Do what you need to do for your own child's safety and comfort and stop judging others before you know their story.
These are just children. Yes, they're curious but I don't see why it's such a huge deal for them to be in a restroom. And before you point it out, yes I have daughters too and yes, my DH has had to take my daughter into a men's room before. The women's was closed for cleaning and poor girl was about to pee herself. He shielded her from the view of the urinals and led her to a stall and held the door shut for her while she finished up. It wasn't a huge deal and the other guy in there didn't even care. So why do women care? I just don't get it.
I'm confused. Are you taking him into the ladies room to keep him safe? Or to keep him out of trouble?
If he plays around, then I certainly hope that you take him into the stall with you in the ladies room. I wouldn't want to have to deal with him messing around at loose ends while you are in a stall doing your own business.
I saw a women washing out her shirt. I've also seen women drying their clothes under hand dryers. It happens.Seriously??? That's quite a stretch. I'm a woman, a mother, and a nurse, and even I don't want to see that! I've been in my share of women's bathrooms and I don't recall seeing ANY women walking around in their bras. Overreact much?
Well I guess you and I will agree to disagree on that one. Since there are no laws or rules regarding this issue ( if there were, all these posts about it would be moot) I will continue to do what I think is best to ensure my children's safety and I hope OP does the same.
Mothers have been helping their young sons dress and use the restroom for eons and its really not nearly as big of a deal as you're making it. Basically, you're saying all pre-adolescent boys are perverts and just will look no matter what. Don't flatter yourself. I doubt they want to see middle aged, pudgy women going pee pee. :rolleyes
Sorry, but I think your fear of a 9 year old boy in a public bathroom is irrational.
A woman (or girl of any age) expecting to be able to use the woman's room without a pre-pubescent male standing there is not irrational.
So you would rather throw around insults instead of answering my question. I'll ask again, what IS unsafe in the men's restroom?.