feeling guilty

[mbtileguy]

i am a divoced 45 yr old man who likes disney i take my dd14 on vacation every year , 5 years to disney the past 2 yrs she dont wont to go any where?
ok i want to go to disney ...should i go alone ? should i feel guilty? and will i feel lonley ? ........help

 

[I'mNoPrince]

Nope and as much as I love having my family with me they cramp my plans to the hilt and I can't wait for the day they just tell me to go alone.

now I have done many Solo trips to both WDW and DL for business and playing Sports at WWoS but a true vacation is what I have in my sights.

So go, Enjoy and go back again.

 

[lyndrajo3]

I am going with a pal we are both leaving the hubbys and kids at home. We are treating ourselves to a graduation treat by going and staying CL. I have lots planned for us to do- things I would not have been able to do if our families went with us.

When are you going? Will you be there June 1-5th? We will. We could meet up with ya if you get too lonely and want company. We are planning on being a bit on the childish side though I must warn you.


I felt guilty for like one second than I became and am still nothing but excited about going. I am the type that needs the company of at least one person when gone to a place such as WDW. That said I would be a bit lonely but would not miss the kiddos that badly.

I have a 14 yo dd and I plan to take her and one gal pal on her 16th bday. I plan to let them run the parks as long as I see they have their charged cell phone handy so they can call and check in occasionally. I also plan to take a friend of my own to run with. That way we both (all) have fun!

 

[Bill Brown]

Going solo is to enjoy the freedom of going where and when you want without needing to negotiate and compromise on your preferences. Going with family or friends is fun, but I find going solo is even more fun.

 

[nurse.darcy]

My son goes with me once a year, the rest of my trips are "solo" though not really solo as I am usually meeting someone here on these boards when I go. I have had a blast on my not so "solo" trips. Lots of fun. Just make your plans when others are going. You will truly enjoy it.

 

[CastleCreations]

I wouldn't feel guilty at all. It's her decision. My girls, as they get older, tend to not want to do more and more things. I'm waiting for the day that Disney is one of them. I don't think I will ever not get the butterflies in my stomach as I walk up main street towards the castle. If your daughter, doesn't feel the magic...then it's her loss I guess.
By the way... you are from my home town. I was born there but grew up in Freehold. Lisa

 

[Tweevil]

Hi neighbor... I am south from you.
I have to say that I am divorced and have a 10 year old boy and I have even thought about going by myself. There isn't anything to be guilty of. Girl teenage years are tough and her not going has nothing to do with you, perhaps there is someone she likes, is there something at school that she doesn't want to miss, or is it she has a group of friends that she can't bear to be apart from now? Some of this can factor in and it could be just a case of she doesn't know if it is cool or not. She will come around and go with you again, in the interim just go and have a great time. Bring her back presents and call her from there to tell her you wished she was with you.

I hope you go and have fun, I am planning on a Oct 2009 trip with some family members but you better believe that sometime soon I will get my butt on a plane flying out of AC for a solo trip where I can be the kid in Disney. It's good for the heart you know.....

 

[disneylove69]

I just booked a solo DCL and WDW. My mom called and found I was going alone and said she would go. Felt bad for a second but I really want to go alone. Looking forward to just relaxing and taking things as they come for once on a vacation.

 

[DFD]

...should i go alone ?

should i feel guilty? and

will i feel lonley ? ........help

alone??? really depends on how you feel when you are "alone" and then you see other groups or family enjoying the park.. in my case it doesnt affect a me being solo and seeing a crowd I even feel more joy since a family is enjoying my happy place...

guilty... Your DD must be in that stage where "all Disney is for babies" give it time... she will eventually come back to loving it.. right now she is trekking the path of teen age years... maybe plan a trip for you and then plan a weekend with her on something she likes... communicate...

lonely .. this brings back to my 1st answer... and also just like what other posters have mentioned... try to connect on Disers or my friends who are going share a lunch... a drink... etc..

goodluck with your future planning... but if you have Disney in your heart a trip solo or not will never be waste...

 

[Talock]

i am a divoced 45 yr old man who likes disney i take my dd14 on vacation every year , 5 years to disney the past 2 yrs she dont wont to go any where?
ok i want to go to disney ...should i go alone ? should i feel guilty? and will i feel lonley ? ........help

I would think there would be a lot of people more that happy to go with you, specially if you’re picking up the bill. I'm my case I would invite some of my less fortunate nephews, but that's just my choice. Nothing to feel guilty about. Enjoy life doing what makes you happy.

