First heartbreak

[bumbershoot]

They bickered and sniped at each other all the time, and for some reason she hated me.....But she always expected DS to be angry with me too, over nothing....things that didn't even make sense. .... They are both really good kids, but we all thought they were better apart than together.

Wow, it's like my brother and his HS girlfriend! She was just so rude to my brother...she would sit in my mom's living room and play "odds or evens" where she would grab my brother's leg hair, ask "odds or evens", then yank out some leg hair and see if she got an odd or even number of hairs. He never said a word, though we could tell it hurt (he wasn't big on showing pain, still isn't, went to DCA with us last year with a not-yet-diagnosed hernia and hardly said a peep while turning paler and paler from the effort of walking). But she was a good student and a good friend to everyone else...she was just awful as a girlfriend to him.

 

[Buckalew11]

Don't ask me, I don't know what her problem is. My guess is that she wants to appease her guilt and wants him to say "Sure, let's be friends."

She probably wants him to still like her, maybe in grovel for her affection, and string him along. After 2 years, she's used to him liking her. If she's not getting a reaction from him, that's not fun (for her). So, she calls him or texts him to keep him close--after all, she may not want him anymore but probably doesn't want anyone else to want him either. Just my thoughts.

Wow, it's like my brother and his HS girlfriend! She was just so rude to my brother...she would sit in my mom's living room and play "odds or evens" where she would grab my brother's leg hair, ask "odds or evens", then yank out some leg hair and see if she got an odd or even number of hairs. He never said a word, though we could tell it hurt (he wasn't big on showing pain, still isn't, went to DCA with us last year with a not-yet-diagnosed hernia and hardly said a peep while turning paler and paler from the effort of walking). But she was a good student and a good friend to everyone else...she was just awful as a girlfriend to him.

This was one very odd GF your brother had. Glad they didn't end up married.

 

[Micca]

Don't ask me, I don't know what her problem is. My guess is that she wants to appease her guilt and wants him to say "Sure, let's be friends."

Sounds like torture to me. Gimme her number, I've got a messsage for her. (I'm kidding of course, but geez...)

 

[Elmo9607]

I agree...if she keeps sending texts but never replies, she just wants the attention and is stringing him along. I'm guilty of that...

And yes, breaking up through text is very, very low. So is breaking up through Facebook. Heck, when my first serious boyfriend dumped me, he did it right outside next to his truck after school in the high school parking lot! He jumped in his truck, drove away, and that was it! Of course, that was before FB, but hey, at least he had the guts to do it to my face

 

[MomNeedsVacay]

ohhhhhhhhh... she's a head-game player..... I know that well, because I used to be one....until a guy I was dating finally put me in my place... You know what he did? He said this to me, "If we break up, this is the last time you will see me and this is the last time we will talk....I don't want to break up, but if you do then that is the only way it'll work... We won't be "friends"...we won't have "chats". This is it. I don't play games, so make a choice...." and I did....
WE've been together for 11 years, married for 8 and have three children...

 

[Magic Mom]

I hope DS will get around to telling her that. She asked him to come over and talk (not get back together, just talk) I suggested he not do that because there is no good reason. Thank goodness one of his female friends told him the same thing so he changed his mind and went to meet her for dinner. Her bf just dumped her too so they can commiserate. I'm just glad he got out of the house.

 

[Imzadi]

Sorry you both are going through this.

Blaming you for "sending him away" is immature and unfair. He is an adult and can make his own decisions.

I agree and don't accept that guilt or allow him to beat up on you because he's hurt. Break ups happen, he'll get over it, no excuse to disrespect the person who's supported and raised him all these years.

I agree with the above. Don't simply ignore it. He's entering new, more complicated situations and interactions with people. How he treats you will be how he treats other people, and other women, as he gets older and has more difficult emotional situations. Disrespecting you and others, is not the way.

If there is one lesson I will instill in MY 15 year old son, it will be to NEVER EVER end a relationship via text message. That is so low...

I guess this generation feels that if Britney Spears can dump Kevin Federline by text, they can, too.