First breakups...will anyone listen?

[AmandaSparks730]

How does one get over heartbreak?

My first gf broke up with me when we were talking online last Thursday. Yes, online, Instant Message. Cold.

She says she still loves me, but she's just not ready for relationship with me. We we together for a week and 2 days, give or take.

I still really, really love her. It hurts that...it just really hurts. This was my first breakup, and it's been pretty bad for me. I've been moping around, crying every so often, and have been just plain missssserable!

She says "you'll get over me!" and "it's gonna take time" and things like that. I asked for help, but she said she can't help me, because "I'm part of the problem, and you know it."

I CAN'T get over her. We're still best friends (although on somewhat bumpy status currently) but...I miss her, like, everything about her.

Any help? Anyone?

 

[DearDaisyinDurham]

here to listen!! vent away!!!

xoxoxoxo

 

[OrlandoMike]

Oh Honey!

Let me fast forward your life for you, hmmm, how about 5 years.

You will have grown and matured, had a few loves in your life, and perhaps by now found the love of your life! You will look back at this and smile. Your first crush, your first love, your first heartbreak!

You will go through many more of these. Enjoy them! Enjoy the excitement of meeting someone new, falling in love, then for unseen reasons, parting ways. It's all part of growing up.

I know right now you are hurting, but don't ever pick a scab, it will never heal! Hold your head up high, be proud of who you are, and be ready to meet new and exiting friends in this adventure called life!

(Do I sound like a dad? Sigh.......)

But before you fall for all of that mushy stuff, here's a little secret....

Dont tell anyone......

Sometimes its fun to find a place all by yourself, call your x all kinds of dirty names, and have a good cry! For some odd reason It seems to help!

Keep your head up sweetie!

 

[AmandaSparks730]

Well, I still really, really love her. Can't stop thinking about her. When she signs online, my stomach drops, and I get all fluttery. She wants me to move on with my life, but I'm not ready to. I liked this guy for over a YEAR (I'm bi) and I'm still not totally over him!! How can I move on?!

 

[OrlandoMike]

Stop chatting with her on line if it makes you all googly!

Meet new friends! Find other things to do!

You may want to curb back your time with her, spend some time for YOU!

 

[DearDaisyinDurham]

When you peel the band aid off slower and slower it hurts more - make the fast quick RIP and deal with the pain right now to save yourself MONTHS of misery. We're here for you.
xoxoxoxoxo

 

[OrlandoMike]

You know Daisy your right!

And some Patsy while you rip that band aid off never hurts!

http://youtube.com/watch?v=axRodU_7430

 

[DearDaisyinDurham]

Mike you ARE a wizard

that is amazing, thanks and it's not even meant for me

(hope it helps Amanda)

 

[DearDaisyinDurham]

You know Daisy your right!

And some Patsy while you rip that band aid off never hurts!

http://youtube.com/watch?v=axRodU_7430

RIP that band aid off

the academy everything we had (is no longer there)

http://youtube.com/watch?v=7YqYA_rbh1Q

 

[DearDaisyinDurham]

Amanda? is this helping or making it worse? it might get worse before it gets better but it WILL WILL WILL get better!

one more - http://youtube.com/watch?v=jhyD9SXiHr4
xoxoxoxo

 

[meghiyer]

chill out sistah

you'll find another one u were born for..

xoxox

megh

 

[AmandaSparks730]

I'm here, I'm here! I'm only in HS, so I went to bed early last nite! (Hey, I get up at 5:30, so...)

But I am back now!

Thanks for all the support, all of you guys!

OrlandoMike-You're not sounding too much like a dad, don't worry!

Megh-Thanks!

Daisy-THANKS A MILLION!!

It's really good and makes me feel better, talking to you guys. I'll RIIIIP that band-aid off!

 

[DVC~OKW~96]

If there is one genre of music that I loathe, hate and despise, it's country music. I am so sorry to all the fans out there.

However, Patsy Cline is one incredible voice! Even I can relate to her music and that is saying quite a bit!

So, dear Amanda. It's life, girl. You are going to be hurt. You are going to think you love (or will at least be attracted to) people who are not in love with you, or who don't share the same attraction. Sometimes it will hurt, sometimes it will be a relief! LOL.

