father in law threw a kink in our plans

[GinnyEmma]

He doesn't owe you an explanation.

What does your SIL owing you money have to do with anything?

Yes, a ride to the airport in CHICAGO, dealing with horrendous traffic IS a big deal.

Since you're on FD and upgraded, switch back to the free QSDP...that upgrade is costing $13 per adult per day. There is your parking money right there.

Are you including the cost of tips in that?

 

[SaraJayne]

Gotta say, thanks to those who offered support. To those who were negative ninnies.. take a midol or chill pill, seriously, wth?!

I was frustrated. Had he backed out WHEN I booked it, I would of put the money aside THEN.

As for those telling me to stay home over $100. Seriously?! Were not talking the cost of a dis-cation.

Its FRUSTRATING to say the least when you plan one way, and it goes the opposite.

FIL "cant" do it cause the BIL wants him to come babysit that morning cause he plans to go to a cubs game and wants to go to his buddies around 10. So were getting shifted when we were offered the help first.

I'm quite "chill", thanks. I'm looking forward to our upcoming Disney vacation, knowing that I have the money I need should an emergency arise or my daughter asks for that extra souvenir.

It's called planning and saving, including a nice cushion.

Taking a vacation when you have no back up plan or emergency money is irresponsible, regardless of what the disboards try to tell you.

 

[SaraJayne]

Are you including the cost of tips in that?

No, tips are above and beyond the $13 a day per adult.

 

[GinnyEmma]

No, tips are above and beyond the $13 a day per adult.

At $20 a meal for tips that adds up really fast, also.

 

[calypso*a*go-go]

Good grief...OP is upset that FIL said he would drive them, then backed out in order to help another sibling. I'd be upset as well, and believe it's justifyable if he's living in a home I own rent-free.

I still don't know why everyone on here feels the need to disect every aspect of OP's life (next time keep those details to yourself as it's no one's business but your own).

I believe it was a vent more than anything else, and feel OP will find a way to the airport as there's too much at stake not to...

 

[GinnyEmma]

Ok. So, you choose to post for your reasons, others do the same. The op wanted attention and got it.

 

[NMAmy]

I guess I'm not getting why driving to the airport is such a big deal for people. Is it just the money? (this is the budget board, so I guess that's it!)

I don't get it either. Some folks seem to equate a ride to the airport with love.

We live 1.5 hours from the airport. There's a shuttle that goes from our town to the airport. We park here for $2 per day and pay for the shuttle. Everyone in my family just automatically takes the shuttle--my mom, dd, DH and I. I drop my mom and pick her up because she goes away for months at a time.

Reading some of these replies has made it clear to me why DH's niece was a bit offended that I'd arranged for the shuttle to bring her to our town from the airport. It's no big deal in our family but apparently, to some people, it means that you don't love a family member.

 

[Lewisc]

I still don't know why everyone on here feels the need to disect every aspect of OP's life (next time keep those details to yourself as it's no one's business but your own).

I believe it was a vent more than anything else, and feel OP will find a way to the airport as there's too much at stake not to...

JMO

Posters who share aspects of their life, to strangers on an internet discussion board, shouldn't be surprised when said posters dissect the OPs life.

People just looking to vent would be better served leaving the details out and just venting.

Many of us would never even think of asking someone to spend 2 hours, before the crack of dawn, drive us to an airport.

Others expect family members and friends would do this and do likewise when asked.

Looks like most posters in this thread are in the group that wouldn't impose.

 

[allison443]

I just thought of this...since SIL owes you $300 could she possibly drive you in "payment" for part of her debt? Unless she might be able to pay you back before your trip, then you could use that money.

 

[calypso*a*go-go]

JMO

Posters who share aspects of their life, to strangers on an internet discussion board, shouldn't be surprised when said posters dissect the OPs life.

People just looking to vent would be better served leaving the details out and just venting.

Many of us would never even think of asking someone to spend 2 hours, before the crack of dawn, drive us to an airport.

Others expect family members and friends would do this and do likewise when asked.

Looks like most posters in this thread are in the group that wouldn't impose.

I agree completely, but the problem is that the FIL should have said "no" from the beginning instead of allowing OP to continue making plans based on his participation. To me, that's the whole point of this...

 

[shortbun]

I just thought of this...since SIL owes you $300 could she possibly drive you in "payment" for part of her debt? Unless she might be able to pay you back before your trip, then you could use that money.

