DH's family (Brother 1, DS 14, DD12, DD8, Brother 2, wife, DS12, DS8, ) is planning a vacation to Mexico...they went 2 years ago, DH stayed here to cover at the family business, and then we went to florida for 3 weeks after...anywho.
They want to go in February, and this year, since the company has been sold, and everyone is in their own businesses which means technically we could all go together. Brother 3 has just had a baby- in October, and has no interest in going....
DH and I pride ourselves on our well-behaved children. now you've probaby read the post about them finding their santa gifts, but that was an accident. For instance, a few things come to mind that My children do differently from my BIL's....at a restaurant, my children act civil. They do not yell across the table, they do not speak rudely to the waiter, they do not play with their food etc...For comparision matters, here's a typical Thanksgiving day at DMIL's with the family.
My children- SITTING on the couch watching TV...
neices nephews sitting on the arms of the couch, leaning over the back of the chair....
My children...Mom may I be excused? proceed to bring plate out to the kitchen, scrape the plate and stack in sink.
neices nephews.... not sure when they left, but there plate still full of un-eaten food is sitting on the table.
If you were to be on vacation, my family is the ones you want in the room next to you. If you happen to be so unluckly to get DBIL's families, I'm sorry!....the kids will be running back and forth between rooms, slamming doors, laughing, yelling, jumping on beds etc.
It is VERY hard for my DD's to stay in control in an atmosphere like this. Again, my kids are not angels, however they do know right from wrong, and no better than to do most of what these older cousins of theres do.
I've gone round and round with DBIL's regarding this fact. They think I'm picking on their kids, however I'm truly embarrased by being out with these kids, even for just a dinner at Friendlys'. DBIL's believe that first they need to be their childs friend, and do not believe in "squashing their spirit"..
DH and I do not want to go on this vacation, and DH told DB1 that he would prefer not to, since the DD's will be experiencing Disney in April. It's not a financial thing, and DBILs know this, so we can't use that as an excuse. DH felt like saying "if your kids were so off the wall we might"...but thats not something we want to say. In respect to the kids, its really not their fault, this is how they were raised, with NO discipline, and no consequence for their actions...
I know they are going to bring it up again soon....we live 5 minutes from everyone so it's not like I can avoid the situation.
I was thinking of booking a mini-vacation to Texas to see my cousins new baby over the time they are planning Mexico...so I can use that for an excuse however I need a tactfull way to just say "NO, MY KIDS CANT HANDLE YOURS FOR THAT LONG!!!"...
Please help
Brandy
They want to go in February, and this year, since the company has been sold, and everyone is in their own businesses which means technically we could all go together. Brother 3 has just had a baby- in October, and has no interest in going....
DH and I pride ourselves on our well-behaved children. now you've probaby read the post about them finding their santa gifts, but that was an accident. For instance, a few things come to mind that My children do differently from my BIL's....at a restaurant, my children act civil. They do not yell across the table, they do not speak rudely to the waiter, they do not play with their food etc...For comparision matters, here's a typical Thanksgiving day at DMIL's with the family.
My children- SITTING on the couch watching TV...
neices nephews sitting on the arms of the couch, leaning over the back of the chair....
My children...Mom may I be excused? proceed to bring plate out to the kitchen, scrape the plate and stack in sink.
neices nephews.... not sure when they left, but there plate still full of un-eaten food is sitting on the table.
If you were to be on vacation, my family is the ones you want in the room next to you. If you happen to be so unluckly to get DBIL's families, I'm sorry!....the kids will be running back and forth between rooms, slamming doors, laughing, yelling, jumping on beds etc.
It is VERY hard for my DD's to stay in control in an atmosphere like this. Again, my kids are not angels, however they do know right from wrong, and no better than to do most of what these older cousins of theres do.
I've gone round and round with DBIL's regarding this fact. They think I'm picking on their kids, however I'm truly embarrased by being out with these kids, even for just a dinner at Friendlys'. DBIL's believe that first they need to be their childs friend, and do not believe in "squashing their spirit"..
DH and I do not want to go on this vacation, and DH told DB1 that he would prefer not to, since the DD's will be experiencing Disney in April. It's not a financial thing, and DBILs know this, so we can't use that as an excuse. DH felt like saying "if your kids were so off the wall we might"...but thats not something we want to say. In respect to the kids, its really not their fault, this is how they were raised, with NO discipline, and no consequence for their actions...
I know they are going to bring it up again soon....we live 5 minutes from everyone so it's not like I can avoid the situation.
I was thinking of booking a mini-vacation to Texas to see my cousins new baby over the time they are planning Mexico...so I can use that for an excuse however I need a tactfull way to just say "NO, MY KIDS CANT HANDLE YOURS FOR THAT LONG!!!"...
Please help
Brandy
