Feeling blue while planning

[mooshka1]

Hi.. I'm in the middle of planning our next trip and I should be excited. All I can think of is how much I envy those who can go with their significant other as a family. My husband decided not too long ago that alcohol was more important than his family. It's been DD and myself since. It's a blessing to be able to go at all but.. Just missing the good ole days I guess...

 

[WDW in Pearls]

I'm so sorry to hear this. Before I was born, my mothers first husband left my mom and sister behind for a similar reason.

It was tough at the time, but years later my mother remarried and had two more daughters (me being one of them). My oldest sister is my sister, not my stepsister, and we all get along great.

The moral of the story is that despite how tough times were when it was just them, they look back at their trips and time together fondly. I hear them talk a lot about their trip out to California to see Disneyland (we're from NY so that's quite a trip!). As tough as it is now, try your best to focus on making great memories with your daughter. That's what will matter most years from now! I'm sure she appreciates you making the time for her and planning a special trip just for the two of you.

 

[Disneylover99]

I'm sorry to hear about your problems. I know what alcohol can do to a family.
Try not to dwell on the past, it will only bring you down.

Think of this trip planning as a new chapter in your life. Move forward and create new, wonderful memories with your daughter.

I wish you good luck and happy thoughts!

 

[pryncess527]

Hi.. I'm in the middle of planning our next trip and I should be excited. All I can think of is how much I envy those who can go with their significant other as a family. My husband decided not too long ago that alcohol was more important than his family. It's been DD and myself since. It's a blessing to be able to go at all but.. Just missing the good ole days I guess...

I'm sorry, I'm sure that is very difficult for you.

If it helps, at all, I was raised by a single mom. My dad passed away when I was 12 and my sister was 8. It's not the same as what you are going through, of course, but I've heard losing a loved one to alcoholism is very much like going through a death in the family, and I'm sure you are grieving.

I just wanted to say that my experience contributed to the wonderful relationship I have with my mother now. Her strength, along with her ability to sometimes share with me her pain as I got old enough to understand, helped me to understand her more as a person and became the foundation for a great friendship now that I am adult. It must have taken a great deal of strength for you to reach this point and I bet you are setting a wonderful example for her. I think it's great you are planning a trip with your daughter - it will be a wonderful healing experience for you both.

I hope you have an amazing time filled with pixie dust.

 

[mooshka1]

Thanks everyone for all the support. It really helped me to hear your replies and to hear your stories as well. You are all very strong. Thank you so much! I will definitely focus on making this trip magical. Thanks again. Your experienced were very inspiring and helpful.

 

[WDW in Pearls]

Thanks everyone for all the support. It really helped me to hear your replies and to hear your stories as well. You are all very strong. Thank you so much! I will definitely focus on making this trip magical. Thanks again. Your experienced were very inspiring and helpful.

Whether DD tells you or not (not sure how talkative she is or how willing she is to talk about feelings) I can tell you for sure that she is so grateful to you for this trip. I commend you for taking time to plan such a special trip for your DD in spite of the hand life has dealt you recently. You may be a single parent right now, but it sounds like you're all she needs!

 

[mommasita]

I hope you are able to find some magic in planning, and while on the trip.

I also know how alcohol can destroy a family, and on a brighter side, how it doesn't have to... to you