With time and experience you will begin to understand the feelings you experience. Those emotions and feelings won't be so new, and won't feel so "forever after." You may have to just trust me on that one!

Get on with your life, and find other good things to do with your time!

 

[Lil Connor]

Amanda, I wish you well. I'm a little confussed. Did you break up with a Girl or a Guy? One post you said

"My first gf broke up with me when we were talking online last Thursday. Yes, online, Instant Message. Cold."

Next post you said "I liked this guy for over a YEAR (I'm bi) and I'm still not totally over him!! "

Either way be stong, This too will pass!

 

[AmandaSparks730]

Amanda, I wish you well. I'm a little confussed. Did you break up with a Girl or a Guy? One post you said

"My first gf broke up with me when we were talking online last Thursday. Yes, online, Instant Message. Cold."

Next post you said "I liked this guy for over a YEAR (I'm bi) and I'm still not totally over him!! "

Either way be stong, This too will pass!

Broke up with a girl. The guy thing was about my guy friend who I've had a crush on (although it fluctuates) for over a year.

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

What is the line from "16 Candles"? Something about the reason they call them "crushes" is because they hurt? Chances are the next person you fall for will be just as intense an experience as this one, because it's like that when you are young!

I dated a boy (I'm straight, but I like it here ) for about 3 months the year I graduated from high school. I LOVED him. I mean LOVED him. When he broke up with me I was absolutely obliterated. He wasn't ready to be in a committed relationship. He wanted to date other people, go to college, no pressure. He was a fabulous, intelligent, gorgeous guy. It killed me not to have him around. Nobody I dated made me stop thinking of him. My parents moved to another state and I went with them because I couldn't stand to be so close to this guy and not be dating him. He didn't miss me. He didn't call me and ask me to move back. About a year later he got some girl pregnant and married her. By then I was pretty much moving on with my own life, but I found it ironic that he dumped me because I was too serious then he ended up saddled with a wife AND a kid so soon afterward.

Fast forward almost 20 years. I still have dreams about that guy. I have been happily married for 15 years but for whatever reason I still can't quite get over this one. I NEVER dream about any of the other guys I dated before I met DH. Very bizarre.

My point is, sometimes you get over them and sometimes you don't. But you can't let it cripple you. The world will look very different after you graduate. Just hang in there!

 

[DearDaisyinDurham]

Daisy-THANKS A MILLION!!

You're so welcome! Any time. I had fun on Youtube after Mike got me started.


xoxoxoxooxoxo

 

[OrlandoMike]

However, Patsy Cline is one incredible voice! Even I can relate to her music and that is saying quite a bit!

Everyone should have a copy of Patsy Cline's Greatest Hits! Can get you through some mighty rough times!




http://youtube.com/watch?v=b35SkJdDGV4&feature=related

 

[AmandaSparks730]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kUtFEKhtB30

Carrie Underwood!! I've been listening to her almost non-stop since Saturday!! This one is So Small. Looooove her voice!


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TAJSqLljGFU

Carrie Underwood, Just A Dream.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2kY8jQ26nsQ

Carrie, Starts With Goodbye

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V4aiH0AiXBE

Evanescence, Lithium. SUCH A GOOD SONG!! I LOVE AMY LEE'S VOICE!! (Vid is a bit strange, though, but good!)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=64iQNn88d_I

Avril Lavigne, Nobody's Home. This is live acoustic, and Avril's voice is just amazingly beautiful!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B-ET7GWOEdo

Ha! Just HAD to stick that in there. RENT!! MY #2 FAVORITE MUSICAL IN THE WORLD!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2vlLT6CxKP4

Just a last video for now, because I gotta go. But, this is You'll Be In My Heart, but it's the Teddy Geiger version. IMO, it's soooooooooo good!!

 

[DearDaisyinDurham]

Evanescence and Amy Lee rock. I bought the Punisher sound track just for the song she does with her boyfriend. I love you never call me when you're sober. Words to live by (don't ever call someone drunk that you wouldn't call sober, not that you would drink Amanda you're too young).

Hope your day is a good one!
xoxoxoxo