Feeling Depressed

[janette]

{{{HUGS}}} Becka, I hope you are feeling better really soon. It can be hard enough to juggle everything and I can't imagine trying to do it with your back out. My DH has had problems in the past and spent several days flat on the floor and only able to move with help. Not a good thing, it does have it's advantages for him though - I never ask him to move anything heavy

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Originally posted by becka
She offered to come up if she could but she has appointments with some specialists to look at her knee and because of the knee pain she could not realistically drive 8 hours here and back. She has been having some major problems with it for a few months and they think she has a problem where the cartilidge is pretty much worn away.

I know this is WAAAY off topic to say the least but I just had to share this with you. My own mom has started taking glucosamine and it has WORKED for her knee pain! She (65) is an LPN full time in an Alzheimers wing and to her amazement her knee pain is almost gone. Her doc suggested it to her. Anyway just had to share this info.
Sorry about your troubles. Here is a truckload of PD ::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::!!!!!

 

[jamsmom]

Becka, I am sending you a very gentle {{{HUG}}}

 

[Bunchkin]

becka,
I'm so sorry to hear your having such a terrible and stressful week.
As a mom of a soon to be 1 year old, next month, and a 5 1/2 year old I know how stressful day to day life can be and how being sick or injured just doesn't help matters. I hope you're feeling well soon.

I, personally, don't think you're whining. You're stating how you feel, venting a little steam, looking for some support, all things we hope that we can share amongst one another as friends.
And then the crabby people jump on board.

I was reading a post yesterday where you got stomped on by another crabby person. I was so upset by their comments I chose not to reply for fear of saying things that aren't allowed on the DIS.

Between that post and the comments made on this one, it proves that you are a very stong person. The kind of person we need more of on the DIS.

Please don't let these cold and spiteful people get you down. For we can be happy in knowing that if they treat their family and friends around them in the same manner they treat people here, then they are living cold, empty, lonely lives. How aweful it must be to be them.

 

[Mskanga]

Ouch Becka, I feel for you!
I had to take care of a 1.5 yr old with a dislocated arm for six weeks , during the day when dh was working , not easy because I couldn't pick her up, I couldn't drive, I couldn't do much at home, one arm was completely inmobilized due to cartilage ( sp? ) damage. DH took over both kids and the house as soon as he got home.
Please ignore some people , yes we all know there's always someone worse than us , but that doesn't help us feel better. Please whine all you want, you are entittled to it.
Hope you feel better soon my friend. {{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}

 

[DopeyRN]

OK....here is my .02.

If you are feeling down, depressed, overwhelmed, *itchy, angry...WHATEVER...you have the right to those feelings. If they are your feelings, they are real. If they are real, they matter. We have ALL been there. And anyone who says they have never had a pity party simply because someone somewhere in this world has a bigger problem, then shame on them, because they are liars. Do others have worse problems than you? Sure. Does that change your situation? Nope. I makes me so angry when people have to do this to others. What is accomplished by pissing on another person??

That being said, you are one of the sweetest people on this board, and you deserve {{{Hugs}}}. I hope you feel better soon.

 

[catsrule]

Hope you have a wonderful weekend, Becka.

 

[Dizzy-Disney4]

Becka, hope you're feeling better this morning. Remember to take it easy with your back. {{{HUGS}}} again for you.

PS,
Just wanted to add that DH also takes Glucosamine. He had knee surgery about 4 years ago and over the last year has been in pain most days. The surgeon that did his sleep apnea surgery suggested the Glucosamine and its been working great.

 

[WDWLVR]

Becka, Hope you are feeling better soon. I had back pain a couple of years ago and understand how hard it is to deal with everyday life when you back is giving you pain. I don't have any kids so I just had to deal with me and DH and that was hard enough.

Hope life at your place gets back to normal soon!

 

[snoopy]

Blech, I do so remember the feeling of trying to juggle a full time job, my husband's full time job, being sick, and one of my babies being sick. Its a lot to deal with, and you are NOT alone in feeling sad or frustrated about it, Becca!

Hope you get to feeling better, and that baby Nathan's fever goes away today!

 

[dtuleya]

Becka, I empathize with you girl! I worked for an absolute horrid woman (owned the business and a psychologist to boot) who resented all the woman who worked for her and put their families first. Long story short she gave me a promotion and a $2/hr raise with a glowing review. Two weeks later, DS got chicken pox. DH, the major breadwinner, had just started a job and couldn't take off, my mom worked at the time, MIL was in Florida and I didn't have anyone else to take him for the week. When I came back in the following Monday she fired me for not being "dedicated" to my job. Took boss to unemployment for unlawful termination and won.