Yeah, give this woman 5 weeks notice that you need your money or she can get a $50 forgiveness for driving you to and from the airport. Sounds like everyone owes you yet you get no respect. What's up with that? OR - I would have my husband tell his brother to get another babysitter and tell his dad he's driving you to and from the airport.

 

[calypso*a*go-go]

Ok. So, you choose to post for your reasons, others do the same. The op wanted attention and got it.

Very true, on all counts.

(I guess I was just surprised that this thread was still going strong.)

 

[Octoberbabiesrus]

I don't see what the SIL owing you $300 has to do with a ride, parking, or souvenirs. Collect it. Demand it. Set a payback schedule so you HAVE the/some money before your trip!


Mind if I ask - are you footing the bill for taxes and insurance on the coach house, or is it you and your husband? If the latter, you and he need to have some serious talks (NOT arguments) about his parents' living arrangements. He may feel very differently from you about the entire situation.

It does since she lives with the FIL and MIL. I've been asking for a year. Excuses. Excuses. Thats a whole nother thread....

We are solely footing the bill. I put my money towards it when I can... the RARE job I take (wedding photography) I havent done much in the last 2 years due to bedrest and newborn

 

[Octoberbabiesrus]

Have you budgeted waters, Tips, snacks etc? Or does the Free Dining pay for this? (I never looked into the free ding-just water a few bottles a day will cost $$ for your trip)

Honestly-maybe he prefers to babysit rather that drives you and doing both is too tiring for him? I am older and would be very hesitant to drive into a big city, myself.

DDP pays for snacks. We drink water, we arent picky where it comes from as long as the source is clean. We have tips planned.

He prefers cause BIL's wife will not allow FIL and MIL to see the niece otherwise.

 

[Octoberbabiesrus]

You know you got so fussy about the comments regarding paying for parking. If you do not have $50 in your life to pay for parking, what will you do if your child gets sick again? If you have to get a taxi to pick up meds? If you need a necessity from the onsite store? You walked away from a trailer loan, and then you plan an expensive vacation? trailer loan? huh? I've never owned a trailer. My insurance co. has a pharmacy. They overnight me stuff.

You only leave the house once every 2 weeks? Does that include your little boy too? That is the kind of thing that gives homeschoolers a bad rep that the rest of us have to deal with. (actually the only issue that really causes irritation to me. Maybe a small chill pill necessary.)

We go to church sunday, Wed he has Awana, and thurs is CO-op classes. We walk. Come summer we do things with our homeschool assoc. He also has summer camp. We school during the week otherwise. Where do we purpose we go? he gets PLENTY of socialization. Home schoolers have a bad rap cause non-homeschoolers pass judgement on something they know nothing of.
If you can't afford to lend money don't do it. If you can't afford to loan your property, don't do it. Unless of course your husband, his child, feels it necessary. Then your issue is with your husband.

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my response above in bold

 

[Allison]

my response above in bold

I think by trailer they meant mobile home.

 

[SaraJayne]

my response above in bold

She's referring to the mobile home (aka trailer) loan you defaulted on.

 

[kiddo76]

As for those telling me to stay home over $100. Seriously?! Were not talking the cost of a dis-cation.

No one's telling you to stay home over $100. What people are say is that if you have a TIGHT budget and NO wiggle room and an extra $100 puts you in a tizzy, perhaps it would be better to get your finances in order before going on vacation. Basic Budgeting 101.

She's referring to the mobile home (aka trailer) loan you defaulted on.

 

[Hannathy]

No one's telling you to stay home over $100. What people are say is that if you have a TIGHT budget and NO wiggle room and an extra $100 puts you in a tizzy, perhaps it would be better to get your finances in order before going on vacation. Basic Budgeting 101.

Yep if they have already defaulted on one loan and are taking a vacation when an extra $100 is a bigggg deal then yep I think Budgeting 101 is in order!

 

[Lewisc]

I must be missing something. At least for this thread I don't care how the OPs kids get schooled. I don't care if she lives in a mobile home. I don't even care if she defaulted on the loan.

I must be missing something. The OP said she'd fine a way to pay for parking. I thought the issue being discussed is if it's fair to expect a friend/family member to drive 2 hours, before the crack of dawn. If giving more then a months notice is sufficient if a family member changes his mind and/or decides the drive is too much.