The only parade we got a chance to see was Share a Dream at MK. It was nice, but seemed rather short for the amount of time we spent waiting for it. Next time I would choose either SpectroMagic or the Jammin' Jungle parade at AK if you want a "daytime" parade. I haven't seen them though, so don't know if they are better choices or not.
As far as fireworks, that's tough because everyone has a different opinion. My 9 year old son liked Illuminations best, my 10 year old son preferred Fantasmic...but I would choose Wishes hands down! The music, the fireworks, the castle...it just seemed so "perfect" to me, lol.