I know the feeling of having a sick child with nobody to help you out. I had already used all my vacation/sick days because he had constant illnesses from being in daycare. I'm telling you this because I understand why you are worrying about missing work.

It might be worth it to "network" and find someone who could watch your son on those emergency days. Maybe a coworker or a friend knows an active, retired person who would be willing to be a on-call Grandma for your son. Even contact the area agency on aging and maybe they could help you out. Teenagers and college students are great, but it's nice to have someone who is available during the work day to help you out. That way you could still go to work when DS is mildly ill. This idea might not work for you, but thought I'd suggest it.

Ignore all those who need to downplay other's situations.

Having said that......

Backing up the industrial-sized dump truck of extra strength pixie dust for you. Hope you start feeling better soon!

 

[montessori]

I hope things are starting to improve, Becka!

Originally posted by Miss Behaved
"Could be worse, you could be a broke blind paraplegic with a chronic nose bleeding problem.

SMILE" ______________________________________



"Tis better to be silent and be thought a fool, than to speak and remove all doubt."
Abraham Lincoln (1809 - 1865)

 

[Pin Wizard]

((((((((((((((((((((Becka)))))))))))))))))))

I hope your back pain is easing up for you. Even when it does feel better, be careful not to lift baby more than necessary so you don't hurt your back more. And I hear you on the sick kids issue. I'm a single parent with no support nearby. When DS is sick, I have no choice but to take the day off. And my employer does not allow us to use our sick time for our kids. Either I took the day without pay, or I'd have to use vacation time if my boss just happened to be in a generous mood on that day. I always took that time without pay since I didn't want to go the argument route with the boss. They do like sufficient notice for vacation time! And a sick child doesn't give them that. Feel better soon!

 

[BibbidiBobbidiBOO]

The Dr. gave me Flexeril for back spasms and ONE tablet did the trick . I am a SAHM and could not afford to be out and down even one days(us mom's can't get sick!)
Is taking some days off without pay even an option? I am thankful DH has a great sick leave/vacation plan. He has only been in this job about 4 years and has about 4-5 months of sick leave and vacation time accrued. I hope he never needs it all and can cash it in. Sounds like your employer is not as generous.
I don't know how you do it.
Hope things are looking up today .

 

[Pam]

Becka,
Anytime and I do mean anytime you need to vent or blow off some steam - you PM me! I hope your back feels better soon, I hope Nathan gets those teeth in, and I hope you and DH don't get any more late night phone calls!

Big {{HUGS}} to you!

I am just amazed at how obviously illiterate, dysfunctional and just wacky I must be - because there are soooooo many people here who have it all together and must lead perfect lives.

 

[pajamommy]

Hope you're feeling better today, Becka! Hang in there!!

 

[nativetxn]

How is your back, today, Becka? Hoping you are pain free and that Nathan has no more fever.

 

[TennesseeTink]

Big hugs and pixie dust for you Becka! I know how hard it is when Mom is laid up! It's so hard because everyone looks to you to take care of them and that is where your heart is too! But maybe you need a little taking care of right now. Try to get some rest, cuddle up with your beautiful son and try to focus on all the blessings in your life. I could count several in your post - a loving, hard-working husband and radiant son, a close family that you want to visit often and jobs that provide for your family and an anticipated trip the funnnest place I know - DW!!

I'll be praying for you, Becka, and hope that you are up and around soon!

 

[Evil Princess]

Becka, I just wanted to let you know that I'm sorry that things aren't well for you When you're always in pain it affects many otherwise easy things in your life, and it can be hard to get around. Lots of P*I*X*I*E**D*U*S*T* your way. I hope things get better soon.

Lots of times when something is really bothering you and affecting you, every little thing that makes you unhappy gets magnified 10 million times over (not that your problems are little). I don't think that Becka was being whiny, or *itchy, I think she is having a rough time and has a right to complain and look for some encouragement.

One of the things I always liked about the Community boards was the way that people comforted one another and listened to each others problems. Sure, sometimes we do coat things in pixie dust, but where else in the world CAN you do that nowadays??? (besides Disney).

It's called the COMMUNITY board for a reason.

 

[gemmie214]

Becka, I totally understand what you are saying. Back problems are so difficult to deal with Hope you and nathan arefeeling better today