Family Photographs with an Ex “significant other”?

[Chuckers]

My optimal response would be... "You shouldn't worry about it.. that's the girl he was with then, notice that she didn't last.. he's not with her now.. he's with you now. However, if you keep acting like this, he'll probably be with someone else later."

 

[Christine]

My optimal response would be... "You shouldn't worry about it.. that's the girl he was with then, notice that she didn't last.. he's not with her now.. he's with you now. However, if you keep acting like this, he'll probably be with someone else later."

Oh, that's good.

 

[NHdisneylover]

I agree with (nearly) everyone else. It is silly to think that old photos cannot be displayed or posted, etc because not all the relationships in them are still in tact.

My optimal response would be... "You shouldn't worry about it.. that's the girl he was with then, notice that she didn't last.. he's not with her now.. he's with you now. However, if you keep acting like this, he'll probably be with someone else later."

I don't think I could bring myself to say this--but it is perfect

 

[TipsyTraveler]

Tell the new girlfriend to take comfort in knowing the family will continue to remember her by way of the old photos well after she's out of the picture, when it'll be some other woman complaining about having to look at her.

 

[Wishing on a star]

Two comments:

1. Not sure who's Facebook account or how/why they happen to dredge up photos from ten years ago. Unless there is any current relavance...

2. If your mother is not involved... Then why is somebody calling this poor woman and telling her off, and demanding that SHE make somebody else, do something???

Whatever photographs one personally has at home is up to them, and is nobody else's business.

Any photographs that are publicly posted on a board for all to see and comment on... who ever posts these personal photographs publicly better be prepared to accept/handle the reaction of those who see them. Can't have it both ways.... Once it is out there, publicly.. Sorry... Be careful what you ask for. Unless one is very very very good at keeping controls and keeping one's Facebook under lock and key... Well, it IS public.

Bottom line, if it involves you and your personal facebook account... then you can choose to handle your account as you wish.

If that is not the case, then stay out of it... Period.

The LAST thing I would do is personally engage in immature drama by contacting somebody and telling them to 'suck a lemon', or 'suck it up', or whatever.
No way, No how... Not the way to handle it.

 

[sk!mom]

Whoa chill. It doesnt bother me at all! Did i give the impression that it did? I was just curious. Thats all.

Seriously? You call someone out for not using punctuation and sarcastically ask "if the key is missing?" Then we she comes back and calmly explains that she's tired, you tell her to "chill."

Wow...

 

[rigs32]

After 6.5 years, my SO's mom was finally unable to exclude me from a group photo. Previously I was not welcome because we weren't married. Except other marriages have come and gone in the time we've been together.

I agree that such photos are a snapshot of the family at that time. And no, I'm not cleansing my fb photos if a couple breaks up.

 

[sk!mom]

My father loves to take pictures at family events. He has photographs from the 60’s to present of all of our extended family gatherings. A few of my cousins have objected to my mother having and displaying photographs that include their ex “significant other”…wives, husbands, girlfriends and/or boyfriends.

We have a very large family; my mother is the youngest of 9. Some of my cousins have literally confronted her and asked her to remove and or destroy the photograph. A new girlfriend of one of my male cousins just called my mother in a huff about some of the photographs I had posted on Facebook from 2004 that included a previous girlfriend. Seriously? He has had three wives and numerous girlfriends and I am NOT about to edit every single photograph with someone’s EX in it.

Am I way off base to tell her to go suck a lemon?

In their own home, I agree that they can display whatever special days and memories they choose regardless if the relationships lasted.

On Facebook, you shouldn't post photos of others that make them uncomfortable. To me, that's one of the negatives of FB. People post photos of others without their consent. Photos that sometimes those pictured would prefer to not have on the internet for whatever reason.

 

[Gumbo4x4]

I'd just say, "Don't you worry. 5 years from now when he's long since moved on to some new tramp, your face will be proudly displayed right here with alllllllll the others".














Or, maybe knowing that is what bothers her?

 

[Wishing on a star]

In their own home, I agree that they can display whatever special days and memories they choose regardless if the relationships lasted.

On Facebook, you shouldn't post photos of others that make them uncomfortable.

Yes, this.....

I can't imagine why it would be relevant to me and my Facebook page, or even okay, to publicly post a ten year old photo of a cousin with their ex....

 

[Robinrs]

Wow. If I wasn't allowed to post photos with exes in them, I'd never be able to post an old photo again. That would just be stupid.

Sorry... but that's just stupid. Everyone has a past. Grow up already.

LOL,

Between my niece, cousin, nephew and aunt there are FOURTEEN ex spouses!! We actually have a laughing GOOD time looking at the pictures.

That sounds so JUVENILE. Tell them to suck MORE than a lemon.

 

[2Kds2K9]

DH still has his wedding album from his first marriage. He has offered to get rid of it, but I told him he could keep it in a box in the closet. It's a part of his past and I made a vow to accept him completely, past and all. My MIL had 4 original DILs, all her sons are on their second marriage and until my MILs passing, there were a few pictures in the house of the first wives. Not any of us new DILs had an issue with it.

 

[aaarcher86]

I've posted 15 year old photos that I found at my moms for fun. There's some app people have that randomly pulls a photo posted on that particular day X amount or years ago. Maybe it's part of some kind of collage app. Who knows?

Either way, a GIRLFRIEND getting pissy about a FB photo with a precious girlfriend or wife is laughable. Calling the parent and actually complaining about it? Overstepping. A relationship with that much jealousy is doomed, so I'd just ride that one out.

Rest assured, if my brother in laws new girlfriend ever called up his mom or myself because I posted a throw back where he was with a previous girlfriend she'd be sorry she opened her mouth about it. Talk to me when your around longer than a blink, mmmkay?

 

[DebbieB]

My brother has been married & divorced twice. I still have photos of both weddings because they have relatives that have passed in them. Both my parents, my grandmother. I don't post them on facebook but have them out at home. I don't know how his current girlfriend would feel about it but she's 50 and hopefully mature.

 

[NewRVLady]

I am posting anAnniversary pic tomorrow on my Facebook

I am kind enough to crop pic to not show my Sister in law's ex, who was our best man ( and later a really louse)

 

[minkydog]

No, actually I said the parents should do whatever they wanted in their home. I said "personally" meaning what I do.
Period.

Yup, in their home and on their Facebook page. If the girlfriend doesn't like it she is free to not look at it.

 

[LBIJim]

Got any more photos of your cousin with his various wives and girlfriends? If so, post them after telling the current GF to go suck a lemon (or go suck something else).

As for the other family members, be more polite, but tell them it's none of their business what photos your mother wants to display in her own home.

Jim

 

[mom2rtk]

Where can we all donate more lemons for her to suck?

 

[Lynne M]

Where can we all donate more lemons for her to suck?

For pete's sake, the ridiculous jealousy. He chose HER. Not the old girlfriends. What the heck do old pictures matter?

I agree with the PP who said the relationship is doomed. Just ignore the tantrums, anyone that insecure and jealous isn't going to be around long anyway.

 

[Jeff in BigD]

I'd just say, "Don't you worry. 5 years from now when he's long since moved on to some new tramp, your face will be proudly displayed right here with alllllllll the others".

Or, maybe knowing that is what bothers her?

Yes & yes!