Feeling left out (a whiny little vent)

[kirbsam]

I ignore people on my cell phone all the time. It's not because I don't "want" to talk to the person. It's that it's not a convenient time. Try not to let it discourage you. I think you need to broaden your circle of friends beyond this other girl too, though.

and i ignore people on my cell phone pretty much because i dont want to talk to them.

 

[Magic Mom]

Shes a coworker. I dont know what to think. I guess I think the worst since Im upset with her.

Which girl did you call? The girls that are dressing like twins, or the new girl?

 

[funkychunkymonkey]

Which girl did you call? The girls that are dressing like twins, or the new girl?

One of the "twins". I wanted to let her know I made other plans to attend, Like she really cared. Jessie (the new girl) was overjoyed that I was willing to go with her and her hubby,and laura (another coworker). The 4 of us are planning on carpooling and doing dinner first. I think this may be the start of somthing great. Im actully excited to go to the play now. Now I just have to stuff my "going out" purse LOL.

 

[Oh Hia]

One of the "twins". I wanted to let her know I made other plans to attend, Like she really cared. Jessie (the new girl) was overjoyed that I was willing to go with her and her hubby,and laura (another coworker). The 4 of us are planning on carpooling and doing dinner first. I think this may be the start of somthing great. Im actully excited to go to the play now. Now I just have to stuff my "going out" purse LOL.

Well get busy then, what are you waiting for? LOL!

Seriously though, it sounds like you have a great night planned and I hope it's the start of a wonderful, long lasting friendship for you! Have fun!!

 

[FireDancer]

Coordinating outfits, really?!?

From reading the OP I could only assume you work with junior high girls or people who rode the short bus with flavored windows to school. They sound immature and passive aggressive. Based on the description here I'm pretty sure they would last about 5 minutes with any of my groups of friends before they became the objects of ridicule and butts of jokes.

I think Im gonna try and hang out with Jessie more, she and I dont have alot in common but she's nice to me and funny.

I have a lot in common with some of my friends and less with others. I have tried a lot of new things because I had friends that were into them. Don't write Jessie off just because you don't have a lot in common. Either of you might find some of the things the other is into fun.

 

[Magic Mom]

One of the "twins". I wanted to let her know I made other plans to attend, Like she really cared. Jessie (the new girl) was overjoyed that I was willing to go with her and her hubby,and laura (another coworker). The 4 of us are planning on carpooling and doing dinner first. I think this may be the start of somthing great. Im actully excited to go to the play now. Now I just have to stuff my "going out" purse LOL.

I'm happy for you that you found someone to go with. But please take the advice from here and make it a project to go out find some new activities. Your local community college, community rec center or YMCA probably offer adult ED classes like photography, art classes, decorating, etc. Look into volunteering somewhere like your local animal shelter (I know how much you love your animals). When you get out and start doing things you enjoy, you will be able to find a wider group of friends. Then you won't have to depend on one or two people for all your support and social needs.

 

[pilotwife_02]

I'm sorry you're feeling that way.

I've been there before myself. A group of ladies (all of us grown woman I might add) were pretty good friends and for some reason one girl "Allison" was jealous that I was becoming pretty good friends with this other girl "Mary". Allison truly believed that Mary was "HER friend" and started acting similar to the way your friends are acting. Going out of her way to show everyone how they were best friends, planning to dress the same when we would go out as a group, buying her and Mary matching shirts, telling everyone "oh, we're going to do this and going here together for a girls' night, but just the two of us, no one else is invited". It was like some sort of weird love triangle with this girl that Allison had created. At first I wondered why Allison and Mary were always together and no one else really was close to Mary....until I started getting close to Mary and Allison started the "back off" routine with me.

Anyway, some people get possessive of their friends and it sounds like this is what's happening. Which is weird, I don't understand why people can't understand that others can be friends with more than one person or why someone feels threatened by others friendships

Glad you were able to find others to go with! Have fun!!!