You can think they are overdone and lame. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, and what is overdone and lame to you can be very special and romantic to others. I think most people, upon seeing a choreographed first dance, would appreciate the work that went into it and would have a good time with it. You just may not be that kind of person.
We took dance lessons for six months and choreographed our first dance to "The Way You Look Tonight" by Frank Sinatra. We did the dance in the American Adventure rotunda while all of our guests looked down on us from the second floor. While I was initially skeptical about the lessons and choreographing the dance, I wouldn't change it for the world! Everyone had a great time, and to this day people compliment my wife and I on it. Plus, we found that taking the lessons and learning dance together was a fantastic time for us!