 

[eeyoregon]

I am planning on a Oct 2009 trip with some family members but you better believe that sometime soon I will get my butt on a plane flying out of AC for a solo trip where I can be the kid in Disney. It's good for the heart you know.....

Looks like we are there the same time!

Where are you staying?

Gina

 

[ToddyLu]

Hi neighbor... I am south from you.
I have to say that I am divorced and have a 10 year old boy and I have even thought about going by myself. There isn't anything to be guilty of. Girl teenage years are tough and her not going has nothing to do with you, perhaps there is someone she likes, is there something at school that she doesn't want to miss, or is it she has a group of friends that she can't bear to be apart from now? Some of this can factor in and it could be just a case of she doesn't know if it is cool or not. She will come around and go with you again, in the interim just go and have a great time. Bring her back presents and call her from there to tell her you wished she was with you.

I hope you go and have fun, I am planning on a Oct 2009 trip with some family members but you better believe that sometime soon I will get my butt on a plane flying out of AC for a solo trip where I can be the kid in Disney. It's good for the heart you know.....

I agree about the teenage years and hormones. She as at the age where you can't be away from home or "you will miss something". Trust me I was like that 26 years ago......hehehe

 

[cajunbaby1]

You guys have helped me make up my mind about doing a solo trip. I'm al so divorced and my kids live with their dad for schooling purposes; so we see each other several times a year and also holidays. Everyone is busy with summer jobs and camps. so I've decided to go at the end of the summer and to hell with whoever doesn't like it .
Now can do all those things the kids always think are okey and silly (i.e. shop til i drop or burn a hole in my c. card )
Oh yea...drink as much alcohol as i want without worrying about what the kids think.

 

[Shannon84]

My father used to take me every year from the time I was 7 until I was 13...then we started going on vacation to other places and I really did have such a great time..so we took a few years off and then I started loving Disney as an adult the last few years!! But during that time when I was 14 to maybe 18, I just couldn't leave my core group of friends and I thought I was going to miss something great at school and didnt make much time for family during then...

So I say its perfectly normal for her to be in that mood and you should have a great time on a solo trip

I will be down in October with my mother and step father, and will be doing plenty of solo time myself...hope you have a great time!!!

 

[DFD]

Looks like we are there the same time!

Where are you staying?

Gina

Hi Gina I was looking at my ticker and yours and we are missing each other by a day... where are you staying???

 

[iluveeyore]

I have went twice without my family, and they all understood about me getting some 'me' time, especially when they saw how happy I was to book my trips alone. They've been so many times, it didn't really matter to them. I had an amazing time when I went this past January for seven whole glorious nights - went where I wanted, saw what I wanted, rode what I wanted, ate what and when I wanted (get the picture??).
No guilt involved, just good-for-the-soul time to yourself at the Happiest Place on Earth - everyone should try it at least once! (I'd like to do it every year!). Go, enjoy - you'll have no regrets and guarantee you'll plan another one when you get back!

 

[palmtreelover08]

and I have two suggestions..
#1. Offer for her to bring a friend. There comes a time when Mom's and Dad's are lame, no matter how cool we think we are. If she can bring a friend, she'll have a great time, you won't be alone for the trip, but may actually be able to get some down time..and you both will experience the trip in a whole new way.

#2. Try and meet up with someone from the Dis Boards going at the same time. While I agree that going by yourself gives you the freedom to do what you want when you want, I just can't imagine not having a familiar face to scream with on RNR ..or Splash Mountain. To me, the company makes the trip.

 

[DFD]

i am a divoced 45 yr old man who likes disney i take my dd14 on vacation every year , 5 years to disney the past 2 yrs she dont wont to go any where?
ok i want to go to disney ...should i go alone ? should i feel guilty? and will i feel lonley ? ........help

have you decided what to do ???

 

[akLinus]

Hi,

I am planning trip with my kids, but it may so happen that kids may not be able to join. If that happens, I have to decide whether to let go of the vacation or go solo. I have never been to Florida. Reading through this thread has made me consider visit even if I go alone. Maybe I can make friends and have some company !

 

[DFD]

Hi,

I am planning trip with my kids, but it may so happen that kids may not be able to join. If that happens, I have to decide whether to let go of the vacation or go solo. I have never been to Florida. Reading through this thread has made me consider visit even if I go alone. Maybe I can make friends and have some company !

do it do it do it